For many people, a funeral, especially if a loved one has died, causes a lot of dubious emotions, such as fear and anxiety. It is not surprising, since there is something mysterious and supernatural in the sacrament of farewell to the deceased. The stories of the elderly that one wrong action can lead to the wanderings of the soul of the deceased or to troubles with the living do not give peace and confidence in such a matter.
Nobody knows how it really is, but how to say goodbye to a deceased person at a funeral is necessary, since death is an integral part of life and everyone will have a day when he will lose someone.
How to say goodbye to the deceased at a funeral
All over the world, when a person leaves this world, there is a special ceremony of farewell to him. Thus, the living show respect for the departed. Each nation has its own burial rites, which can differ significantly from each other. But one moment still unites - during the funeral, relatives, friends and acquaintances come to say goodbye to the deceased.
Ikebana on the coffin
In addition, the funeral reminds everyone that there are no immortal people and this fate awaits everyone, which forces many to rethink their views on their existence. The funeral rite also serves as a kind of parting words and a reminder to the living that they should not waste it.
The Orthodox faith considers the process of death as a transition to life in the Kingdom of Heaven. For this, the dying person needs to prepare. So, the farewell ceremony consists of the following stages:
- According to the canons of the Orthodox Church, a rite of unction must be performed before death.
- A dying person must confess so that his sins will be forgiven.
- After confession, the priest gives communion to his parishioner on his deathbed.
- Parting words before death. Prayers can be read by both a priest and a relative or close friend.
- When a person has died, you need to wash with water, after which they wipe them off, put on a burial suit on the body and cover with a shroud.
- Before taking the coffin with the deceased out of the house, the minister of the church sprinkles the coffin and the deceased, reading the appropriate prayers.
- Immediately before the burial, another rite is held - the funeral service. It is believed that only by performing these rituals, the deceased will be able to gain eternal life.
How to say goodbye to the deceased at the coffin
After all the rituals performed at home, the deceased is sent to the cemetery. Not everyone knows how to say goodbye to the deceased, some points should still be taken into account:
- Relatives should not go before the coffin.
- After burial, you can eat something, and lamentations are also allowed.
- The deceased is kissed with a crown on his forehead and hands.
- You cannot bury, leaving flowers or an icon in the coffin.
- Having said goodbye, the face of the deceased is covered and the coffin is lowered into the grave on special oblong cloth rags, after which they are distributed to people. It is better for blood relatives not to take them.
- The coffin should be lowered so that the deceased lies with his head to the east.
- Those who came to see off the deceased on their last journey throw money into the grave, it is believed that this is needed to pay off the deceased, and land. The relatives should be the first to do this.
- When the burial is completed, it is necessary to hold a commemoration, which are arranged by relatives on the day of burial, after the commemoration they are held for 3, 9 and 40 days, and then every year from the day of death.
What to say at the coffin: examples of phrases
Escorting the deceased to a better world, you need to not only do everything right, but also say goodbye words. Not everyone knows how to say goodbye to the deceased at the grave, many are lost, what can be said to a dead person? But a rite is a rite and the last words addressed to a person whom the living world has lost forever must be heard from the lips of the person who sees them off.
There are no definite strict rules on how and what to say the last words to the deceased. The main thing is that they come from a pure heart and be sincere, especially if they are addressed not just to a friend, but to a close person or relative. For the deceased, the most important thing is to keep the memory of him.
Five examples to help you navigate what to say while standing in front of the coffin:
- “Rest in peace, Eugene. Forgive us all living ... ".
- “Goodbye, dear Nadezhda Petrovna. The memory of you will always be with me ... ".
- “Let your soul rest. And I will pray for you ... ".
- “For the deceased - eternal peace, and for the living of infinite patience. Rest in peace to you ... ".
- “My soul grieves for you. Forgive those who offended you ... ".
Perhaps this knowledge will help to cope with the loss of a dear person. The loss of a loved one always causes a lot of mental pain and suffering for the living. It is worth remembering that now the deceased is in a better world, and is in the hearts of his relatives, as long as they remember him.
Kiss - this word carries in itself so much tenderness, warmth and love. In some situations, it is easier to kiss than to prove something with words. People kiss each other every day, and do not even think about the meaning of their touch. Kisses are different, and have different meanings, but today we will talk about kisses on the forehead of the deceased.
First, let's talk about kissing different parts of the body.
From childhood, we receive kisses. Kisses from mom, these are the most beloved kisses. Such kisses do not carry anything bad at all, and sometimes, even at the moment of illness, they are able to give the patient the strength to recover.
Kiss on the neck. Does he carry something negative in himself? This kiss of life carries only sexual connotations; such kisses carry passion. Some girls regard this kiss as not a classic one. The neck of most girls is an erogenous zone. With a kiss, a man expresses passion for a woman.
There is no connotation in kissing on the nose. This kind of kiss expresses sympathy, is able to awaken strength. A kiss on the nose has a playful meaning and is very similar in character to a kiss on the forehead... These kisses are meant for loved ones.
A kiss on the lips. For a long time, a kiss on the lips expresses love, tender feelings and means a special relationship between partners. We kiss our soulmates, our children and the people most dear to us, thereby showing our love and affection for them. But if we talk about the deceased people who are kissed goodbye, then there is a completely different interpretation. It is believed that the soul of the deceased is on earth for forty days. She is also during the funeral, and all forty days she "visits" her relatives. At kisses deceased on the lips, the soul can settle in a living person and this will bring him troubles and failures.
A kiss on the cheek, or as it is also called a friendly kiss. With this kind of kiss, acquaintances greet, or take the first step towards a relationship, they are filled with feelings and emotions. But he also does not carry any other context other than love. But a kiss on the forehead is completely different.
Why can't you kiss on the forehead? Expression of feelings or goodbye?
