Are all people capable of changing their destiny? How to change the fate of an ordinary person? What and who is stopping us from doing this? What are the algorithms for changing fate? The article answers these questions.

Why do people want to change their fate?

There seem to be many reasons for this desire. We are all dissatisfied with our lives because we are sick of comparison. We compare ourselves with others. Compare with the ideal. Psychologists will stop there and advise you to accept yourself and get rid of your evaluation addiction. Finita la comedy.

This is all complete bullshit. Evaluative dependence clings to us and keeps us at the level of consciousness. Coldness, melancholy and pain, which force us to look for ways to change our fate, sit deeper. At the very core of our being.

There are only two reasons to want to change your life. We want to change when we feel hurt or cramped. All. The rest is just a consequence of these reasons.

Pain can be physical - illness, injury, abnormalities in the central nervous system.

It can be mental - our “I” suffers from real or imaginary humiliation. Poverty, failures, obscurity, one’s own weakness of will.

The second reason is crowding. We are different. Some are wide and/or deep inside, while others are narrow and/or shallow. Psychologists who advise you to come to terms with yourself, meaning your position in life, are either stupid or hypocritical. They advise people what they cannot do themselves. They teach what is a deliberate lie. If you have 2 centimeters of layer, of course, you can easily accept it, but what if you have 1222?

If you were born to rule, paint pictures and act in films, heal people and be an awesome lover. What if you have it all? Resign yourself to the fate of office plankton? A seller at the market? A patrol sergeant? A single mother living on alms from relatives and benefits? Will not work! You will be suffocated by cramped conditions all your life. A feeling of emptiness and a cold ceiling that you are up against.

I will repeat. The desire to change your destiny comes from pain or cramped conditions.

Is it possible to change fate and who is capable of it?

I would like to say that everyone can do this, but this would not be true. Having become familiar with the research of sociologists different countries, I reconsidered my views. Not everyone is capable of change. It is a fact. A terrible fact that cannot be avoided.

True, my readers, by virtue of their search, do not belong to an absolutely inert group. This means there is a chance that my work is not in vain.

Society consists of people of different temperaments, characters and mentalities. However, we are all subject to social laws that are as immutable as physical laws.

Whether we like it or not, we are all within our own groups. I'm not talking about social strata, although this also matters. Talking about groups whose boundaries are determined by our biochemistry and mental organization. One of them is passionarity, the other is the ability to adapt, the third is the degree of psychosomatic control. We'll talk about them.

I will not give strict scientific definitions or express myself in the clerical language of sociologists. In a lively and accessible form, I will give an example of division based on the principle of creativity and the direction of intelligence. I’ll tell you about the laws of stupidity and explain how to change your destiny no matter what.

Inertia of thinking and change of fate

All of us, some earlier, some later, become inert. For some, inertia starts at 20 years old, for others it is closer to 30 years. This will be determined by biology and fate scenarios..

We are becoming like a steam locomotive. Every year the speed of the locomotive is higher, the carriages have more experience and prejudices. Only exceptional circumstances, for example a situation of clinical death, are capable of switching the arrows. Change the rails on which the locomotive rolls. You can do it yourself, but then you have to stop.

Imagine what it’s like to stop a loaded train rushing at full speed? That's it - a lot of energy is required. And you can’t stop it right away. Our locomotive will break down and the cars will fly off the rails. This happens when a person is forcibly removed from his environment for a long time. Or he became an ardent sectarian. Do you know what I mean?

Only coercion makes nature move, including human nature. Nothing changes unnecessarily, least of all human personality. It is monstrously conservative, if not inert. Only dire need can scare her away. Likewise, the development of personality obeys neither desire, nor order, nor intention, but only necessity: the personality needs motivating coercion from destinies, coming from within or coming from without.

It turns out that only 4 categories of people can change their lives for the better without terrible losses. There are few people of the third category, and practically none of the fourth.

B. The second category is those who have few cars. They managed to throw out all the trash in their lives themselves or with someone’s help. For example, by completing the “Psychodoping” training or its analogues. Their composition is light. Accordingly, little energy is required.

C. Third - those who have a huge supply of energy and strength. These are exceptional people. Real charismatics, capable of great things. Or people who accumulate this energy for a long time and persistently. For example, devotees of self-development systems.

