Everyone knows that the perception of the life of men and women is radically different.

Men perceive family relationships in their own, and women see it in their light.

And it seems that everything is fine. Life flows by its move, quietly and calmly until the trouble happens - the wife leaves the house. Initially, a man cannot understand what happened and why. Then slowly comes to himself, and does not know how to react to what is happening

7 Causes of care

If the wife left the house, then there were reasons for it. Before making some conclusions, find out true reasons Her care. Most likely, a woman called the reason why he no longer wants to stay in this house. If you analyze your conversations or scandals, you will certainly understand why she did this.

• Tired all pull on yourself.

It's no secret that in modern world On the fragile shoulders of the woman lies more worries than she can carry. Work, monitor the house, cook for a family and raise children - Nosa, unbearable for a beautiful floor. Woman created by fragile. And if she has to drag more laid, it can break. Women's fatigue develops in irritability and discontent. For some time she tolerates until he explored. Child this explosion is extremely difficult. Often, its action is irretrievable. If the edge of the patience of the woman came, considerable efforts will be required to take the broken.

• Lack of understanding.

A woman needs to communicate and understand the spouse.

If a man does not communicate with his beloved, then she begins to feel lonely, while some other man will not fill her soulful loss.

Women can not live without communication. Stupid men neglect by this, and wise - successfully enjoy.

• No help.

The worst thing for a woman is loneliness. If it begins to feel like this, then the search for an object is automatically turned on, which could fill the resulting hole. She is looking for a friend rather than a lover.

If you did not become another my wife, it will destroy your relationship.

The lack of help in household matters, participation in her life, the disinterest of her personality and hobbies - these are the reasons for which she decided to abandon relationships with you. The most interesting thing is that the man will be near, who fully gives it to her what she needs.

And then do not blame the other, because you could not or did not want to give it what she is worthy.

• Your wife does not feel that you love her.

When was the last time you gave her flowers? And did they make gifts or drove into a cinema? You will answer that all this did when they met with her. Before your first child appeared, and before the mortgage was drawn to the apartment.

For a woman there is no difference, you meet her week or married 10 years. She is still, as and 10 years ago, wants to feel his beloved and desirable.

How long have you said that you love her? Do you often spend time with her and children? Or are employed so much that time for sleep is missing? Having earned all the money of the world, you lose your family, if you do not give love and do not develop relationships.

Most families rushes due to the fact that there is absolutely no relationship between her husband and wife. They work, hurry, run, and occur closer to night. And there is no time to talk, because after a few hours to work again.

Determine priorities. If the wife is more important than work and relationship with it - the real value, it's time to change everything in your life.

• You have become other people's people.

This comes from the fact that you rarely have at home. Different interests, rare communication, various friends. Each spouse begins to line up his life, independent of the other. And in the end you begin to feel others.

• No good sex.

If you think that sex is important for men, and women don't care, you are mistaken.

The reason for 50% of divorces is the absence of sex.

Women need to satisfy physical needs as well as men. And sometimes, the appetites of women are difficult to quench, and it begins to seek satisfaction on the side.

Remember golden Rule: Satisfied woman - happy woman.

You must always work on the item:

Often, men sit at home and sleep until lunch, while their married women are running on two works. No matter how the men did not deny, but they are the breadmen and hunters. In the time of primitive, the women sat in the caves, and engaged in children while their husbands hunted and brought food. If the partners change social roles, there is a change in relationships. A woman stops depending on the man and tries to dominate, in every way showing his superiority. This negatively affects family relationships.

How to take this fact

Sometimes a man never thinks that the wife can ever leave such a "ideal" man and leave in another direction. But if this happened, accept this fact. Not the time to go out of myself and smash furniture in the house. Stop and calm down.

The rampant deeds will exacerbate your relationship, and the planned methods on the return of the wife will give you a chance to restore the family.

The first thing you need to decide for yourself, are you ready to fight for my wife? There are considerable efforts to return the woman with whom you lived in marriage.

Decision to change your life

To return your favorite woman, first of all, you need to admit that it was not right.

The awareness of their guilt will help forget about the resentment and pride. It sabs and make you think: "What did I do wrong?".

If the wife left you, then it does not suit how things are. Only changed and realizing the mistakes, you can return it.

And if you still think that in all right, and all the "sins of the world" should lie on her head, change, unfortunately, you will not succeed. The decision to change your life is the first key to family recovery.