- A kiss - there have always been many rumors and legends around this action. Even in ancient times, such a kiss was considered a "farewell kiss" and was associated with people who had gone to another world. Before we say goodbye to our loved one, we come up and kiss him on the forehead, or to be more precise, we kiss the ribbon, which is reattached to the forehead of the deceased in advance.
- Heartbroken relatives do not think much about what kiss and what it carries. But any person who says goodbye to the deceased must understand that he automatically risks his health. Indeed, in the body of a deceased person, after 6-9 hours an irreversible process begins - the decay of tissues, which are slowed down with the help of special chemicals.
But, of course, chemicals will not completely stop this process, and therefore bacteria are formed there, which, upon contact, these bacteria literally break out and multiply instantly. That's why kiss a dead man only dangerous for hygienic reasons.
The young widow kissed her deceased husband three times on the lips. And two days after the funeral, her legs were taken away. Doctors diagnosed paralysis with no hope of healing ...
- A kiss of a dead person, even on the forehead, sometimes threatens a living person with various serious troubles - at least it can cause severe allergies or severe diarrhea. And the weaker a person's immunity, the more terrible the consequences, - says an experienced doctor Nikolai Stepanovich Fedotov. -In my practice, there would be a case when people received such a dose of intoxication that their liver, kidneys were turned off, even blood poisoning began. For example, an inconsolable father covered the face of his daughter, who died at 23, with kisses. The next day he himself was in intensive care. Survived by a miracle. But the disease caused a complication in the eyes, and the citizen left the clinic half blind.
Twelve-year-old girl Lisa kissed her beloved grandmother several times, and literally a few hours later she was covered with red spots from head to toe. Then the temperature jumped sharply. The girl went into a fever, began to delirium. For almost a month she was balancing on the verge of life and death. Liza received a blood transfusion, washed her stomach and intestines. Finally they pulled me out of the crisis and tried to understand what triggered the outbreak of fever. We found out about the funeral and agreed that some kind of discharge from the corpse had got into the child's body.
It should be noted that most physicians do not like to use the term "cadaveric poison", considering it not entirely correct. Scientists from different countries have pored over experiments for decades, but have not found any special, hitherto unknown chemical composition in the dead body. That is, dead human cells do not generate any poison in its pure form. But the same experts quite definitely assert that the decomposing organism nevertheless releases a whole lot of toxic substances: compounds of heavy metals, carbon dioxide come out, and after a while the skin of the deceased really becomes poisonous. As they say, touch a couple of times - and you yourself will go to the forefathers.
However, according to Fedotov, there is still some insurance against infection with cadaveric poison. In modern morgues, bodies are deep frozen, although this procedure does not give a 100% guarantee. And if the storage conditions in the morgue do not correspond, and even the drunken orderly cheats, the dead man begins to "sweat" right before our eyes - and then expect trouble.
Irina Sergeevna raised her only son in affection, and by the age of 25, Mikhail had grown up as a wonderful guy: not a narcissistic egoist, but an intelligent, caring, hardworking person. His mother did not look for a soul in him, there was no end to the brides.
The trouble fell unexpectedly. The car in which Mikhail was rushing along the suburban highway flew off the road at full speed into a ditch and turned over several times. Mikhail, who was driving, and his friend died immediately. As soon as she learned about what had happened, Irina Sergeevna lost her instantly gray head from grief. As soon as the body of her son was brought from the morgue, the poor woman did not leave him a step. Everything lay on the chest of the deceased and quietly, almost soundlessly, crying. The relatives could not start the funeral for three days. The inconsolable mother, as a wounded she-wolf, threw herself at anyone who encroached on her privacy with her son. Finally, someone brought the priest to the house. The woman listened to the humble prayers of Father Nicholas, then she herself prayed and only after that gave up the precious coffin to other people's concerns. On the same day, the deceased was buried at the Chervishevsky cemetery. Irina Sergeevna made sure that a place was left for her near the grave of her son.
They say: time heals. But with Irina Sergeevna it turned out differently. Not only was she sad, longing and constantly crying. Not forgetting about her grief for a minute, she also died two months later, burned out like a candle. Everyone considered this death fatal: just, they say, the mother did not survive the death of her son. Meanwhile, the autopsy showed that the woman died not so much from mental anguish as because of a very rare disease. Medical experts were surprised to find signs of one of the varieties of tropical hepatitis in the deceased. They were seriously alarmed. But they managed to find the source of infection very quickly - it turned out that the son Mikhail, who died in a car accident, had made a trip to one of the African countries shortly before the tragedy. Probably, there he picked up an exotic infection. It's just that the disease did not have time to develop during life, and when the body began to decompose, the virus manifested itself, infecting the mother of the deceased.
Something similar happened in a small village in the south of the region. The 46-year-old niece was burying her lonely aunt. In order to save money, I decided to wash and dress the deceased on my own, with my own hands. At the same time, she accidentally cut herself on the edge of a large trough, but in the hustle and bustle she did not pay much attention to the wound. A week after the funeral, I suddenly felt that the wounded arm began to weaken and grow numb. A little later, the skin up to the elbow became covered with strange blisters and ulcers, the muscles finally atrophied. To stop the gangrene, doctors had to amputate the woman's half-arm.
According to medical experts, the funeral ritual in Russia contains customs that are very dangerous to the health of those around them. For example, it is customary to bring a dead man from the morgue home, where the dead man must spend at least a day in his native walls - to say goodbye, so to speak, to the household. Usually the body is kept in an apartment for two to three days. At the same time, close relatives of the deceased should continuously sit at the coffin. To avoid this is to show disrespect for the dead. However, by following the rules prescribed by the rite, people take great risks. After all, an absolutely healthy person rarely dies. Usually, the deceased's medical experts immediately record a whole bunch of serious diseases, which the deceased did not even know about during his lifetime. In short, a person dies, but the various bacilli and viruses that have filled his body continue to live and become aggressive - there is no one to fight them. As a result, according to medical experts, our citizens more often than others catch the infection from the dead. And if in one family, some funerals are soon followed by others, then almost certainly the underpinnings of the misfortunes that have fallen should be looked for not in mysticism.