You ask: “What does strength have to do with the third group?” The fact is that the train will have to be stopped at full speed. Otherwise, it will drag on for many years.

The above applies to fundamental changes. Major renovation life, otherwise - a complete change in fate. Cosmetic changes that don't affect the basics are easy to make. The entire arsenal of practical psychology can help here. Even more effective are systems such as Simoron, Transurfing, LOLA, Freeskiing, FIG. The latter, however, do not work without faith. My analogue, Achievable Tales, does not have this drawback, but requires serious study.

I repeat - all these systems can easily cope with cosmetic changes in life. They are not capable of turning a beggar into a wealthy person or raising a disabled person to his feet.

Under what circumstances do changes in fate occur?

The circumstances can be anything, but, in essence, there are three options.

The first is that a person experiences clinical death. Irreversible changes occur in his brain - a deep restructuring of neural connections. This is physiology. If we take spiritual experience, it is the experience of death/rebirth with a possible exit beyond the sphere of the material world. Those who experience a transphysical experience never return to their previous lives.

Secondly, a person finds himself in unbearable conditions. All his strengths and abilities are mobilized for survival. If the time spent in borderline conditions is long, the picture of the world changes irreversibly. Accordingly, a change in fate occurs.

The third option is that a person, at the cost of incredible efforts, remakes his life or uses special techniques based on knowledge inaccessible to the general mass.

How to find out and change your destiny?

Can you trust astrologers, palmists, oracles?

It is impossible to find out fate using the combinatorics of any mantic system (astrology, tarot, runes). Of course, an impressionable person will be able to fit events into vague, generalized answers. But this is self-deception.

If a person does not believe in these systems, not a single horoscope and not a single fortune teller will ever predict his fate with an accuracy exceeding 50%. This is as much as reading social and hidden body signals can provide.

Without communicating with the client, the accuracy on a piece of paper will drop to 15-25%. There will remain common moments that, according to the theory of probability, all people experience. Unique events will slip by.

Therefore, astrologers and fortune tellers try to communicate. They are good psychologists and, filling the heads of the gullible, find out about their past and hang self-fulfilling prophecies.

Since his youth, the author communicated with astrologers and predictors of exceptional talents. Some are known in narrow (and some in wide) circles not only in our country. These are people who are considered phenomena. So predict my fate even in general outline Not a single one could! They later attributed it to the individual, but in those days no internal changes occurred.

Absolutely everyone was wrong in the most fundamental moments. They just didn't see them. And these are phenomena! And many believe newspaper forecasts.

How to find out your destiny?

Finding out and changing fate is possible only as a result of analyzing the past and adequately assessing the present. Moreover, the analysis of the past should not be limited to compiling a list different situations and sighing over mistakes and missed opportunities.

We must understand that often it is not the events themselves that are important, but our attitude towards them. Not the elections themselves, but the reasons that prompted them. Changing your destiny requires high awareness. Reasons for most actions ordinary person prosaic. Momentary desires and whims, laziness and conceit rule us completely.

I will repeat. Often what is important is not the events themselves, but our attitude towards them, not the elections themselves, but the reasons that prompted them.

Sometimes the choices that seem important to us, the actions that leave marks in our memory, actually mean nothing. We make a mountain out of a molehill and drag it along with us for the rest of our lives.

Or, on the contrary, we pass, without looking back, past the only choice that can turn our lives around and make us a successful and happy person.

Why is this happening? Because the mind keeps in focus only the momentary, plus fantasies about the present and future, memories of the past. The rest is lost. I give examples.

You are walking down the street, immersed in your own sad thoughts about loneliness. You pass by a bus stop and don’t notice a girl following you with an interested look. But it is with this girl that you could be happy.

The fifth person in a week suggests you go somewhere. You brush off this ridiculous proposal. If I had gone, I would have met there a classmate who had become very rich and was in an excellent mood, turning over candidates for possible partners in his head.

Fortunately, I have an excellent tool for comprehensively analyzing my past and calculating favorable moments. Those very days and those very places. Look at the posts “Map of Life – Periods”, “Map of Life – Cycles”, “Map of Life – Algorithms of Fate”.

How to change your destiny right now?

Let's talk about what you should do as soon as you read the article. Here and now, without postponing anything for later. To understand the essence of some techniques, you will have to touch a little on sociology, psychology and neurophysiology.

Who is stopping us from changing our lives?

