Parent meeting on the topic of the causes of childhood aggression. Parents' meeting in the pre-school on the topic "children's aggressiveness." Exercise to relieve neuropsychic tension

Procrastination can backfire
anything, because time brings
with both evil and good.
Niccolo

Tasks: discuss with parents the causes of child aggression and its impact on the child’s behavior; to form among parents a culture of understanding the problem of childhood aggression and ways to overcome it.

Form of conduct – informational and diagnostic: conversation - round table, watching a video about the dangers of foreign cartoons.

Issues for discussion: causes of childhood aggression; parental power and ways of influencing the child; ways to overcome childhood aggressiveness, diagnostics “What kind of parent are you?”

Materials for the meeting: video about the dangers of foreign cartoons (Appendix 1), presentation (Appendix 2), diagnostic tests (Appendix 3), instructions for parents (Appendix 4).

Progress of the meeting

I. View a fragment of a video about the dangers of foreign cartoons: manifestation of aggression of female heroines towards others (Appendix 1).

I suggest you, when filling out the diagnostic table, determine whether your child is susceptible to aggression?

Parents fill out the table “Criteria for identifying a child’s aggressiveness,” calculate the points, and draw conclusions.

It was said above that the causes of aggression are often related to the family. I suggest you test yourself: what kind of parent are you?

Conducting a test-game “What kind of parent are you?” Parents write down the numbers of statements on the screen that they use in communication with their child (slide 8), assign points based on the key (slide 9), calculate the sum of points, and read the conclusion.

IV. Summarizing.

Our meeting is coming to an end. I would like it to be useful for you, to provoke thought and a desire to build relationships in your family in a new way.

Your parenting diary will be updated today with new rules that will, I hope, help you in raising your child. These are the “Golden Rules of Parenting” (slide 10) and “Memo on Preventing Child Aggression.”

Parents get acquainted with the “golden” rules on the screen and receive printed copies of reminders in the parent diary(Appendix 4).

Slide 11. Let's make a joint effort and help our children cope with aggression.

Parent meeting

Subject: Aggressiveness of children. Causes. Prevention of childhood aggression.

Class: 2.

Target: developing in parents the ability to identify the causes of children's aggression and correct their behavior in relationships with their children in conflict situations.

Tasks: reveal the concepts of “aggression”, “children’s aggression”; discuss with parents the causes of child aggression; reveal its influence on the formation of the child; contribute to the formation among parents of a culture of understanding the problem of childhood aggression and ways to overcome it.

Issues for discussion:

Familiarization of parents with the diagnostic results of students.

What is aggression? Children's aggression, its forms.

Causes of childhood aggression. Conflicts.

Techniques for overcoming childhood aggression.

Diagnosis of parents.

Progress of the meeting.

Introduction.

Dear parents!The topic of our meeting is very serious. At the age our children are now, the topic is relevant. Today we are faced with aggression at every step, not only in society, but we also observe the propaganda of aggression and violence from TV screens and the Internet. The age of manifestation of aggression is getting younger. What is this connected with and how to deal with the manifestation of childhood aggression? On those important questions we will answer you today.

Familiarization of parents with the diagnostic results of students.

Two methods were carried out with the children: “Cactus”, “Three Trees”. These methods were carried out with the aim of identifying aggressiveness and anxiety in students, as well as conflict situations in the world and family surrounding the child. The results of this test showed.

Image of these techniques in percentage on the screen.

After carrying out the methods, it became clear that many students are susceptible to aggression to one degree or another. Many students are anxious and lack self-confidence. After the conversation, many students spoke about their internal problems. Many show fear of defeat, many conflicts among students in connection with relationships in the children's team.

What is aggression? Children's aggression, its forms.

What is “aggression”?

Aggression is a reaction to disruption of activities, planned plans, restrictions on something, prohibitions or unexpected situations. Aggression can manifest itself physically and verbally. Physically - fights. Verbally - swearing, screaming, threats.

Aggression is often confused with persistence, assertiveness and stubbornness. Do you think these qualities are equivalent?

(Parents' answers)

Children's aggression manifests itself quite often, but we sometimes confuse it with persistence. The level of children's aggression varies depending on the situation, but sometimes aggression takes stable forms.Persistent aggressiveness For some children, it manifests itself in the fact that they sometimes understand the behavior of others differently than others and accept it as hostile. Boys are more prone to aggression.

Causes of childhood aggression.

Why do you think children behave aggressively? Why do they exhibit conflict behavior?

(Parents' answers)

Causes of childhood aggression.

From the family side:

- Lack of attention from parents;

Incorrect reaction of parents to the child’s behavior;

Unhealthy atmosphere in the family, abuse of alcohol by its members;

Copying parents who themselves are unable to cope with the expression of negative emotions;

Too harsh actions and punishment for any minor offense;

Connivance on the part of parents towards aggressive actions;

Overprotection on the part of parents.

From the outside environment, schools:

Changing the type of activity of the child;

The desire to be first in everything;

Reaction to failure, difficulty;

Conflict situations with surrounding children;

Defensive reaction.

Internal changes:

Serious brain diseases and mental disorders;

Age-related changes, so-called crises: 7 years, 12 years;

Transforming aggressive behavior into everyday life;

Using aggression as a way of self-expression.