Tyumenets S. in March last year went on a business trip to Surgut and there unexpectedly died of a heart attack. For the body of the deceased, the closest relatives - a brother and a wife - immediately went to a distant northern city. We had to hire a minibus to transport the body. The driver at first hesitated, and then agreed to act in an unusual role for himself, especially since the money offered for the service covered all the physical and moral costs. The speedometer briskly counted hundreds of kilometers, leaving behind the poles and rare lights of sleeping villages. When the unusual hearse was already approaching the regional center, clients offered to arrange a short break. The nearest parking lot with a hot lunch and a civilian restroom was about a mile and a half away when the hearse minibus swerved sharply to the side and crashed into a road sign on the side of the road. Ironically, the driver escaped with a slight fright. Mostly passengers were injured: the brother of the deceased had his head broken, and his wife, or rather a widow, received a severe abdominal injury. It was possible to pull out the coffin only with the help of an autogen, since the body of the car was badly crumpled, and all the doors were tightly jammed.
The traffic police officers were investigating the circumstances of the road drama. They almost had no doubt that the driver was to blame for everything: they say, he was exhausted behind the wheel and dozed off. But the medical examination made significant adjustments to this clear version. As the doctors managed to establish, the driver did not accidentally lose control over himself for some time: his psyche was paralyzed by the fumes emanating from the corpse of the corpse. The person simply passed out, like an ordinary toxicomaniac. The relatives of the deceased, shocked by the conclusions of the experts, found an opportunity to pay the driver for the repair of the mangled car.
The fact that a dead body is capable of emitting a special, highly toxic odor was established by our distant ancestors. Since ancient times, it is also known that this smell acts on a person like a drug: it causes bizarre hallucinations, relaxation, drowsiness. According to the testimony of some clergymen, there were cases when the clerks living at a small church, performing religious rituals associated with the deceased, saw all kinds of evil spirits, or even a dead man rising from the grave. This nonsense was captured by folklore, as well as the unforgettable N.V. Gogol.
Tatiana, 28, spent more than a day next to her father's body. Then she got up and stepped out of the window of the apartment, which, fortunately, was on the third floor. In addition, the woman fell into a snowdrift, hurt herself badly, was frightened, but, in fact, almost did not suffer. Having regained consciousness, Tatiana told the doctors the following story. She sat at the coffin and stared at the deceased. Suddenly the father opened his eyes, looked around and, jumping to the floor, went squatting across the room. Some freaks began to dance with him. Then all this wild round dance withdrew through the open window. Tatyana leaned over the window sill and was surprised to find that her father below, on the green lawn drenched in the sun, beckons her to him with signs. Tatiana obeyed meekly and stepped forward ...
It is not very pleasant to see a deceased person in a dream. It is said to herald a change in the weather. And why kiss, hug and have mercy with the deceased in a dream? It turns out that the interpretation depends on the nuances and details of this astral contact. If you feel the touch of cold lips on your forehead - the meaning is one, on the cheek - completely different. Let's take a closer look at why kissing a dead man in a dream in order to understand what will follow in reality in the near future.
The meaning of the personality of a deceased person
Interpreters analyze the plot options in the most detailed way. And all unanimously claim that the decryption depends on the personality of the deceased. First you need to figure out whether this person was a relative, an acquaintance or an unknown person. This should be taken into account when trying to understand why kissing a dead person in a dream. Relatives tend to predict rain. That's what the grandmothers say. Once the dead man appeared in a dream, it means that the weather will change.
In addition, elderly, experienced people are sure that the departed soul must be remembered. They advise buying sweets and giving them to colleagues, neighbors or children in the yard. This folk custom was observed in the old days. And we shouldn't forget traditions. A dead stranger, caressing a young girl, promises her good or evil, depending on where exactly his cold kiss fell. For men, such an astral plot promises continuous trouble. If you dreamed of a kiss with a relative who is now in the afterlife, you should prepare for quarrels in the family. A loved one came from the other world on purpose to warn and protect.
Dream: kissing the deceased on the lips
Let's move on to more specific cases. Unfortunately, this vision does not bode well for the dreamer. Sleep is especially unfavorable for financiers and entrepreneurs. Serious losses lie ahead, the plot says. It is necessary to count every penny, to double-check the documents several times, to temporarily suspend employees of whose loyalty they are not sure.
In a dream with a deceased, kissing on the lips is also not good for a woman. As a rule, this promises losses, but not as great as those of the business owners. The girl can be cheated in a store, twice withdraw the amount for a purchase from a bank account, or simply steal a wallet from her in transport. You need to be vigilant so as not to shed tears from beautiful eyes. For students and schoolchildren, the plot portends bad grades and nagging teachers. And people of advanced age should run to the doctor: something amiss is going on in the body, preventive measures will not harm. An interpretation for everyone, if the deceased, met in the country of Morpheus, was a relative: a grandiose scandal is brewing at home. But it can be avoided by diligently smoothing corners, not reacting to criticism, offensive words, rude shouts and the like.
The deceased kissed the neck
Interpreters associate such a plot with a person's personal life. Something does not satisfy him, causes a secret, sometimes unclear to him, dissatisfaction. Negativity accumulates inside and will soon burst out with a sharp act or word. Probably, a debriefing will follow with a loved one who will not understand what caused such strange behavior. You need to understand yourself, understand what the soul is striving for. If you answered the kiss of the deceased in a dream, fear for your health. Such a plot promises an ailment with which you will have to run to the doctors. Hugging and kissing in a dream with the deceased - to pressure on the will. A certain person wants to subdue you, to achieve the unquestioning fulfillment of his desires. Sleep recommends resisting. If you do not defend freedom, you will not be realized as a person. You will have to endure despotism for many years, give your strength, and receive neither gratitude nor pleasure in return.