Stupidity is the first and most important factor. Our own and the stupidity of others. As proof, there are research results that resemble the notorious Parkinson’s laws. True, unlike the latter, there is no smell of jokes here.

Before getting acquainted with the laws of stupidity, let's define the terms.

A fool or a fool is a person who causes harm to himself and others without any benefit to himself.

We must understand that stupidity, committed with intent, without intent, with the best intentions, consciously and unconsciously, always brings harm to others. In fact, the reasons for the actions taken do not matter.

Laws of stupidity

The real number of stupid people in your environment is higher than you think.

Consequences of the law

No matter how reasonable the plan is, if more than 2 people are involved in its implementation, the number of errors increases with each new participant.

99% of failed projects, all other things being equal, failed due to the stupidity of partners and performers.

Stupidity does not depend on personal qualities.

Explanation

Almost all of us are captured by assessments based on personal qualities. A kind and honest person seems better to us than a callous egoist. All this is true, but stupidity does not depend on spiritual qualities. Good or evil, honest or lying fool – sometimes it doesn’t matter. Both of them will ruin the assigned task in the same way. Both will harm you with their unpredictability.

Consequence of the law

When choosing partners and performers, rely primarily on intelligence and experience.

The average number of stupid people in a team of more than 6 people is a constant value.

Explanation

Neither the size of the team, nor the level of training of its members, nor race, nor nation, nor gender, nor cultural level matter. The ratio of the number of fools to others is a constant.

Moreover, if someone tries to break this law by gathering a group of outstanding people, some of them begin to act stupidly.

Therefore.

If you test the actions of loaders, laborers, office workers or professors, the percentage of fools will be the same.

You can never protect yourself from a fool in a team. You shouldn't try to do this. Efforts should be directed toward proper delegation of responsibility.

A smart person always underestimates the danger of stupidity.

Explanation

An intelligent person is rational. He calculates his actions and the actions of others. Because of this, a false knowledge of the nature of people arises. False knowledge is worse than complete ignorance. Why? Because the latter causes fear, and the former relaxes.

A smart person is captive to the stereotype of rationality, otherwise he rationalizes the actions of others. A fool does not obey logic; he is driven by instincts, whims and suggestions from the outside. A fool is dangerous because of his unpredictability. First of all, he is dangerous to himself. It’s not for nothing that they say that fools are beaten at the altar.

Therefore.

If you're planning to do something, don't take a fool as your partner and don't even tell him about it.

We are all susceptible to stupidity to a greater or lesser extent. I want to give you a great gift - a formula for stupidity. I think you will find a use for it.

Formula for stupidity

Stupidity = emotions + time limit + false knowledge (behavior patterns and thinking patterns)

By reducing the importance of any factor, you will reduce the amount of stupidity.

The most stupid actions arise from the intensity of emotions with a minimum of time to make a decision. Emotional decisions are generally 99% wrong. With regard to patterns of behavior and thinking, the most significant example is the experiment with a labyrinth.

The founders of NLP, Richard Bandler and John Grinder, described their experience of finding out the difference in the behavior of rats and people. Rats placed in a maze had to search for cheese. They found it and memorized the moves. The cheese was transferred, and everything started all over again. People were looking for $50 bills.

The rats entered the place where the cheese was removed 2-3 times and continued their search again. People went into places where banknotes used to be kept all the time. Moreover, the majority stopped searching and went only there.

People are strange creatures. On every second website with the topic of self-development they write that we, doing the same actions, try to get different results. People come in, read, agree and continue to step on the old rake. Well, isn't it crazy? Both in the laboratory maze and in life, we quickly form patterns that we are then unable to jump out of. Rats in this regard behave smarter and more practical than us.

Conclusion. To the question of how to change your destiny, right now there is only one answer - to get out of the maze of your patterns immediately. There are excellent tools – the “Psychodoping” and “Erasing Fear” trainings. The first will break social and psychological patterns, the second will remove your fears.

I'll wrap it up here and wish you good luck!

The ability to reach the alpha level, positive thinking, mastering the possibilities of imagination, getting rid of fear, guilt, victim psychology, gaining self-confidence - all this will allow you to easily get rid of old unwanted programs in your life and lay down new programs.

If you are satisfied with your life and everything is fine with you, then you, of course, do not need to do this. But still think about it: what would you really want for yourself? What goals are you striving for? What is the result of your efforts? Is this really the result you want?