How to find an approach to a woman

• A woman wants to feel all the time in the spotlight. And there is no difference, she is 10 years old or 50, she is still a woman. Inside each lady sits a princess that requires attention and adoration. Only so woman feels truly happy.
• Each of the representatives of weak gender needs communication. It is like air. If a woman is deprived of communication, she will begin to go out every day, and you will not have time to blink, as she will collect her things and move towards her mother.
• Women are conflicting nature. If a man is quite successive and straightforward, possessing basically logical thinking, then there is no rules for thinking and behavior of women. The rules it comes up with the move, depending on the mood and condition of the soul. A woman can say "no", which does not always mean "no", but rather "yes" or "don't know." Then change your mind, offended by the fact that you do not understand her from half off and talk again.

Sometimes men take their heads from what women do not understand. They can not imagine what is happening in this little head, and what the sequence of her thoughts. This understanding will help you do not in the head of a woman and pay attention to non-verbal gestures (smile, glances, facial people).

How to return your loved one

If you love your wife and are ready to go to everything to be again with you, first of all, forget about pride. This trait is not useful to you.

• Accept her decision to leave. And it does not matter that you disagree with her, and you think differently. When you respect her opinion, you give her the opportunity to feel independent. At this point, she will be able to objectively assess the situation.
• Forget about the insulted and unpleasant words that the wife said in your address. Mutual accusations do not decide the case, but only aggravate the situation. Harmony often prevents soberly thinking, and the self-sufficiency is triggered. Now not the time to regret yourself, time to act.
• Let her understand that you are the best man on the planet.If you return faith in yourself as in a man, she will be with you again.

The basis of a happy relationship with a woman is her faith in what she is with the best man.

• Forget about reproach, whining and threats. These are the enemies number one.
• Do not leave a woman for a long time. Sometimes men think that a woman needs to give a month to think that she realize that he made a mistake, and now ready to return. So think men. As for women, the situation here is directly opposite - do not leave a woman for a long time. During this time, she will marry alone even more and decides in his little head such that it will be much more difficult to unrest than to twist the ocean. Try to be near, show your wife that she can count on you at any time.
• Acts, and again a deed. A woman assesses a man not according to, but on affairs. Often it is waiting for some unpredictable actions from the man. Something that will turn its world and ideas about the husband with legs. Remember youth, and send her a huge bouquet of flowers by courier mail. Or bring a huge teddy bear to her door. Shlit letters, throwing multicolored envelopes in the mailbox. It is the mailbox, and not SMS or messages in Viber. She is waiting for actions that will cost for you effort, money and time.

Simple, banal SMS: "Return, I will still forgive" and "love you" may not bring the desired result. And if you buy a expensive dress about which she dreamed of, climbing the third floor on the balcony with an oakhaw flowers and balls, or buy a ticket to exotic countries for her and a child, such an act will appreciate.

You yourself know about the unfulfilled dreams of your wife and its preferences. Perform her cherished dream, and you will see how her heart will begin to melt.

Conclusion

Conclusion

If love is still burning in your heart, and your wife is the very half, without which you do not imagine your life, it is worth "rolling the sleeves" and prove your love to her. Not as you do it usually. Show patience and tenderness to a woman whose heart once you have already won. While there is still love, there is a chance to return your loved one.

Our expert talks about the strange trend of recent years and persuades women do not break the old relationship for the sake of new sensations.

Why women go from good husbands? Photo: Lori.ru.

"Of course, your husband has its drawbacks! If he were holy, he would never marry you, "Dale Carnegie said. I really like this carnegie saying, because women who are unhappy in marriage most often place all the blame for it on a man and very rarely see their shortcomings. But if you, dear ladies, at least once, at least mentally, change with your half roles, I assure you, many words and actions of your husbands will become absolutely understandable.
This article prompted to write amazing fact. Recently, wives have come to me at the reception, which have good husbands: caring loving, patient, but ... it became terribly boring with them. Sex is familiar, the relationship is smooth, and so lacks sharpness, raisins, passion, and here he is converted. Young or not very, with an apartment or without, educated or working, it does not matter. The main thing is that he is new! Like a dress, bag, shoes ... Dress up differently, says, smells ... and sex with him is also an unusual, bright, not coming in any comparison with the couple ... And what is it noble, honest, etc. - the list can be continued infinitely . Each woman in love will always find what to admire.

One of my client, describing the nature of my lover, said with pleasure: "My God, what is it harmful! He all makes me called! He does everything on the contrary! ". And at the same time I listened and wondered what are you waiting for? If now, on the edge of the relationship, he, what will it be then, when will the novelty of the senses be held, the problems will take, will the problems? But in the rush of your feelings, we do not think about it! It seems to us that now I finally came true love, which means it will be eternal, and ahead is only joy and happiness. And in pursuit of this, we destroy everything on the way, without thinking, overlooking the family, children, parents. And what then?