The dead man kisses on the cheek
Interpreters consider such a plot a harbinger of success for everyone. For a girl or a lonely woman, he promises a worthy gentleman. So rejoice if you happened to kiss a dead man in a dream in this way. Soon, faithful, mutual, calm and happy love will enter your lonely life. For those who quarreled with friends, the plot also bodes well. He says that all disagreements will soon be overcome, relations will be restored. Nobody wants to remember past tears and grievances anymore.
For entrepreneurs, a dream portends a successful operation, a good, profitable idea or another chance in business. You just need to not be timid yourself, but to look around so as not to miss the moment. If in a dream you dreamed of a deceased relative kissing on the cheek, soon expect the fulfillment of your cherished dream. The soul of this person protects you in heaven. She will make sure that all obstacles to happiness are removed.
Kiss in the eye
Such a plot is rightfully considered the most positive. This is a sign of protection from above. The problems will soon be solved, you will feel that a certain weight has fallen from your shoulders. In addition, the dreamer will be able to understand who is his true friend and who should not be trusted. The heavenly angel will reveal the truth to him, help him look at the situation from a different angle. This is what the touch of cold lips to the eyes to see in a dream. Kissing a dead man for a single woman - to marriage, a girl - to the groom, a family lady - to an increase in the number of relatives. Those who passionately desire to continue the race will be presented with such a chance from above. The child will turn out to be very talented, cheerful and sociable, a real favorite of fate.
A kiss on the forehead
In the east, it is believed that such a plot speaks of the forgiveness of sin if a deceased relative appears in it. This is good news from the subtle world. The evil once inflicted or the offense inflicted will no longer weigh on your soul. The one to whom it was inflicted understood and forgave everything, says the oriental with the deceased in a dream, to respond to his tenderness - to become more active in real life. You yourself will feel a surge of energy in a day or a week. As if wings would grow behind your back. This story says it's time to receive the well-deserved reward and recognition. Do a little more work, and those around you will notice and appreciate your efforts. Get from them exactly what you secretly dreamed of.
Kiss your hands
This plot is interpreted by experts in two ways. He talks about open roads, will and freedom. However, achievements will not fall into the hands of themselves. You will have to fight obstacles, overcome enemy traps, unravel the intricacies of fate. If a deceased relative of the opposite sex kissed your hand, feel the support from above. Whatever happens around you, be sure you can endure everything. Victory will sooner or later be in your pocket. For a girl, such a plot promises a strict husband. At first, she will be afraid of him, even consider him a tyrant. Only after a few years will she understand that her husband loves her tenderly and faithfully and does everything for her happiness.
WHAT WE DO WRONG DURING THE FUNERALA funeral is a place where the spirit of the deceased is present, where the living and the afterlife are in contact. At a funeral, one should be extremely circumspect and careful. No wonder they say that pregnant women should not go to funerals. It is easy to drag the unborn soul into the afterlife. How to ask forgiveness from a deceased during reburial. From longing for the deceased. How to remove damage done at a funeral? If a person dropped a kutya or something else from the table. About the dead and funerals. Tips and signs. Farewell prayer.
Funeral.
According to Christian rules, the deceased should be buried in a coffin. In it he will rest (be kept) until the future resurrection. The grave of the deceased must be kept clean, respectful and tidy. After all, even the Mother of God was put in a coffin, and the coffin was left in the grave until the day when the Lord called His Mother to Himself.
The clothes in which a person died should not be given to either friends or strangers. Basically it is burned. If relatives are against this and want to wash their clothes and put them on, then this is their right. But it should be remembered that these clothes are not worn for 40 days.
The deceased is washed at the same hour after death, until it has completely cooled down. The soap is usually left on. It helps in many matters and from troubles. But you have to be careful, as with the help of this soap you can harm other people.
They usually wear new clothes, so that it is in time, not large and not small. If there is no new garment, then only clean clothes are worn.
Do not wear clothes that have sweat and blood on them. This could lead to another dead person.
If a person, during his lifetime, asked to wear what he wants, then it is necessary to fulfill his desire.
The military is usually dressed in the military. The front-line soldiers ask to be given orders, because they will still be lost or thrown away many years later, and they deserve them and are proud of them. In general, this is a purely personal issue of the family.
There must be a white blanket that covers the deceased. A crown with the image of Jesus Christ, the Mother of God, John the Baptist is placed on the forehead. On the crown - the words in the old style, this is the writing of the Trisagion Song. You should put a cross or an icon in your hands.
If it is not possible to invite a minister from the church, then take care in advance to invite the elderly to read the psalms and serve the requiem. Psalms are usually read without interruption. They are interrupted only during the memorial service.
Such prayers are a consolation for those who grieve for the dead. In addition, this prayer should be read:
Remember, Lord God, in faith and hope, the living of the ever-represented Thy servant, our brother (name), and like Good and Humanity, forgive sins and consume untruths, weaken, forgive and forgive all his free and involuntary sins, relieve him of eternal torment and fire Gehenic and grant him the sacrament and enjoyment of Your eternal good, prepared for those who love You, if they have sinned, but have not departed from You, and doubtlessly in the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, Your God in the Glorified Trinity, faith and the One in the Trinity and the Trinity in Unity , gloriously, even to the last sigh of confession.
Be the same merciful to that, and I believe in Thee. Instead of deeds of imputation, and with Thy saints, as if generous, rest: there is no more man like him who will live and will not sin. But Thou art one, besides One God of mercies and bounties, and love for mankind and we glorify Thee, the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit, now, ever and ever. Amen.