5. Techniques for overcoming childhood aggression.

The very first thing we must give a child is love. And accept him as he is. A child should feel our love and care every day. He must understand that he is needed. Both in the family and at school, the child must know that he is unique. And no assessments or conflicts have such a thing of great importance, as his internal development.

Distributing leaflets to parents on “Prevention of Childhood Aggression.”

Diagnosis of parents.

Questionnaire " Aggressiveness. A child through the eyes of an adult A. A. Romanov"

Analyze the results together with parents.

Results of the meeting.

Our meeting has come to an end. Let's sum it up together.

Have we answered the main questions we asked at the beginning?

(Parents' opinions)

Did our conversation provoke thought, a desire to change and rebuild the relationship with the child?

(Parents' opinions)

What types of assistance and interaction with school would we choose now?

(Parents' answers)

I would like to give you a leaflet that helps raise awareness about how to prevent aggression in children.

Annex 1

Reminders for parents

Appendix 2

Exercises to reduce aggression levels
in children

Appendix 3

Aggressiveness.
A child through the eyes of an adult (questionnaire)

A. A. Romanov

Last name, first name of the child_______________________________________________

Age____________Date of completion______________________

Filled out by: parent, psychologist, teacher___________________________

Emphasize how pronounced the situational and personal reactions of aggressiveness are in the child:0 - does not appearnever, 1 - sometimes observed, 2 - observed quite often, 3 - almost always observed, 4 - observed constantly.

According to this scheme, the observer is asked to record the frequency of the child’s behavioral acts in accordance with 15 indicators of aggressiveness:

0 - never appears,

1 - sometimes observed,

2 - observed quite often,

3 - appears almost always,

4 - observed constantly.

The total score for the frequency of observation determines the level of aggressiveness:

1st level (from 0 to 65 points) indicates that the child’s behavior suggests that there is no tendency to consolidate situational and personal reactions of aggression as pathocharacterological; Most likely, the child is able to independently master his own aggressiveness.

2nd level (from 66 to 130 points) indicates the danger of consolidating aggressive reactions as pathocharacterological; most likely, the child needs help in mastering his own destructive behavior.

3rd level (from 131 to 195 points) characterizes the child’s behavior as pathological, which involves providing significant psychological and pedagogical assistance to the child in mastering aggressiveness as a disorder of behavior and emotions.

4th level (from 196 to 240 points) - most likely, evidence of serious pathocharacterological changes in the child’s personality that require medical intervention.

Parent meeting

"Children's aggression"

Objectives of the meeting:

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Parent meeting

"Children's aggression"

Objectives of the meeting:

1 . Discuss with parents the causes of child aggression and its impact on the child’s behavior.

2. To form among parents a culture of understanding the problem of childhood aggression and ways to overcome it.

Participants: class teacher, parents of children in the class, school psychologist.

Organization of parent meetings:

• preparing invitations for parents;
• survey;
• development of a meeting script;
• preparation of a memo for parents;

2 slide Man has the ability to love,

and if he cannot find a use for his

ability to love, he is capable of hating,

Showing aggression and cruelty. By this means

he is guided as an escape from his own

Heartache...

Erich Fromm

Dear moms and dads. The topic of our new meeting is serious and difficult. This is the theme of our children displaying cruelty and aggression.

The age of manifestation of aggression has clearly become younger. Aggression is shown not only by teenagers and adults, but also by children. What is this connected with?

How to deal with childhood aggression? And how we, adults, can help children overcome it. We will try to answer these and other questions.

1. Slide

Aggression is behavior that causes harm to an object or objects, a person or a group of people.

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Aggression can be physical (using physical force against another person or object, fighting), verbal (violating the rights of another person without physical intervention, quarreling, shouting, screaming), and auto-aggression (self-blame, self-humiliation, self-harm)

In psychology, there are two types of aggression:instrumental and hostile.

Instrumental aggression -manifested by a person to achieve a specific goal. It is very often expressed in young children (I want to take away a toy, an object) In older children, i.e. In our children, hostile aggression aimed at causing pain to a person is more manifested.

Very often, aggression is confused with persistence and assertiveness.

The level of aggressiveness of children varies depending on the situation to a greater or lesser extent, but sometimes aggression takes stable forms. There are many reasons for this behavior: the child’s position in the team, the attitude of peers towards him, relationships with teachers.

The persistent aggressiveness of some children is manifested in the fact that they sometimes understand the behavior of others differently than others, interpreting it as hostile.

1. Slide

A common cause of childhood aggression is the family situation.

Aggressive behavior of family members in everyday life situations: screaming, swearing, rudeness, humiliating each other, mutual reproaches and insults. Psychologists believe that a child shows aggression in everyday life several times more often where he saw aggression from adults every day, and it became the norm of his life.

Inconsistency of parents in teaching children rules and norms of behavior. This method of raising children is bad because the children do not develop a moral core of behavior: today it is convenient for parents to say one thing, and they impose this line of behavior on the children, tomorrow it is convenient for them to say something else, which is again imposed on the children.

This leads to confusion, anger, and aggression against parents and other people.

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In education, two pairs of important signs can be distinguished that have a positive or negative effect on the formation of child aggressiveness:favor and rejection.

What is it characterized by and how does it influence overcoming aggressiveness? location ? The family helps the child:

• overcome difficulties
• uses the ability to listen to a child in his arsenal
• includes warmth, a kind word, and a gentle look in communication.