I can not remember one amazing case. A woman came to the reception to me 38 years old. It is quite interesting, confident in yourself, but at the same time with a completely discharged psyche. Responding to any question, she immediately began to cry. In the end, the next picture was drawn. She has a husband. Good, reliable, loving. But at work she met another man, younger for 15 years. A stormy romance has fallen. My client was ready to destroy the family and go to his beloved. But here it happened unexpected. Young man on nervous soil lost speech. She began to carry it in doctors, buy medicines, pay for treatment. But doctors of consolation predictions were not given. It is in a state of complete confusion, fear and insecurity to me and this woman came. She was ready to quit her husband and turn into a nurse for a man younger than herself for 15 years, without education, without work, without housing. What do you think about the development of this novel? You can, of course, assume that love is creating wonders. The young man cured, graduated from the institute, found a job and was always grateful to his savior and loved her the rest of his life ... But it could be completely different. We reviewed different variants, But the choice still remained behind my client, and I sincerely wish her a fatal mistake.

In our country, about 70% of divorces occurs on the initiative of women. But at the same time not all the re-married. Of course, if the husband is a drug addict, a sadist or an alcoholic, then the question of divorce is not even worth it. It should be a solid and unambiguous solution. Otherwise, your life will turn into a series of nightmarish events that always end tragically. And the opinion of the lovers of women about what they will save their beloved from some detrimental habits, deeply mistakenly. You either acquire the same habits or eternal struggle to waste your strength, youth, health. Is there a big fee? Therefore, today we are talking about why women leave good husbands, not wanting to keep marriage.

According to statistics, women who have good work and salary are most often served for divorce. But in order to have a good job and high salary, such a woman should not bother to build their careers, often to the detriment of the family. And good husbands, in favor of their halves, make up with it, or hammering all home care and raising children, or hiring nannies and housekeepers. Family roles are shifted. The wife becomes a getter, taking over all the communist functions, and the husband slowly gives the position and ... finally loses his beloved. In her eyes he is a weakl, loser and rookha. But isn't the woman herself created such a family model with her hands?

She got used to earn, make decisions, be self. So, lonely. Because the family is a partnership, this is a team game, and there are no bosses and subordinates. But how difficult it is at home a successful businesswoman to become a loving, caring woman. So surprise others: both beautiful, and smart, and rich, and one. And what else do you need guys? And men needed to be near good man. Pinkish, soulful, sincere. After all, you live with a model, the head or queen of beauty, namely, with a man. But women in pursuit of their values \u200b\u200blose the most expensive family. And now at work a pretty colleague appeared. The first glances, smiles, again as a heart beats in youth, and when the kisses are remembered, the head is spinning and sweetly freezes inside. And now the old husband begins to simply infect. Socks, scattered around the apartment, a loud conversation on the phone, the habit of not omitting the chairs toilet - everything causes irritation and discontent. And the more we are angry with your husband, the more points they gain our new chosen one. "I can't see how he eats, chews, breathe how constantly looking for the keys from the car ..." - I hear these words at the receptions regularly. But do you have a guarantee that, breaking the family and leaving your husband, will you find your happiness? After all, everything will be the same soon. Interest in the adorable object will gradually weaken, get out and his bad habits, Often more nasty than the old husband, he moves to your apartment, problems with children will arise ... then the sake of what a spear broke?

There is another option if the woman goes to a richer and successful than ex-husband. But she does not even suspect that she is waiting. Here with the distribution of roles everything is clearly. And he already makes decisions where to live with whom to be friends, where to go to rest - on the simple foundation that he is a man who contains a woman. Is independent lady ready to change your character so quickly? Not sure.
Then is it worth it all for the sake of obscure prospects and dubious pleasures? Is the one for whom you got married, so hopeless? After all, you once loved him, dreamed of a family, hoped for happiness. What has changed? Do not blame all your husband, admit to honestly, what did you do wrong, what are your mistakes? And try to save your marriage. On horseback is not only your further well-being, calm, confidence in tomorrow, but the most important thing is your children who will be happy with the fact that in their childhood Mom and Dad were near.

What to do for this? Tips simple:

1. Think and honestly admit that you acquire, destroying the family, and what losing. Take a sheet of paper and write all the pros and "minuses". I assure you a lot of things.

2. Try to start with yourself in restoring relationships with your husband - Start with a simple smile. Nothing needs to be done - just smile more often, and you will see what the strength of the smile.

3. Give your husband again to feel like a man. Let at least something will be as he wants. Try - sometimes weak to be so nice.