It is supposed at the end of three days to take the deceased to the church for the funeral service. But gradually they did not adhere to this, and the deceased sleeps at home for not three days, but one night. Four candles are placed on the coffin in the corners, changing them as they burn out.
All the time since the day of death there is a glass of water and a piece of bread, millet is poured into a saucer. You need to be careful during the funeral. Usually, the family is not up to it. But you can stipulate who will keep order, since it is no secret that a lot is done at the funeral: they remove damage, put photos of enemies in the coffin, try to take hair, nails, strings from hands and feet, etc.
Under the pretext of “touching your feet,” so as not to be afraid, they do the necessary things. They ask for a stool on which the coffin stood, flowers from a wreath, water. It is up to you to decide whether to give it all or not. Blood relatives cannot wash the floor in the house where the deceased lay.
Relatives cannot walk in front of the coffin, carry wreaths, drink wine. Wailing is allowed and after burial to eat kutya or pancake.
At the cemetery, they kiss with the last kiss on the crown on the forehead and hands. Fresh flowers and an icon are taken from the coffin. Make sure that the icon is not buried.
People often ask if watches and gold can be worn. If you have already put on the watch, then never take it off. There is no harm in the fact that the deceased has a watch on his hand. But if you remove the watch from a dead hand, move the hands back, read a spell on some person, then it’s not so long to wait until the death of this person. With regard to jewelry: if you don’t mind, then there is nothing wrong with the fact that they are dressed on the deceased.
At parting, the face is covered. The lid is hammered in and the coffin is lowered. Usually on towels. Towels are distributed to people. But it's better not to take them, you can get sick.
The coffin is lowered so that the deceased lies facing east. Money is thrown into the grave, a ransom for the deceased: the first to be thrown are relatives. Then they throw the ground. Not only a funeral service is necessary, but also commemorations, which are made upon returning from the cemetery and which are repeated on the third, ninth and fortieth day and in the year.
If you realize that you made a mistake during the funeral, be sure to tell her off!
Burnt my words, you are church domes, you are silver bells. An Tyn, Haba, Uru, Cha, Chabash, you are dead spirits. Do not call not to my world, but to your world, do not see, do not seek. I will gird myself with the light of God. I will disown the Holy Cross. My Lord is Great. Now, ever. Till the end of time. Amen.
How to ask forgiveness from a deceased during burial.
Sometimes it becomes necessary to reburial the deceased. But it is unlikely that the one who conceived and performed this, understands what act he is doing. People are used to thinking of the deceased as some kind of object that does not see, hear and does not feel, and therefore, you can act with him as you like, without bearing any responsibility, and that any actions with a dead body will remain unpunished. But this is not the case. The body is a vessel where, by the grace of Jesus Christ, the immortal soul of a deceased person dwelt for a long time. When the body of the deceased is given over to the ground, it finds its dwelling, or, as they used to say, domina.
They also say that it is difficult for the deceased to get used to his new home. And only after forty days after the death of a person, when his soul for-always leaves the earth, the body left by it goes into the kingdom of spirits. An abandoned, motionless body is preparing to turn into decay. For it is said: out of dust he came out and into dust he will go.
A sacred place where the flesh is kept until the Day of Judgment, which carried blood, mind and soul in itself, sacred is the peace that deserved the one who left this world in which he loved, suffered, worked, endured pain, raised children ...
You can talk insanely a lot about each deceased person and at the same time tell absolutely nothing.
Arriving at the cemetery and looking at the monuments, seeing the faces of living people, I want to shout: My God! After all, each of them is a whole world. And in each of them this world died ...
So think about whether you should disturb the peace of the deceased by digging up his ashes touched by decay in order to transport it to another, from your point of view, better place. Better than?
It is impossible to make the soul cry again about the body disturbed by people. May it rest in peace. Moreover, if the spirit of the dead is disturbed and does not accept the new place, there will be trouble. The spirit of the dead will punish those who have the idea to re-bury the coffin in an elite cemetery.
If, nevertheless, this happened, you need to protect yourself from possible disaster.
At the new burial place, read this conspiracy forty times. It is necessary to read while standing at the feet of the grave.
In the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. Retain, Lord, in your kingdom the soul of your deceased servant (name). Don't let this dead soul walk on the earth, don't let the dead soul harm living souls. Saint Lazarus, did you walk the earth after death? And after death he walked on the earth and never harmed living people. So that the soul of the deceased slave (name) no longer walks on the earth and does not harm living people forever and ever. Key, lock, tongue. Amen.
One should leave the grave without looking back. At home, eat kutya and drink jelly.
Mark yourself with the cross and say a prayer to the Honorable Cross:
May God rise again, and scatter Him, and let those who hate Him flee from His presence. Yako smoke disappears, yes disappear; as if the wax melts from the face of the fire, so may demons perish from the face of those who love God and are marked by the sign of the cross, and in the joy of those who see it: Rejoice, Most Honorable and Life-giving Cross of the Lord, drive out the demons by the power of our drunken Lord Jesus Christ on you, descended into hell and stepping down the power of the devil, and granting you His Honest Cross, which was given to us, to drive out every adversary.
Oh, the Most Honorable and Life-giving Cross of the Lord! Help me with the Holy Mistress Virgin Mary the Mother of God and with all the saints forever. Amen.
From longing for the deceased.
Get up at night, go to the mirror and, looking into your pupils, say:
Do not grieve, do not grieve, do not shed tears! Night-mother, take the melancholy from me. As the dawn takes you away, so you take off my longing. Now and ever and forever and ever.
After that, wash and go to bed. The next day it will be easier for you. Do this three times, and the melancholy will disappear.
How to remove damage done at a funeral.
Burn incense on the coals at night, saying:
How this incense burns and melts, so that it burns out, the grave sickness from the servant of God (name) died down. Amen.
If a person turned over kutya on himself.