Rejection, on the contrary, it stimulates children's aggression. It is characterized by indifference, withdrawal from communication, intolerance and authority, hostility to the fact of the child's existence. Rejection of the child leads to the manifestation of such a disease as pediatric hospitalism. What it is? Loneliness, lack of desire to communicate with loved ones, lack of traditions, customs, and laws in the family.

1. slide

Encouragement is of great importance in raising children: in a word, a look, a gesture, an action.

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Punishment is also very significant for a person if:

• it immediately follows the offense;
• explained to the child;
• it is harsh, but not cruel;
• it evaluates the child's actions, not human qualities. When punishing a child, the father or mother shows patience, calmness and restraint.

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The causes of childhood aggression are primarily related to the family.

Constant quarrels between parents, physical violence of parents towards each other, rudeness and boorishness of daily communication, humiliation, sarcasm and irony, the desire to constantly see the bad in each other and emphasize this - a daily school of aggression in which the child is formed and receives lessons in mastery in displaying aggression.

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One of the main conditions for preventing aggressive behavior in children is the demands of parents in relation to themselves and in relation to their own child. A parent who is demanding of himself will never allow him to demand from his child something that he himself does not have in his child. A parent who is demanding of himself is able to analyze the methods of his upbringing and adjust them taking into account the current situation.

Very often, children's aggressiveness is associated precisely with the fact that parents make unreasonable and meaningless demands, while absolutely not showing friendliness and support. You should not give in to whims and make concessions unnecessarily.

The demands placed on the child must be reasonable.

While being demanding, it is necessary to take into account the circumstances, the physical and mental state of the child.

Demandingness is justified when feasible tasks are put forward to the child and feasible assistance is provided in solving them, otherwise it is simply meaningless. Even the most fair and simple demand, if it is not explained and expressed in a despotic form, will cause resistance from any child, even the most flexible one.

The only difference is that a flexible child will express his protest covertly, while a child who is not very flexible will express it openly. It is better to express the requirements for younger schoolchildren in an exciting way. game form.

In their methods of education, in their demands on the child, parents must be consistent and united. As soon as secrets from each other settle in a family, the trust of parents in each other in raising a child disappears, this will give the child the opportunity to maneuver between parents, blackmail them, lie to them.

If this is successful for a long time, and then a ban is imposed, then, as a rule, the result is a manifestation of aggressiveness on the part of the child.

Slide 13

IN last years Psychologists consider separately such a cause of childhood aggression as the media. The child begins to be influenced by television programs, movies, and detective stories filled with various manifestations of aggression. For all school years Children spend almost 15 thousand hours watching TV. During this time, they see on average about 13 thousand cases of violent death. Psychologists have found that children who have seen many acts of violence on television are more prone to aggressive actions than children who have not seen them. Contribute to this and computer games. By committing virtual acts of violence in them, the child ceases to see the line between the game and reality. In preparation for the parent-teacher meeting, we conducted a study of children's attitudes towards television programs. I suggest you familiarize yourself with its results.

conclusion

The concept of “aggression” is perceived by us as something out of the ordinary. In fact, this is, first of all, a common phenomenon of relationships between people, an integral part of these relationships.

If a child does not fit in with the class or team, behaves badly, does not obey norms, or is somehow different from others, then, of course, he has his own reasons for this. And this does not mean that we are dealing with a neurotic or any other pathological symptom.

The same child can get along well in one group and not fit in at all in another. Or this year he may feel good in the team, but next year he may not, because five old friends left the class and new children came to replace them. But that doesn't mean that this child suddenly became neurotic. Only the situation has changed. Perhaps an aggressive child is experiencing serious problems at home.

Our meeting is coming to an end. I really want it to be useful for you and make you think.

Slide 14

Here are some tips:

• Learn to hear your children.
• Try to make sure that only you, the parents, relieve their emotional stress.
• Don't stop your children from expressing negative emotions.
• Learn to accept and love them for who they are.

(Memos for parents)

Dear fathers and mothers!

Please read this memo carefully! Mentally cross out those points that do not concern your family’s educational system, imagine your child’s face, be honest with him and with yourself! After analysis, think about what else you can change. It's not too late!

A child's aggressiveness manifests itself when:

• the child is beaten;
• the child is being bullied;
• they make cruel jokes on the child;
• the child is made to feel a sense of undeserved shame;
• parents deliberately lie;
• parents drink and get into trouble;
• parents raise their child with double morals;
• parents are undemanding and unauthoritative for their child;
• parents do not know how to love their children equally;
• parents do not trust the child;
• parents pit the child against each other;
• parents do not communicate with their child;
• entrance to the house is closed to the child’s friends;
• parents show petty care and concern to the child;
• parents live their own lives, the child feels that he is not loved.

VII. Decision of the meeting.

1. Observe your child’s emotional state in different environments.
2. Focus on positive emotions.
3. Follow family rules for overcoming childhood aggression.

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Aggressive children. Causes and consequences of childhood aggression.

A person has the ability to love and can find use for his ability to love, but he is also capable of hating, showing aggression and cruelty. He uses this remedy as an escape from his own mental pain... Eric Fromm

Aggression is actions or only intentions aimed at causing harm to another person or object.