4. Try not to correct your half. The occupation is nervous and unpromising.

5. Take the final decision only after it understood that your marriage is impossible to save.

I sincerely hope that, maybe this article will help to keep the marriage, and I wish all women not to be lonely and remember: "That family, where women are burning. Always flourishes the family where they are happy. "

Yesterday, such a favorite and native, today she is already with another. Why is this happening? The woman consciously married, that is, she tied her life with yours, she had ever had yours. But today, the cruel reality killed her love, took her care and devotion and handed over to another man. This is life, you will say, maybe not? Maybe it is you? Let's figure it out why wives leave

Causes of wife's care

1. Values. Admit to themselves honestly, did she really have been such a beloved and native for you? Yes, of course, yes! And often did you demonstrate it to her? Maybe in the soul you always knew it and felt, but in fact showed quite another. It's no secret to anyone that over the years, we cease to appreciate what is important to us. It is always with us, and we love to appreciate only when we lose. Every woman is wounded and, at the same time, a very strong person who wants not only to guess, but also to see that someone needs her, and when she doesn't notice this long time, she is able to quit and collect things . Understand her, she is probably completely confident that you have robbed it for a long time ago.
2. Time. And how much time did you give her? Of course, work is a job, but often a man spend their free time to spend on their friends, not a family. Over time, the problem arises, because the wife left the house no longer to be alone.
3. Drunkenness. Too often, families disintegrate because of the harmful habit of her husband, due to its addiction to alcohol. As a woman to cope with the addiction of the head of the family, if in such a state it is almost all the time, and without controlling his actions, can get off on it, treat disrespectful, and even lift your hand? Everything that happens sees the child, and the wife, above all, the mother, she can squeeze some personal resentment, but she will close their breasts from any adversity. Wife gone with a child? In such a situation, it is not surprising.
4. Treason, betrayal. No less common cause of care. Even after that, some men are not clear why the wife left the family. Perhaps you believe that sex with another woman is a natural, physiological process for any man, but no, it is a stupid excuse for his weakness. Women consider treason with real betrayal. On the day of the wedding you promised her loyalty, and men should keep their word.
5. Sex life. People get married when they have love. And love, no matter how sounding it, does not exist without sex. When people arrange each other in Initima's plan, they are ready to connect their destinies, because sex is an important component of our life. Perhaps something has changed in your sex life. If your wife gone to the lover, think, maybe you stopped laying it out in this regard? Maybe lately you did something wrong? This reason is not so often found, but still some married couples parting precisely therefore. They are disappointed in their partner and try to find him a worthy replacement.
6. Unwillingness to have children. Every woman was born to give someone new life. The woman wants to become a mother, but a man is afraid of this, in his eyes it is an exorbitant responsibility for another person. The wife can accept many, but if you do not give her the opportunity to feel like a mother, she will not forgive this.

Wife gone: how to return

1. Values. Do not wait until she leaves, show her what she needs you today, now. Woman will not tolerate for a long time if it is taken as proper. If she is already gone, make such an act that will tell her that it is your greatest value.
2. Time. Pay her more time. She misses you when you are at work, show her that also toggave, do not run into your only weekend to friends, or take it with you. If she left you, call and invite it on a date. Hold her all day. To be sure that she will accurately agree with you, arrange, in accuracy, resembling your first meeting. She will be interested and she just will not be able to refuse.
3. Drunkenness. Decide that it is more important for you - personal family well-being or a glass of vodka? The choice is only for you!
4. Treason, betrayal. In this case, return it will not be so easy. If she forgive you - she is the most kind woman on the ground. To do this, you will have literally "out of the skin to climb", or even more.
5. Sex life. Turn on the fantasy, surprise her, give her pleasure. Do not allow your wife to leave the lover due to the fact that you are not satisfied with it in a sexy plan.
6. Unwillingness to have children. She left, because you were afraid to make a child? Then we stick all the "for" and "against" if you really love it, then you just can't not want children from her. Explain to her what you were afraid, she will understand you.

Now you know why wives go from husbands in the most common cases. We wish you not to fall into such situations and live in harmony with your half.

Every year, psychologists increasingly state cases of change, care from men from women. If in the old days, the adulter man was almost the norm, now they almost caught up with a weak half of humanity. Why does this happen and why a woman leaves the family? Was the women just now began to notice the infidelity of their spouses, their bad behavior, the instability of the situation?

Or maybe it's in hormonal changes in the female body? Or modern trends have so negatively affect the feminine psyche that it simply says "scribes the tower" and she rushes into the tangle of mercy and sweet entertainment? Everything, as it turned out, is not so easy.

Causes of wife's care

So that we speak about statistical institutions, it is still a useful case. For example, how did we learn about the threatening digit of 70%? But it is precisely such a number of women becomes the initiator of the marriage process. And the cause of this is infidelity, bad behavior of the spouse. And after all there are no talk about the fact that the ladies began to change more often. The increasing number of departures from the family of her female half is rather not the result of an adulter woman, but accumulated insults, anger, loss of trust, etc. To find out the root of the problem, you need to go deep into the process of relationship between a man and a woman.