From a letter: “For some time now I began to believe in omens, and how can I not believe them, if I myself became an eyewitness that they come true. That's why I decided to write to you: grandfather died in our family, and my aunt accidentally knocked over the funeral kutya, all that was prepared for all the commemorations! Kutia had to be cooked again, and my aunt died forty days after the funeral, day after day! "
Indeed, if during a funeral a candle falls from someone or a piece of bread and a glass of water set for the deceased fall right on the knees of a sitting person, then this person will soon die.
If this, God forbid, happens, I advise, just in case, to reprimand a person from trouble with a special conspiracy that I give in this book.
Read the conspiracy before sunrise:
In the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. Soul, body, spirit and all five senses. I protect the soul, I protect the body, I liberate the Spirit, I protect the feeling. The Lord God gave the commandment, the Lord God said the amulet: - Evil will not come to you, the wound will not come close to your body. My angels will cry out for you, both on earth and in heaven. The true Lord spoke the truth. He sent a savior angel, a guardian. Angel of God, all my life, hour by hour, day by day, save, save and have mercy on me. I believe in One Father and Son and Holy Spirit. Now and ever and forever and ever. Amen.
If the deceased was buried not at lunchtime, but after sunset, then exactly seven years later there will be a new coffin.
Children under one year of age are not taken to funerals and are not fed from the funeral table.
If at the funeral you are given a piece of the towel on which the coffin was lowered into the grave, do not take it. The towel should be left in the grave, not given to people. Whoever uses it will get sick.
Sometimes, in remembrance, someone offers to sing the favorite song of a deceased person and everyone, without thinking, sings. But it has long been noticed that those who sing at the memorial table soon begin to get sick, and those who have a weak guardian angel die early.
Do not borrow anything from a family where forty days of commemoration of the deceased person has not passed. Ina-che and you will have a coffin in the same year.
According to custom, people sit around the coffin all night. Make sure that none of those sitting at the coffin sleeps and does not doze. Otherwise, "sleep" one more deceased. If this does happen, then it should be read.
The bathhouse is not heated after the funeral. On this day, you should not wash yourself completely, just wash your face and hands. You should especially be wary of someone else's requests to wash after the funeral in your bath or bath.
Questions are often asked about commemoration that coincide with Lent. You need to know that commemorations in the first, fourth and seventh weeks of fasting are made only by lenten and strangers are never invited to commemoration at this time.
It is a very bad omen when the first person carrying the coffin leaves the apartment with his back. It is necessary to take care of this in advance and warn those who will carry the coffin so that they leave the apartment facing the exit, and not with their backs.
They do not rearrange the coffin in the house, do not look for a convenient place for it. Think in advance where to put it so as not to carry it from place to place.
ABOUT THE DEAD AND FUNERAL.
How to spend the last journey of a loved one, without harming yourself and your loved ones? Usually this sad event takes us by surprise, and we get lost, listening to everyone and following their advice. But, as it turns out, not everything is so simple. Sometimes people use this sad event to hurt you. Therefore, remember how to properly lead a person on the last journey.
At the moment of death, a person experiences a painful feeling of fear when the soul leaves the body. When leaving the body, the soul meets the Guardian Angel, given to it during the Holy Baptism, and demons. The relatives and friends of the dying person should try to alleviate his mental suffering by prayer, but in no case should they cry out loudly or sob.
At the moment of separation of the soul from the body, it is ordered to read the Canon of prayer to the Mother of God. When reading the Canon, a dying Christian holds in his hand a lighted candle or a holy cross. If he lacks the strength to cross himself with the sign of the cross, this is done by someone close to him, bending over to the dying man and clearly saying: “Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me. In Thy hand, O Lord Jesus, I commend my spirit, O Lord Jesus, her spirit is mine. "
You can sprinkle holy water on a dying person with the words: "The grace of the Holy Spirit, who sanctified this water, let your soul be delivered from all evil."
According to church custom, a dying person asks for forgiveness from those present and forgives them himself.
Not often, but still it happens that a person prepares a coffin for himself in advance. It is usually kept in the attic. In this case, pay attention to the following: the coffin is empty, and since it is made according to the standards of a person, he begins to "pull" it into himself. And a person, as a rule, dies faster. Earlier, to prevent this from happening, sawdust, shavings, grain were poured into an empty coffin. After the death of a person, sawdust, shavings and grain were also buried in the pit. After all, if you feed a bird with such grain, it will become sick.
When a person has died and a measurement is taken from him to make a coffin, in no case should this measure be put on the bed. It is best to take it out of the house and put it in a coffin during the funeral.
Be sure to remove all silver objects from the deceased: after all, this is exactly the metal that is used to fight the "unclean". Therefore, the latter can “disturb” the body of the deceased.
The body of the deceased is washed immediately after death. The washing takes place as a sign of the spiritual purity and integrity of the life of the deceased, and also so that he would appear in purity before the face of God after the resurrection. Ablution should cover all parts of the body.
You need to wash your body with warm, not hot water, so as not to steam it. When they wash the body, they read: "Holy God, Holy Mighty, Holy Immortal, have mercy on us" or "Lord, have mercy."
In order to make it more convenient to wash the deceased, an oilcloth is laid on the floor or bench and covered with a sheet. The body of the deceased person is placed on top. Take one bowl of clean water, and the other with soapy water. They wash the whole body with a sponge dipped in soapy water, from the face to the feet, then wash it with clean water and wipe it off with a towel. Last of all, they wash the head and comb the deceased's hair.
After ablution, the deceased is dressed in new, light, clean clothes. Be sure to put a cross on the deceased if he did not have one.
It is desirable that ablution takes place during daylight hours - from sunrise to sunset. Water should be handled very carefully after ablution. It is necessary to dig a hole far from the courtyard, garden and living quarters, where people do not walk, and pour out everything, to the last drop, and fill it with earth.