Manifestations of aggression physical verbal auto-aggression Types of aggression instrumental hostile

Causes of child aggression (family situation) Aggressive behavior of family members in everyday life situations Inconsistency of parents in teaching children rules and norms of behavior

In upbringing, two pairs of important features can be distinguished: Location The family helps the child: a) overcome difficulties; b) uses the ability to listen to a child in his arsenal; c) includes warmth, a kind word, and an affectionate look in communication. Rejection a) stimulates children's aggressiveness b) the child withdraws from communication c) there is loneliness d) there is no desire to communicate

Encouragement is of great importance: Word, Look, Gesture, Action.

Questioning (encouragement)

Punishment is also very significant for a person if: It follows immediately after the offense; Explained to a child It is harsh, but not cruel; It evaluates the child’s actions, not his human qualities.

Questioning (punishment)

The reasons for the manifestation of children's aggression are related to the family: Constant quarrels between parents Physical violence of parents towards each other Rudeness and rudeness, humiliation The desire to see only the bad in each other This is a daily school of aggression in which the child is formed and receives lessons in mastery in displaying aggression

Conditions for preventing aggressive behavior: Demanding parents towards themselves and towards their own child; A parent who is demanding of himself will never allow him to demand from his child something that he himself does not have in his child.

Mass media

Criteria for aggressiveness - a child: often loses control of himself; often argues and quarrels with adults; often refuses to follow rules; often deliberately irritates people; often blames others for his mistakes; often gets angry and refuses to do anything; often envious, vindictive.

How to help an aggressive child? Working with anger. Teaching children the skills of recognition and control, the ability to control themselves in situations that provoke outbursts of anger. Formation of the ability to trust, sympathy, empathy.

Tips: Learn to hear your children; Try to make sure that only you, the parents, relieve their emotional stress; Don't stop children from expressing negative emotions; Learn to accept and love them for who they are.

A child’s aggressiveness manifests itself if the child is beaten; the child is being bullied; they make cruel jokes on the child; the child is made to feel a sense of undeserved shame; parents deliberately lie; parents drink and get into trouble; parents raise their child with double morals; parents are undemanding and unauthoritative for their child; parents do not know how to love their children equally; parents do not trust the child; parents pit the child against each other; parents do not communicate with their child; entrance to the house is closed to the child’s friends; parents show petty care and concern to the child; parents live their own lives, the child feels that he is not loved.

In conclusion... in order not to get irritated when a child inexplicably behaves badly, you need to ask yourself the question: “I wonder what is happening to him now?”

Meeting resolution Observe your child’s emotional state in different settings. Focus on positive emotions. Follow family rules for overcoming childhood aggression.

Thank you for your attention!!!

Parent meeting “Aggression in children - causes and methods of prevention”

Goal: to encourage parents to identify the causes of children’s aggressiveness and correct their behavior in relationships with their children in conflict situations.

Tasks:

1. Identify the causes of children's aggression.

PROGRESS OF THE MEETING.

I. Preparatory stage.

1. Conduct surveys and surveys of children on this topic.

2. Conduct a conversation with a school psychologist to find out the causes of children's aggression.

3. Prepare instructions for parents.

II. Organizational stage.

“A person has the ability to love, and if he cannot find an application for his ability to love, he is capable of hating, showing aggression and cruelty. He uses this remedy as an escape from his own mental pain... (E. Fromm)

“The best way to make children good is to make them happy” (O. Wilde)

In the modern period of development of our country, when the ideals of the pioneers and the Komsomol have ceased to be significant, and there is no new philosophy, the idea of ​​educating a citizen of Russia, there is hardly a person who would argue that there is no increase in the aggressiveness of our society in general and the individual in particular. Aggression “gets younger” every year. Both teachers and parents in such conditions Everyday life it is difficult to decide where their efforts should be directed to help the child adapt to a world full of violence and aggression.

Today we are faced with the following tasks of the parent meeting: 1. Identify the causes of children's aggression.

2.Familiarize yourself with methods for correcting aggression.

3. Outline ways of cooperation between teachers and parents in the prevention of children's aggression.

III. Stage of pedagogical universal education.

The aggressive behavior of children will become clearer if you understand the essence of the very concept of aggression. The Latin word "aggression" means "attack", "attack".

• “Aggression is destructive behavior that contradicts the norms and rules of the existence of people in society, causing physical or moral harm to people, or causing them psychological discomfort.”

Usually it is understood as actions or only intentions aimed at causing harm to another person or object. Aggression can manifest itself both physically (harm to people’s health, damage to objects) and verbally, i.e. verbally (insults, threats, harassment, etc.).

• “An aggressive child, using every opportunity, seeks to anger his mother, teacher, and peers; he will not rest until the adults explode and the children fight.” N. L. Kryazheva.

Why do people have aggression at all?

• A means to achieve a goal (to take something away, force someone to do something)
• Way of self-affirmation
• Defensive behavior
• Rude, cruel behavior of parents
• When a child lives in an atmosphere of rejection, dislike for him
• Peer relationships
• Family relationships
• Opposing claims
• Inconsistency of parents
• Features of biological development
• Computer games

Confrontation with children's aggressiveness always causes bewilderment and confusion among parents. Usually the first thing parents do is punish their child. If the manifestation of aggression becomes constant, they can contact a neuropsychiatrist. But manifestations of cruelty and disobedience do not always indicate the presence of any mental disorders in children. Often a child, faced with a problem that is insoluble for him, simply does not know how to behave correctly. To help him, it is necessary, first of all, to find out possible reasons his aggressiveness. Let's look at them in detail.