Peach and strong nut

Experienced psychology specialists gave two opposite fields His nicknames. A woman is a peach, and a man is a strong nut. It is attractive, gentle, it should be hard and strong. It is worthpressing a delicious fruit with a finger, he immediately succumbes and remains a hollow. The same with women. They are flexible, flexible, but as for her climb, this is a real peach bone - firm, stubborn. And if her partner in life possesses the mind, he will under the power to conquer her temper, out of the pulp of peach what he wants. So forms a happy family life.

Decreased wisdom or at least an understanding of the female nature, representatives of strong sexes risk stumble upon the inner rod of the ladies, that is, on its bone. And it is not amenable to me as flesh, and about her solid shell easily break his teeth. What does all this say? The woman agrees on a lot, she will succumb to what a man wants will be helpful, tender and affectionate. But for the time being. If he erupts "stick" and will be too frowning to put on her psyche - will receive in response such a passing that it will not seem little. And the most soft in this is her care. Believe me if it came to this, you really walked very much. Next will be a conversation only about divorce.

So, that the family ship does not deal with the iceberg misunderstanding, distrust and other problems, we suggest carefully examine that it forces a woman to refuse relationships with a loved one.

Why women are fed to divorce

Consider the main number of reasons for force the ladies to leave the walls of the native home and your beloved husband. If you look closely to them, a man is not always the culprit of the problem. Much can be wounded in the psyche of the spouse.

She was not ready for family relationships. Yes, such a reason is found in our time quite often. Girls are growing spoiled, capricious mama and palpal daughters. And no matter how my husband tried to please her, anyway something is wrong. Of course! If earlier it was brought to her on a silent with a blue car, now everyone has to do.

It used to be about 40-50 years ago in children raised feelings and manners inherent in true boys and girls. Mom taught sewing, cook, pick up, washing, ironed, etc. And the future men mastered the crafts with the help of the head of the family, helped parents on the farm, and to his youth already knew how to score nails, repair irons, dig a vegetable garden, etc.

What now? They fell in love, decided to get married and turn out to be one on one with family problems. She does not know how to cook, he is not able to endure the garbage - for him it did a mammy or daddy. But now we are talking about the female half of the family. As soon as the moment comes for cooking, washing and ironing, it is lost, quickly gets tired and even worse does not know which side to approach the kitchen stove. In the first time, of course, comes a compassional mammy or grandmother and does everything for her. But these women cannot completely replace the functions of a young woman. As a result, disappointment, hysterics and flight back to the parental wings.

The spoiled boy grew up, his spouse. Young husbands are able to greatly "garbage" on a new car, skillfully cope with the iPhones, smartphones, computers playing well in shooters. But all this is entertainment, but how to be with homemade household? It is worth her to ask the spouse to nail a nail, bring garbage, help with the cleaning of the apartment - he will immediately begin to be resentment. Would still, can someone dare to demand from it to perform some duties. "My mother gave birth to work ..." - the frequent saying of young husbands. Next - rudeness goes, open insult, shouts, tears. I wonder how much a young wife withstands, no matter how good it is ready for family life. The prospect of becoming the slave of the spoiled, Hama and Egoist is not pleased with any woman. The result - she leaves, slamming the door loudly.

What to do?No one argues with the fact that in the life of each young family there should be romanticism. Despite the fact that most of the modern newlyweds are poorly prepared for family life, still a certain part is managed to preserve relations. According to statistics, approximately 50% of divorces occurs in the first year of living together. Another 33% - on the second and 33 for the third years of marriage. In order not to happen this, you need to patience and work on relationships - every day, hour, minute. Hope for a long and happy life is in families who were able to survive the crisis 3 and 5 years of joint existence.

Alcoholism. This factor is perhaps the most common. You can also add modern Beach for youth - addiction, gamery, etc. All types of dependence are a serious obstacle to creating a strong family. If the woman is ready to put up and tolerate dependent on the harmful habit of her husband, with the time of her patience comes an end.

Take as an example the most common psychological ailment -. It all begins with the fact that he "reloches" with a spirits at a party from friends. Then, he will come from work with a peer. Well, it seemed that there was such a bottle after work, on a hot day. Further worse - the number of alcohol consumed increases, and degrees grow on the scale. It makes no sense to deal with his dependence at this moment.

Firstly, an alcoholic never recognizes his problem. Secondly, if it turns out to persuade him - only an experienced narcologist can cope with this. But while the case did not reach the awareness of dependence - the woman gets tired of relationships with Alkash and leaves. And correctly does! Not only that life with him is hell, so also offspring can have serious health problems. If they are born strong without mental abnormalities, looking all his life on a drinking father, they can take his habits and become the same losers. Observe the situation can only care and failure to communicate with a sick person.