The fact is that on the water in which the deceased was washed, they make very strong deterioration. In particular, cancer can be "made" on this water. Therefore, do not give this water to anyone, no matter who asks you.
Try not to spill this water over your apartment so that those living in it do not get sick.
You can not wash the deceased for pregnant women in order to avoid illness of the unborn child, as well as women who have their periods.
As a rule, only elderly women prepare the deceased for their last journey.
Relatives and friends are not allowed to make a coffin.
The shavings formed during the manufacture of the coffin are best buried in the ground or, in extreme cases, thrown into the water, but not incinerated.
The bed on which the person died should not be thrown away, as many do. Just take her to the chicken coop, let her lie there for three nights, so that, as the legend says, the rooster will sing her three times.
When the deceased is placed in a coffin, it is necessary to sprinkle it and the coffin inside and outside with holy water, you can also sprinkle incense.
A corolla is placed on the forehead of the deceased. It is given in the church at the funeral service.
A pillow, which is usually made of cotton wool, is placed under the feet and head of the deceased. The body is covered with a sheet.
The coffin is placed in the middle of the room in front of the icons, turning the face of the deceased with his head to the icons.
Seeing the deceased in the coffin, automatically, but do not touch your body with your hands. Otherwise, at the place where you touched, various skin growths in the form of a tumor may grow.
If there is a deceased in the house, then, having met your acquaintance or relatives there, you need to greet with a bow of the head, and not with a voice.
While the deceased is in the house, the floor should not be swept, as this will bring trouble to your family (illness or worse).
If there is a dead person in the house, do not start any laundry.
Do not put two needles on the lips of the deceased, supposedly to save the body from decomposition. This will not save the body of the deceased, but the needles that were on his lips will surely disappear, they are used to induce damage.
In order to prevent a heavy smell from the deceased, you can put a bunch of dry sage at his head, popularly called "cornflowers". It serves for another purpose as well - it drives away "evil spirits".
For the same purposes, you can use the branches of the willow, which is holy on Palm Sunday and kept behind the images. These branches can be put under the deceased,
It happens that a deceased person has already been put in a coffin, and the bed on which he died has not yet been taken out. You may be approached by acquaintances or strangers, asking permission to lie on the bed of the deceased, so that their back and bones do not hurt. Don't allow it, don't hurt yourself.
Do not put fresh flowers in the coffin so that a heavy smell does not come from the deceased. For this purpose, use artificial or, in extreme cases, dried flowers.
A candle is lit near the coffin as a sign that the deceased has passed into the realm of light - a better afterlife.
For three days, the Psalter is recited over the deceased.
The Psalter is read continuously over the Christian's grave as long as the deceased remains unburied.
A lamp or a candle is lit in the house, which burns as long as the deceased is in the house.
It happens that instead of a candlestick, glasses with wheat are used. This wheat is often spoiled, and also cannot be used to feed poultry or livestock.
The hands and feet of the deceased are tied. The hands are folded so that the right one is on top, An icon or a cross is put into the left hand of the deceased; for men - the image of the savior, for women - the image of the Mother of God. Or you can: in the left hand - a cross, and on the chest of the deceased - the Holy Image.
Make sure that nobody else's belongings are placed under the deceased. If you notice this, then you need to pull them out of the coffin and burn them somewhere far away.
Sometimes, unknowingly, some heart-sick mothers put photographs of their children in the coffin with their grandparents. After that, the child begins to get sick, and if no help is provided in time, death can occur.
It happens that there is a dead person in the house, but there is no suitable clothes for him, and then one of the family members gives their things. The deceased is buried, and the one who gave his things starts to get sick.
The coffin is taken out of the house, turning the face of the deceased towards the exit. When carrying out the body, those who accompany them sing a song in honor of the Holy Trinity: "Holy God, Holy Mighty, Holy Immortal, have mercy on us."
It happens that when a coffin with a dead person is taken out of the house, someone stands near the door and starts tying knots on rags, explaining this by tying knots so that no more coffins are taken out of this house. Although such a person has something completely different on his mind. Try to take these rags away from him.
If a pregnant woman goes to a funeral, she will do herself evil by this. My sick child is born. Therefore, try to stay at home at this time, and it is necessary to say goodbye to your loved one in advance - before the funeral.
When a dead person is being carried to a cemetery, in no case cross his path, as various tumors may form on your body. If this happened, then you should take the deceased's hand, necessarily the right one, and with all your fingers drive it over the tumor and read "Our Father". This must be done three times, after each time spitting over the left shoulder.
When they carry a dead man in a coffin down the street, try not to look out of the window of your apartment. By doing this, you will save yourself from trouble and will not get sick.
In the temple, the coffin with the body of the deceased is placed in the middle of the church, facing the altar, and candles are lit on the four sides of the coffin.
Relatives and friends of the deceased walk around the coffin with the body, with a bow they ask for forgiveness for involuntary offenses, they kiss the deceased for the last time (a crown on his forehead or an icon on his chest). After that, the body is completely covered with a sheet and the priest sprinkles earth on it crosswise.
When the body with the coffin is taken out of the temple, the face of the deceased is turned towards the exit.
It so happens that the church is located far from the house of the deceased, then a correspondence funeral service is performed on it. After the funeral service, the relatives are given a chaplet, a prayer of permission and earth from the requiem table.
At home, relatives put a prayer of permission in the deceased's right hand, a paper whisk on his forehead, and after saying goodbye to him, in the cemetery, his body, covered with a sheet from head to toe, as in a church, is sprinkled with earth in a cross-like manner (from head to foot, from the right shoulder to the left - to get the correct cross).
The deceased is buried facing east. The cross on the grave is placed at the feet of the deceased so that the crucifix is turned to the face of the deceased.
According to Christian custom, when a person is buried, his body must be buried or "sealed". This is done by the priests.
The ties that tie the hands and feet of the deceased must be untied and placed in the coffin with the deceased before lowering the coffin into the grave. Otherwise, they are usually used to induce damage.