1. Relationships with peers.

The period of child development at 10–11 years is contradictory. Children develop a sense of adulthood. Changes occur in the body, rights and responsibilities in the family expand. Contradictions arise in relations with elders. Parents and teachers appeal to a child's sense of maturity when they remind him of his responsibilities. But, often, they cannot overcome the desire to limit his independence. And, on the contrary, the younger teenager himself, demanding to be treated as an adult, does not always know how to properly manage his rights. Communication with peers becomes a greater value than communication with parents and teachers. But the need to assert oneself and find one’s place in the team is not always satisfied to the extent that the child would like. The aggressiveness of some children is manifested in the fact that they sometimes understand the behavior of others as hostile. For example, friendly banter appearance, an action, a mistake in completing a task, they can perceive it as ridicule or an insult. This gives rise to the desire to “fight back” the offender.

1. Family relationships.

Aggressive behavior of parents in relations between themselves and their children: insults, shouting, rudeness, humiliation of each other - all this leads to the fact that such communication becomes the norm of life for the child.

1. Opposite demands of parents.

Conflicting behavior towards a child, when mom and dad make conflicting demands on him, can also provoke aggressiveness. For example, the father believes that the child should redo homework, and his mother takes pity on him and does not show persistence. And all this happens in front of the son or daughter. Such disputes between parents, especially if they are repeated regularly, can also lead to aggression.

1. Inconsistency of parents.

Inconsistency of parents in formation moral values when today they are comfortable with certain norms in children’s behavior, and tomorrow they are comfortable with others. The child sees dishonesty, dishonesty, injustice, and experiences such situations painfully. This leads to anger and aggressiveness towards adults.

1. Features of the biological development of a child.

Some traits of his character can also cause aggressiveness. Children with hyperexcitability, irritability, and prone to emotional outbursts need the help of a specialist.

As we have found out, children's aggression can be the result of various kinds of reasons: attention problems, communication problems, academic failures. Therefore, in each specific case, it is important to understand when a child’s aggression arises as a result of a conflict situation, and when it is a consequence of problems of personal development.

Child:

• Often loses control of himself.
• Often argues and quarrels with adults.
• Often refuses to follow rules.
• Often deliberately annoys people.
• Often blames others for his mistakes.
• Often gets angry and refuses to do anything.
• Often envious and vindictive.
• He is sensitive, reacts very quickly to various actions of others (children and adults), which often irritate him.

Dear parents, when did you notice signs of aggression in your children and how did it manifest itself? (parents' answers)

The most common complaints from parents are: 1. Aggression is manifested in the child’s statements (rudeness, indecent words)

2. The child is aggressive towards others (fights)

3. Aggression manifests itself in the child’s drawings, essays, and games.

4. Rarely, but there is such a form as auto-aggression - causing harm to oneself.

5. Aggression towards animals.

So, what to do if your childaggressive in his statements.Most often, adults themselves are to blame for this. Some family members, albeit rarely, “let off steam” in this way. Children are reinforced with the following conclusion: if something doesn’t work out, if they don’t understand you, if there is no other way out to relieve tension, you can do this. So-called swear words or obscene words sooner or later appear in the vocabulary of every child. Often parents of children, hearing such words from their child’s lips for the first time, do not get angry, but are surprised at how such a child caught the intonation and purpose of these words. For some it goes away quickly, for others you have to have explanatory conversations. The problem of clogging our speech with “profanity” is currently regularly discussed in the media. “Strong” expressions in television and radio programs, in books, newspapers, and magazines have already become familiar and do not shock adult television viewers.

Therefore, it is not at all surprising that modern children not only learn early about the existence of such words, but also begin to actively use them. However, they hardly understand what these words mean. Why, then, are these “bad” expressions fixed in their speech? What attracts children to them? First of all, the emotionality with which these words are pronounced by others. For teenagers, a swearing person is an adult, fearless, not recognizing anyone or anything.

Sometimes, when a child does not have a good relationship with his family, he, noticing that these words shock those around him, begins to use curse words to annoy and tease adults. In this case, swear words become another weapon of revenge.

Thus, if adults begin to take measures to eradicate these words from the speech of children, a contradiction will arise, a falsehood due to what the child observes around: on the streets, on TV screens, and, unfortunately, sometimes at home. Probably, in this case, it is best to explain to the child that there is a time and place for certain words. Perhaps this statement will cause distrust, surprise, and anger among parents, but, you see, this is better than causing mistrust in children.

It is useless to constantly scold children for using indecent words or prohibit them from saying them. This will make swear words even more attractive in the child’s eyes; he will use them, but will try not to let you hear it. But in this case, other people will hear. Then you will learn information about your child’s behavior from teachers, neighbors, and acquaintances.

So what are psychologist's advice, if the child’s aggressiveness manifests itself in the use of obscene expressions?

• Explain to children that people use curse words only as a last resort, when out of despair they no longer have enough strength and words.
• Watch your own speech.
• If a child asks about the meaning of a particular swear word, you should not shy away from answering. Try to explain to your child the meaning of the word in such a way that he himself does not want to use it. As a last resort, say that the word is so disgusting that you cannot say it out loud.
• If the child is interested in why people say such words, say, for example, that this is what the unrestrained and ill-mannered say when they want to offend or anger another person.
• If a child catches you saying a “bad” word, it makes sense to apologize to him and say that, unfortunately, you could not restrain yourself, you did something bad. Let him know that you sincerely repent, this will bring you closer, and in the future, of course, try to control yourself.