He has a mistress. Representatives of strong sex polygamans and this is not a secret for any of us. Quite often they are good "arrange." Having a constant spare girlfriend, they marry on the other, but do not even think to tear the previous relationships. So lasts for years life on the "two" family. It happens that about the presence of the second "wife", the legitimate spouse will find out after many years or in general remains in ignorance. But most women after disclosure such secrets go away from her husband. And you can understand them. Lost trust, it makes no sense to continue to love the person who betrayed you. And who will give a guarantee that he will not do that in the future. Men generous on oaths and promises, but very often do not restrain their words. Single way out - care.

Male Childfrey. Yes, there is a flow with this title, but it relates more to modern women. Egoistic natures do not want to burden themselves with offspring, messing with diapers, swaps, do not sleep at night, while the baby will grow. Unfortunately, among this type of modern people there are men. They marry, but they want to live only for themselves. And we are not talking about to wait with the birth of offspring. They do not want to become fathers at all.

And for a normal woman, it is nonsense - do not give birth to a child. She does not see the future and the meaning of life is simply dissolved. Why does she have such a husband? Quite often, when she still collapses to become pregnant, hears his address - "You have not coordinated it with me!" "You knew that I am against!", "This is a sealing setup!", "You betray me!" etc. There is a feeling that it is not him, but she is a selfish and capricious nature that made something terrible. The only correct solution that deserves applause is the care of such a height. Let him live for himself, enough to please him!

The spouse was completely indifferent. Here we are not talking about the fact that he is not an interesting spouse as a woman, although it is important. A man refuses to communicate and educate children, perform ordinary male responsibilities, work. A woman has to literally pull the whole family, she will prepare, and removes, and the money will work, and with children will make lessons and carpets will choose, and the plinth will come up, etc. The moment comes when it is simply not in a state not only morally, but also to physically do all the work for yourself and the spouse.

Became Ham.It was gone by romantic surprises, compliments, courtship. He turned into a coarse person, who also insults his wife, shouting at her, humiliates with friends and relatives. Over time, such behavior will turn into open violence, so it is not to be surprised that Grubian, also raised his hand to his wife. What to do? No need to wait for the moment of beatings, go immediately after insulting and humiliation. Normal, respecting himself a woman will not tolerate such a relationship and leaves loudly slamming the door. It would be nice for the beatings also a statement to the police.

He cooled. Over the years, the former feelings and passions cool down a bit. There is a concept of "Agape". Initially, it meant love for the Lord or man for his moral qualities. There is also another decoding of the word - attachment that arose against the background of great love. Maybe love and moved to the side, but there remains the strongest attraction, affection. But there are families in which the main human feeling is simply dissolved, emptiness remains. It is often completely fastened to his spouse that once loved and appreciated her spouse. In relations there is a vacuum, misunderstanding, lost confidence. Husband with his wife is constantly quarreling, screaming, humiliate and insult.

And the woman needs an understanding, caress, the same love. She should feel beloved and necessary. When these important components are not in family life - she leaves and looking for someone who sees a woman in it.

We carefully studied the moments, because of which there is a risk of wife's care from the spouse. Of course, there are still a mass of factors affecting the behavior of a woman, but the most common cases described. In any case, men need to go deep into this subject and find out what cannot be done in order to preserve the family and harmonious relationship with his wife. We offer to explore the recommendations of psychologists on how to keep your favorite and not give her reasons for doubt in your sincerity.

How to keep your beloved wife

Immediately it is worth noting that if the woman decided to do something, it makes no sense to stop it. The same applies to the care of her husband, divorce. It is quite rare to convince a loved one, and for this you need good arguments, promises. Therefore, it is necessary to work with relationships to build harmony in the house, as long as, as they say, "the rooster did not peck ...". After all, it is necessary to understand what a decision, how care from the spouse, the division of family relations does not occur in an instant. Unlike men, women weighed their actions for a long time. And they are solved on the extreme step once and for all. Someone will objected that, they say, you can again promise "in three boxes" and she will again believe, will remain. Here and lies a big mistake.

If she returned, he also pretended to do. In fact, did not think, but just scared. Believe me, it will decide to do it seriously, do not hold, no matter how hard they tried, no matter how you change to promise.

In the event that the man decided to leave a pissing, capricious, spoiled, walking, rushing, in general, a negative person - release and breathe with relief. Remember the saying - "My wife went to my to the best friend - It is not known who of us is more lucky! ". Let them go and spoils the life to another, and you relax, relax and think about whether it is worth it to come across again on the bait of this type of women. According to the statements of psychologists, that men that women in life stretch to the same type of people. So be careful and cautious, change your tastes.

How to keep your spouse from breaking relationships

So, we will use the recommendations of experienced psychologists in the recovery of relations with your beloved wife. Yes, we already know that I decided to leave my wife do not stop. But maybe it is possible to make it decided to stop myself, I changed my mind to leave. What to do?