When saying goodbye to the deceased, try not to step on the towel that is placed in the cemetery near the coffin, so as not to incur damage.
If you are afraid of the deceased, hold on to his legs.
Sometimes you can be thrown in your bosom or by the collar of the earth from the grave, proving that this way you can avoid the fear of the dead. Do not believe - this is done to induce damage.
When the coffin with the body of the deceased is lowered into the grave on towels, these towels must be left in the grave, and not used for various household needs or given to someone.
When the coffin with the body is lowered into the grave, all those who accompany the deceased on their last journey throw a lump of earth into it.
After the ritual of surrendering the body to the earth, this earth must be taken to the grave and poured crosswise. And if you are too lazy, do not go to the cemetery and take the land for this ritual from your courtyard, then you yourself will do it very badly.
To bury a dead man with music is not a Christian way; one should bury with a priest.
It so happens that a person was buried, but the body was not betrayed to the ground. It is imperative to go to the grave and take a handful of earth from there, from which to go to church.
It is advisable, in order to avoid any inconveniences, to sprinkle the house or apartment where the deceased lived with consecrated water. This must be done immediately after the funeral. It is also necessary to sprinkle such water on people who participated in the funeral procession.
The funeral is over, and according to the old Christian custom, they put water and something from food in a glass on the table for treating the soul of the deceased. Make sure that little children or adults inadvertently drink from this glass or eat anything. After such a treat, both adults and children start to get sick.
During the commemoration of the deceased, according to tradition, a glass of vodka is poured. Do not drink it if someone advises you. It would be better if you pour the vodka on the grave.
Returning from the funeral, it is imperative to shake off your shoes before entering the house, and also hold your hands over the fire of a lit candle. This is done in order not to damage the home.
There is also such a type of damage: a dead person lies in the coffin, wires are tied to his hands and feet, which are lowered into a bucket of water under the coffin. So, supposedly, they ground the deceased. In fact, this is not the case. This water is then used to induce spoilage.
Here is another type of corruption in which incompatible things are present - death and flowers.
One person gives another a bouquet of flowers. Only these flowers do not bring joy, but sorrow, since the bouquet, before being presented, lay on the grave all night.
If one of you has a close or dear person died and you cry for him for an hour, then I advise you to have thistle grass in your house.
To miss the deceased less, you need to take the headdress (scarf or hat) worn by the deceased, light it in front of the front door and go around all the rooms with him one by one, reading aloud "Our Father". After that, take out the remains of the burnt headdress from the apartment, burn it to the end and bury the ashes in the ground.
It also happens like this: you came to the grave of a loved one to pull out grass, paint a fence or plant something. You start digging and you dig up things that shouldn't be there. Someone outside buried them there. In this case, take everything that you find outside the cemetery and burn it, trying not to get caught in the smoke, otherwise you can get sick yourself.
Some believe that after death the forgiveness of sins is impossible, and if a sinful person has died, nothing can help him. However, the Lord himself said: "And every sin and blasphemy will be forgiven people, and blasphemy against the Spirit will not be forgiven people, neither in this century, nor in the future." This means that only blasphemy against the Holy Spirit is not forgiven in the future life. Consequently, our prayers may have mercy on the deceased with their bodies, but our loved ones who are alive with their souls, who did not blaspheme during the earthly life of the Holy Spirit.
The funeral service and home prayer for the good deeds of the deceased, performed in his memory (alms and donations to the church), are all good for the dead. But the commemoration at the Divine Liturgy is especially useful for them.
If you come across a funeral procession on your way, then you should stop, take off your headdress and cross yourself.
When a dead man is being carried to a cemetery, do not throw fresh flowers on the road after him - by doing this you damage not only yourself, but also many people who step on these flowers.
After the funeral, do not go to any of your friends or relatives in the guest.
If they take land to “seal” the bed, in no case do not allow this land to be taken from under your feet.
When someone dies, make sure that only women are present.
If the patient is dying hard, remove the pillow of feathers from under his head for an easier death. In villages, a dying person is laid on straw.
Make sure that the deceased's eyes are tightly closed.
Do not leave a deceased person alone in the house; as a rule, elderly women should sit next to him.
When there is a deceased in the house, then in neighboring houses it is forbidden to drink water in the morning, which was in buckets or pots. It must be poured out, and freshly poured.
When a coffin is made, a cross is made on its lid with an ax.
In the place where the deceased lay in the house, it is necessary to put an ax so that they do not die for a long time in this house.
Until 40 days, do not give out the belongings of the deceased to relatives, friends or acquaintances.
In no case do not put your pectoral cross on the bed.
Before burial, do not forget to remove the wedding ring from the deceased. By this, the widow (widower) will rid herself of diseases.
During the death of your loved ones or acquaintances, you must close the mirrors, do not look in them after death for 40 days.
It is impossible for tears to fall on the rest-eek. This is a heavy burden for the deceased.
After the funeral, do not allow your loved ones, acquaintances, or relatives to lie on your bed under any pretext.
When a deceased person is taken out of the house, he makes sure that none of those accompanying him on his last journey comes out with his back.
After taking the deceased out of the house, the old broom should also be taken out of the house.
Before the last goodbye to the deceased in the cemetery, when they raise the lid of the coffin, in no case put your head under it.
The coffin with the deceased, as a rule, is placed in the middle of the room in front of the household icons, facing the exit.
As soon as a person has died, relatives and friends should order a forty-year-old in the church, that is, daily commemoration during the Divine Liturgy.
In no case listen to those people who advise you to wipe your body with water, in which the deceased was washed, to relieve pain.
If the commemoration (the third, ninth, fortieth days, anniversary) falls on the time of Great Lent, then in the first, fourth and seventh weeks of Lent, the relatives of the deceased do not invite anyone to the commemoration.
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