The most common aggression is directedon the people around you.Physical aggression towards others in a child occurs for several reasons:

The desire to assert oneself;

Protection (and best protection attack);

Out of despair;

From incontinence.

If in other cases this occurs due to the child’s lack of self-confidence and anxiety, then this option is an indicator of inability to behave, lack of behavioral skills, spoiledness, and selfishness. To be successful in society, a person must learn to negotiate, give in, restrain his emotions, and express them in a more acceptable way. This needs to be developed from early childhood, based on real situations. The more attention is paid to this in the child’s life, the easier it will be for the teenager to realize himself in the future. After all, the ability to find a compromise and respect the opinions of other people is an integral part of any professional activity.

What to do if a child gets into a fight even for an insignificant reason? Scold him, punish him?

But we ourselves often give vent to negative emotions. Another thing is that most of us know how to restrain anger or express our feelings in more acceptable forms. So the task of parents is to teach their child not so much to restrain and hide their emotions, but rather to teach them to manage them. Children, of course, are more vulnerable, they are easy to offend or deceive, so in most cases, children's aggressiveness is an understandable reaction to insult. This is how a child protests against the prohibitions and restrictions imposed by adults.

It happens that a very hot-tempered child tries to restrain himself in public, but at home he breaks down: he throws tantrums, scandals, is rude to his family, and fights with his brothers and sisters. This manifestation of aggression does not bring him the desired relief. He is unhappy with what happened and feels guilty. This intensifies the tension even more. Vicious circle.

• Adults need to be consistent in their actions towards children. The greatest aggression is shown by children who never knew what kind of reaction from their parents their behavior would cause this time. For example, for the same act, a child, depending on the father’s mood, could receive either punishment or an indifferent reaction.
• Unjustified use of force and threats should be avoided. The abuse of such measures of influence on children forms similar behavior in them and can cause the manifestation of such unpleasant traits in their character as anger, cruelty and stubbornness.
• It is important to help the child learn to control himself and develop self-control. Children need to know about the possible consequences of their actions. The most important thing is to teach the child to discharge himself, get rid of accumulated irritation, and give him the opportunity to use the energy that overwhelms him “for peaceful purposes.” The child should be offered socially appropriate methods for expressing suppressed anger. For example:
• 1. Stay alone in the room and express everything that has accumulated to the address of the one who angered him.

2. When it’s difficult to restrain yourself, you can kick and punch a special pillow, tear a newspaper, crumple up paper, run around the house, hit the bed, write all the words that you want to say in anger.

3. Taking deep breaths or counting to ten before saying or doing something helps to calm down. You can also listen to music, sing loudly or shout along to it

The next direction in which children express aggression is their games. They begin to appear for the first time at 4-5 years. Children are attracted to negative heroes, and many willingly take on the roles of such characters. If we remember our childhood, we can say with confidence that we chose only the roles of positive characters. Modern children grow up with different ideals. This is due to the fact that many negative heroes are more powerful and therefore attractive to the child. If a child does not look good in the eyes of others, then he takes on a negative role. By his choice, he informs those around him: “You say that I am bad, I will be bad, to spite you!” Such a child undoubtedly needs the help of a specialist.

Sometimes aggression is observedin drawings, essaysschoolchildren. This is expressed in predicting various disasters, accidents, and drawing cruel scenes. Such cases most likely illustrate high level child's anxiety. The student experiences constant and long-term failures in his studies, his parents reproach him for not meeting their expectations, and he does not feel supported at home. In this case, it is necessary to reduce the load and help him realize himself in other activities.

Some children, when faced with difficulties, direct their aggression on ourselves. A child can hurt, humiliate, and insult himself. With such manifestations of aggression, it is necessary to contact a child psychiatrist and neurologist as soon as possible. Psychiatrists call such behavior self-injury, or auto-aggression. It is caused by lack of self-confidence, caused by a lack of parental love, warmth, understanding from others, but it can also be a sign of mental illness. Sometimes such behavior can be demonstrative: “Like, this is how bad I feel” or “This is how little I value myself.”

Another type of childhood aggression is cruelty towards to animals. In early childhood, “sadistic” experiments on animals and insects may be based on ordinary curiosity. Young children often torture animals without realizing that they are causing them pain and suffering. In this case, you can simply talk seriously with the child, discussing with him how the animal feels, what it would say if it could speak.

• Watch your child's games. If you notice that during them the child shows aggression towards toys or pets, be wary and try to find the reasons for this. It has long been known that in games children realize and show their dreams, fantasies and fears.
• Discuss with your child what book or cartoon character he wants to be like, why he likes this or that character, or vice versa.
• If a child tells you his dream, don’t brush it off, even if you’re busy. In their dreams, children often see something that causes them strong feelings, something they lack in life. Please contact Special attention on those dream plots that are repeated over and over again.
• Teach your child to talk about what worries him, what he is worried about. Let him get used to talking directly about his feelings, about what he likes and what he doesn’t like. When expressing your thoughts, use the expressions “I’m angry”, “I’m offended”, “I’m upset” to express feelings and enter these words into the active lexicon your child.
• In no case should you call your child names in a fit of anger - he will copy your behavior and words when communicating with both animals and people. The more aggression on your part, the more it will arise in the soul of your son or daughter. Then, unable to respond to their immediate offenders, the children will take it out on the cat, dog, or beat the weaker one.
• Don’t try to correct your child’s antisocial behavior with endless lectures. It’s better to constantly set an example of humane behavior, focus on such examples in life, books, films.