1. Remember - how she loved you. Be someone who pleased her, become gentle. Relieve the negative "thighs", which covered in a period of living. Refuse the detrimental habits, because they harm not only family relationships, but also your health. Stant again, thereby active, fascinating, extraordinary and cute man, on which your spouse looked with tenderness and love. For example, throw smoking, refuse to consume alcoholic beverages, enough to lie on the sofa and wait for the "manna of the celestial", make it easier to work.
2. Return her trust. Psychologists in one voice will tell you that no woman will endure a deception. If there is distrust of a man, no matter how she loved him - to live with him will not. Moreover, it should not just trust, but to trust, that is, to fully rely on the head of the family she chose according to certain parameters.
3. Stay a man. Relaxing against the backdrop of warm family life, men often launch themselves. They correctly cease to follow their appearance, allow themselves to be rude, insults, cease to pay attention to the once beloved wife. Feeling his unnecessarity, she will immediately begin to "rotate heads" for all 360 degrees. For what? Looking for the one who will appreciate it will make it nice, will come to a meeting dressed "with the needle", with the stunning aroma of French cologne.
4. Be decisive. Clean the obligations, be the head of the family, make decisions. You are protection for your favorite households, and for her strong and reliable shoulder. Only with such a man feels safety, and not only its own, but also children.
5. Be a loving father. Cut the time with children, arrange for your favorite surprises, gifts, pool and encourage home - and she will never think about changing the owner of the house.

To return the confidence and women's love - no need to. It is enough to show a little more care, participation, talking warm words, make compliments, create small joy and everything will be fine. How to start? Yes, everything is very simple.

1. First, take for a habit every day after work to travel to the market and purchase required products. If you do not know what - call her and specify.
2. Secondly - at least once a week, buy on one rose and give it to your wife. Small, but very important item will create wonders with her mood.
3. Thirdly - let's give her a breather in homework. Let it even once every three or four months recover on vacation, will visit the spa. As a last resort, take away the children from the house and go to the rink, and the spouse at that moment just gets cold.

You can continue to list the steps of the rented spouse designed to strengthen family relationships. But it seems to us that men themselves know, in what many moments they should change at least a little bit. Believe me, the woman does not miss any detail, even the slightest one. And if she notes that family values \u200b\u200bare important for the spouse, and she is still loved, family life will receive a second breath. She will revise their decisions, thinks, and whether it is worth tearing so radically strong bonds and maybe not all lost? It is important not to stop improving your behavior to a loving spouse. His effort, let them not always be successful will be appreciated and the woman will all forgive!

Women's treason - the phenomenon is very common. In our society it is believed that his wives change much less often than husbands. But we will not forget that men tend to exaggerate their victories, and women are to be understood.

Many women, having changed their second halves, carefully hide this fact, as they do not intend to divorce and tear a family. In order to understand why the wife changes, but does not leave the family, it is necessary to find out the causes of such behavior. And only by defining the "root of the problem", you can begin to solve and normalize family relations.

The main causes of women's change

The nature of female change is quite multifaceted. It is more difficult and dramatically different from male. Here, the "instincts" play a completely insignificant role, and the lack of self-realization, attention, dissatisfaction of moral and physical desires. In most cases, the cause of such a woman's behavior is a husband.

You can highlight a number of reasons why the wife changes, but does not leave the family

1. Indifference.

   Over time, women becomes a shame that their husbands do not pay them due attention. The fact is that a man is a hunter for his nature. It is important for him to conquer the girl, catch her in his networks and seek location. But after the conclusion of marriage, most often, children appear. And at that moment a man begins to look at his wife with different eyes. Often he loses interest to her and ceases to notice his spouse. The wife has a feeling that she is no longer interesting to her husband, and from once a sexy and attractive girl she began for her husband - just his child's mother. Woman perfectly feels indifference. And at that moment another man appears on the horizon, which finds common topics for conversations, manifests interest in her family issues, discrepanses her plans for life. That's the first reason why wives change husbands - women need emotional connection with a man.

   Why doesn't she leave? The reason is all the same: children, family, husband as such. It is often explained by the phrase: "Well, where I leave him." And really, where? It is possible that she still loves him, glad to see, even plans a joint future, but with one nuance - emotions and attention is needed, and not the essence, where she takes them.

   Board husbands: Read more attention to your second halves. Enough to live according to the scheme: "Flowers - on March 8, perfume - for a birthday, certificate - on new Year". Listen to her, poisoning her, spend time together.