In recent years, psychologists have separately considered such causes of childhood aggression as mass media . The child begins to be influenced by television and cinema programs filled with various manifestations of aggression. Also contributes to aggressioncomputer games. By committing virtual acts of violence in them, the child ceases to see the line between the game and reality.

Aggressive children, whatever the reasons for their behavior, find themselves in a vicious circle. They lack love and understanding from loved ones, but with their behavior they push them away even more. And the hostile attitude of others, in turn, provokes the child, arousing in him feelings of fear and anger. Behavior that is perceived as antisocial is a desperate attempt to attract attention.

So, based on all of the above, the following rules of behavior for parents follow: (parents are given reminders on sheets of paper)

And in general, dear parents, you and I must have great patience...

How can you prevent children's aggression?

IV .Summing up the parent meeting.

Parents are invited to determine the value of this meeting in terms of practical assistance in matters of education.

Parent meeting decision:

1. Discuss the information received and the memo on the topic with family members.

2. Choose a clear strategy for the behavior of all family members in certain situations.

3. Monitor children’s viewing of television programs and the choice of computer games.

4. Teach children to analyze their actions, control their behavior and manage their anger.

5.If necessary, contact specialists.

Literature:

1. Parent meetings. I.F.YatsenkoM.: VAKO, 2008

2. Education of schoolchildren. - No. 5 2007

3. Psychology. Developing activities for children.

/ Comp. M.M.Mironova. – Volgograd: Teacher – AST, 2005. – 112 p.

Application.

Memo for parents.

1. Do not pay attention to the child’s aggressive behavior, do not show rudeness or cruelty yourself. Banning and raising your voice are the most ineffective ways to overcome aggressiveness. The expression of surprise, grief, and bewilderment of loved ones about hostile behavior is what forms restraining principles in children.
2. Try to be attentive to the child and feel his emotional stress.
3. React and respond to any positive changes in the child’s behavior. He wants to feel understood and appreciated at every moment of time.
4. Learn to listen and hear your child.
5. Be able to accept him as he is.
6. More often include warmth, a kind word, and an affectionate look in your communication.

How to prevent children's aggression.

• Try to maintain an atmosphere of openness and trust in your family
• Don't give your child unrealistic promises
• Do not put any conditions on your child.
• Be tactful in taking measures to influence your child.
• Don't punish your child for what you allow yourself to do.
• Do not change your requirements for your child for the sake of something else.
• Don't be afraid to share your feelings and weaknesses with your child.
• Do not make your relationship with your child dependent on his academic success.

Parent meeting

"Children's aggression"

Teacher primary classes Municipal educational institution "Secondary school No. 8" Saransk Klyomina Tatyana Semenovna

Objectives of the meeting:

1 . Discuss with parents the causes of child aggression and its impact on the child’s behavior.

2. To form among parents a culture of understanding the problem of childhood aggression and ways to overcome it.

Participants: class teacher, parents of children in the class, school psychologist.

Organization of parent meetings:

preparing invitations for parents;

survey;

development of a meeting script;

preparation of a memo for parents;

2 slide Man has the ability to love,

and if he cannot find a use for his

ability to love, he is capable of hating,

showing aggression and cruelty. By this means

he is guided as an escape from his own

heartache...

Erich Fromm

Dear moms and dads. The topic of our new meeting is serious and difficult. This is the theme of our children displaying cruelty and aggression.

The age of manifestation of aggression has clearly become younger. Aggression is shown not only by teenagers and adults, but also by children. What is this connected with?

How to deal with childhood aggression? And how we, adults, can help children overcome it. We will try to answer these and other questions.

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Aggression is behavior that causes harm to an object or objects, a person or a group of people.

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Aggression can be physical (using physical force against another person or object, fighting), verbal (violating the rights of another person without physical intervention, quarreling, shouting, screaming), and auto-aggression (self-blame, self-humiliation, self-harm)

In psychology, there are two types of aggression: instrumental and hostile.

Instrumental aggression - manifested by a person to achieve a specific goal. It is very often expressed in young children (I want to take away a toy, an object) In older children, i.e. In our children, hostile aggression aimed at causing pain to a person is more manifested.

Very often, aggression is confused with persistence and assertiveness.

The level of aggressiveness of children varies depending on the situation to a greater or lesser extent, but sometimes aggression takes stable forms. There are many reasons for this behavior: the child’s position in the team, the attitude of peers towards him, relationships with teachers.

The persistent aggressiveness of some children is manifested in the fact that they sometimes understand the behavior of others differently than others, interpreting it as hostile.

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A common cause of childhood aggression is the family situation.

Aggressive behavior of family members in everyday life situations: screaming, swearing, rudeness, humiliating each other, mutual reproaches and insults. Psychologists believe that a child shows aggression in everyday life several times more often where he saw aggression from adults every day, and it became the norm of his life.

Inconsistency of parents in teaching children rules and norms of behavior. This method of raising children is bad because the children do not develop a moral core of behavior: today it is convenient for parents to say one thing, and they impose this line of behavior on the children, tomorrow it is convenient for them to say something else, which is again imposed on the children.

This leads to confusion, anger, and aggression against parents and other people.

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In education, two pairs of important signs can be distinguished that have a positive or negative effect on the formation of child aggressiveness: favor and rejection.

What is it characterized by and how does it influence overcoming aggressiveness? location? The family helps the child:

overcome difficulties

uses the ability to listen to a child in his arsenal

includes warmth, a kind word, and a gentle look in communication.

Rejection, on the contrary, it stimulates children's aggression. It is characterized by indifference, withdrawal from communication, intolerance and authority, hostility to the fact of the child's existence. Rejection of the child leads to the manifestation of such a disease as pediatric hospitalism. What it is? Loneliness, lack of desire to communicate with loved ones, lack of traditions, customs, and laws in the family.

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One of the main conditions for preventing aggressive behavior in children is the demands of parents in relation to themselves and in relation to their own child. A parent who is demanding of himself will never allow him to demand from his child something that he himself does not have in his child. A parent who is demanding of himself is able to analyze the methods of his upbringing and adjust them taking into account the current situation.

Very often, children's aggressiveness is associated precisely with the fact that parents make unreasonable and meaningless demands, while absolutely not showing friendliness and support. You should not give in to whims and make concessions unnecessarily.

The demands placed on the child must be reasonable.

Demandingness is justified when feasible tasks are put forward to the child and feasible assistance is provided in solving them, otherwise it is simply meaningless. Even the most fair and simple demand, if it is not explained and expressed in a despotic form, will cause resistance from any child, even the most flexible one.

The only difference is that a flexible child will express his protest covertly, while a child who is not very flexible will express it openly. It is better to express requirements for younger schoolchildren in a fun way.

In their methods of education, in their demands on the child, parents must be consistent and united. As soon as secrets from each other settle in a family, the trust of parents in each other in raising a child disappears, this will give the child the opportunity to maneuver between parents, blackmail them, lie to them.

If this is successful for a long time, and then a ban is imposed, then, as a rule, the result is a manifestation of aggressiveness on the part of the child.

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In recent years, psychologists have separately considered the cause of childhood aggression as the media. The child begins to be influenced by television programs, movies, and detective stories filled with various manifestations of aggression. Throughout their school years, children spend almost 15 thousand hours watching TV. During this time, they see on average about 13 thousand cases of violent death. Psychologists have found that children who have seen many acts of violence on television are more prone to aggressive actions than children who have not seen them. Computer games also contribute to this. By committing virtual acts of violence in them, the child ceases to see the line between the game and reality. In preparation for the parent-teacher meeting, we conducted a study of children's attitudes towards television programs. I suggest you familiarize yourself with its results.

conclusion

The concept of “aggression” is perceived by us as something out of the ordinary. In fact, this is, first of all, a common phenomenon of relationships between people, an integral part of these relationships.

If a child does not fit in with the class or team, behaves badly, does not obey norms, or is somehow different from others, then, of course, he has his own reasons for this. And this does not mean that we are dealing with a neurotic or any other pathological symptom.

The same child can get along well in one group and not fit in at all in another. Or this year he may feel good in the team, but next year he may not, because five old friends left the class and new children came to replace them. But this does not mean that this child suddenly became neurotic. Only the situation has changed. Perhaps an aggressive child is experiencing serious problems at home.

Our meeting is coming to an end. I really want it to be useful for you and make you think.

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Here are some tips:

Learn to hear your children.

Try to make sure that only you, the parents, relieve their emotional stress.

Don't stop your children from expressing negative emotions.

Learn to accept and love them for who they are.

(Memos for parents)

Dear fathers and mothers!

Please read this memo carefully! Mentally cross out those points that do not concern your family’s educational system, imagine your child’s face, be honest with him and with yourself! After analysis, think about what else you can change. It's not too late!

A child's aggressiveness manifests itself when:

the child is beaten;

the child is being bullied;

they make cruel jokes on the child;

the child is made to feel a sense of undeserved shame;

parents deliberately lie;

parents drink and get into trouble;

parents raise their child with double morals;

parents do not know how to love their children equally;

parents do not trust the child;

parents pit the child against each other;

parents do not communicate with their child;

entrance to the house is closed to the child’s friends;

parents show petty care and concern to the child;

parents live their own lives, the child feels that he is not loved.

Reminders for parents

"GOLDEN"

rules of education

Learn to listen and hear your child.

Try to make sure that only you relieve his emotional stress.

Don't stop your children from expressing negative emotions.

Learn to accept and love him for who he is.

Obedience, obedience and diligence will be where they are presented reasonably.

The aggressiveness of the family leads to aggressive manifestations in the child’s behavior.

How to prevent childhood aggression

1. Do not give your child unrealistic promises, do not fill his soul with unrealistic hopes.

3. Do not put any conditions on your child.

4. Be tactful in taking measures to influence the child.

5. Don't punish your child for what you allow yourself to do.

6. Do not change your requirements for your child to please anything.

7. Don't blackmail your child with your relationship with each other.

9. Do not make your relationship with your own child dependent on his educational success.

VII. Decision of the meeting.

Observe your child’s emotional state in different environments.

Focus on positive emotions.

Follow family rules for overcoming childhood aggression.