2. Family problems.

   Women agreeing to marry, assume that their husbands will solve financial and domestic issues. And in reality, the situation develops in a completely different way, which leads to a constant, protracted conflict. Do not blame in all sins of men. If there are problems in the family, then the fault lies on both spouses. But, to a greater degree to the spouse. He becomes the head of the family and must take on the solution of many complex tasks. In real life, it is on women's shoulders that the decision of all household problems lie. And if a man cannot or does not want to cope with his duties, a woman begins to look for him a replacement. This is another reason why wives change their husbands.

   What is the point of preserving a family in this case? The changed wife decides to remain his wife, because it was already accustomed to such a model of life, she knows how to "drag everything on themselves," sometimes even regrets her husband or feels his duty to stay with him, fearing to quit in a difficult life.

   Board husbands: phrase: "Your problems, herself and decide" can lead to deposits. Some options that a woman chooses to solve their problems will be little delight of men. Therefore, never refuse to help your wives and keep them in every way. And if you can't solve some problem at the moment, then you need to tell my wife in detail about your experiences and ask her a little wait. At a minimum, demonstrate your spouse interest and constant desire to help.

3. Dissatisfaction with sexual life.

   The view that sex is only interested in men, deeply mistakenly. Intimate intimate with your partner also needed to women, as well as their second halves. In women after 30 years, the period of the greatest sexual activity comes, so on the basis of proximity once a few months is strengthened (and often implemented) Women's desire to change her husband.

   The decision to stay with my husband is most often due to love and. There is a clear internal distinction between family and sex life. Sometimes, flirting, women begin to deny the fact of treason, explaining this by the physical needs that the husband cannot satisfy.

   Board husbands: Not only women should look for options, how to satisfy their men, diversify sexy lifeWhat to make a new one. Men should also think about how they can make a woman happier, and intimate relationships are more interesting.

4. Unreasonable jealousy.

   Obsessive thoughts are materialized. This applies to any regions of human life. For example, if a husband constantly unreasonably suspects his spouse in treason, most likely, she will change him over time. This will happen because of the resentment and offended dignity. Then you can look for a long time to seek the answer to the question why my favorite wife has changed, or vice versa, with annoying flavor to admit that he was right ("I knew that"). Only, perhaps, and a man is involved in treason of his wife in this case?

   Women do not change "called." But you can push it to treason. Often, after progress, a woman remains in the family because of the elementary reluctance to change something in life. There is a husband, there is a lover - everything suits her. And the fact that the husband is informed - so he wanted it himself!

   Board husbands: Try to trust your second half and respecting her personal life. Even if she is constantly surrounded by men, it does not mean at all that it will certainly begin to change with them. Change the wife or not, it does not depend on whether the husband will be jealous and check every step. It is important to understand: wants - it will change, under any sighting control, it is neither.

5. The monotony is able to destroy even the strongest relationships.

   At the beginning of relations, men are beautifully careful for their chosenses. They come up with a lot of entertainment to surprise the companion, conquer her. But after the wedding, men calmed down, and the signs of attention become monotonous and predictable. Days smoothly flow into monotonous and boring years. As a result, women begin to think about how to make their lives more interesting. And if the initiative does not come from her husband, then why not accept the offer from an interesting cavalier?
   
   The reasons to stay in the family in this case are two: love and habit for years. Such a woman lives the former warm memories and common family plans for the future. In the present she "just gets new emotions."

   Council of men: If you think why the wife changes, but does not leave you, analyze your collaborative life. Make some unpredictability into your relationship. Try come home from working with flowers, or offer today not to cook dinner, but go to the restaurant. Do not turn your life in a dull swamp.

No matter how strong and self-sufficient woman was, it will subconsciously expect attention, care and support from a man. And if you are also romantic and unpredictable, she and thoughts will not appear. Because ... why?

How do women treat treason?

Many wives change their husbands, but absolutely not ready to divorce them. They simply succumb to the momentary weakness, which is a sip of fresh air for them. To the question why the changed wife does not leave the husband, you can give a few answers:

1. She still loves her spouse.
2. The family has children or joint property that binds a couple.

In any case, a man who learned about the infidelity of his spouse should first calm down, find the causes of female treason and try to understand why the changed wife does not leave him. If the reason is in love, that is, it makes sense in an attempt to forgive such a spouse. If the reason is only in children or in the apartment (joint mortgage, public opinion, material and moral convenience), then the marriage does not make sense.

Why did the beloved wife changed, if you did everything for her, you can during a frank conversation with your second half. Try not only to listen to what she tells you, but also to understand her words (without psychos, frank accusations, condemnation, and even more than manual attribution). Some logical conclusions about the cause of treason can be made by non-verbal signs. See how she behaves, follow her gestures, faithful, pose during a conversation. All accepted decisions about divorce or preserving families should be carefully thought out. After conversation with the change, take a few days at thought and distance from it. Such behavior will make it worthily to get out of the unpleasant situation to both partners.