Most people live not according to their own, but according to other people’s programs, but very often they don’t even know about it. The fact is that these other people's programs are laid in us latently - primarily by upbringing, by the influence that our parents and other significant and authoritative people had on us.

As a result, we can spend our whole lives trying to earn the approval of these people, even if they have not been around for a long time. We try our best to meet their expectations. And in the end we only get disappointment - because it brings us neither satisfaction nor success.

Think about what life goals and objectives your parents set for you. What life program did they lay out for you? Are you following this program? Maybe you unconsciously imitate your parents and in some way repeat their own life program? Do you like it? Do you feel happy? Do you feel like you are living your life?

Parental programming isn't necessarily a bad thing. It just may be right for your parents and not right for you.

We are often forced to follow someone else's program (including our parents') due to a false sense of duty. Maybe you say: “I must continue my father’s work.” Or you think: “I should be like my mother and live like her.” If it makes you happy, that's okay. But it often happens that a person pulls this strap with force, thinking that he “should,” although this does not bring him any joy.

Remember, your real duty is only one thing - to live in harmony with yourself and feel happy. Then you will live your own life, not someone else's.

Undesirable programs in your life could also be laid by teachers, friends, various organizations, the media, public opinion, which you want to please even to your own detriment.

Also, unwanted programs could be created by events of the past - those mistakes that you made once and now do not know how to correct.

All these problems have a solution. Reprogramming will allow you to free yourself from the influence of other people's programs and unwanted events of the past.

You will break all the barriers and shackles that prevent you from living the life you want. You will be able to create your own life programs that will lead you to your own goals and allow you to find your own happiness and success.

The programming process itself includes two stages: in the first stage, you “erase” unwanted programs installed in the past; at the second stage, you create new programs for yourself that will lead you to success.

The problems you face in the present very often grow out of the past. Undesirable past events may have given you an unconstructive behavior program. For example, in distant childhood some kind of conflict or skirmish with peers could have occurred, from which you could not emerge victorious. As a result, you could become stuck in the role of a loser, a weakling who always loses. You may have already forgotten that long-ago event, but its consequences still make you suffer and do not allow you to achieve what you deserve.

It also happens that you remember well the unwanted events of the past and continue to torment yourself because of them: “How could I behave like this? Why didn’t you act differently?”

This is also an unconstructive position. Worrying about the past means wasting your strength and energy. You still cannot cancel the event itself. This means that all that remains is to accept it as is – and then change your attitude towards it.

First, let's remember that in the past we behaved in the way that was only possible for us at that moment. Therefore, even if we started life all over again, we would still do everything exactly the same.

Secondly, let's not forget that events in themselves cannot be desirable or undesirable - only our attitude towards them makes them so. By changing our attitude, we can turn any event that seems undesirable to us into desirable and useful.

And thirdly, let us understand well that quite a lot of time has passed since the last event that negatively affected our lives, during which we managed to change - to become adults, more mature and wise people. Now, of course, we would behave differently in that situation. This means that right now we can reconsider our behavior and attitude towards the events of the past and thereby “rewrite” them.

The event itself will remain in your past and will not go away. But changing your attitude towards it will give it a completely new meaning. Your task is to change your attitude so that the event stops affecting you negatively and begins to influence you positively.

For example, you want to “rewrite” a situation in which you were offended or felt weak. Enter the alpha state and remember that situation again. Then place it on an imaginary screen. See yourself from this past as brightly and voluminously as possible. Then imagine that you, the present one, approach that past self and say that you are a messenger from the future and have arrived to give him new abilities and help him get out of an unpleasant situation. You can give your past self, for example, the ability to laugh at that situation. Or the ability to feel strong, unbroken, maintaining self-esteem no matter what. After all, even if you were humiliated, this does not mean that you have to feel humiliated!

Then imagine how you behave differently in that past situation - after all, you are already endowed with new qualities that came to you from your own future. You can then place this new image in a white frame and enlarge it, and enclose the old images in a blue frame, reduce it, and then dissolve it. If you do everything successfully, then the memory of that past event, although it will remain with you, will no longer oppress you. It can begin to cause only neutral emotionally reaction, maybe even positive. Despite the fact that the event itself has not changed, only your perception has changed. But this means that the past has lost its power over you and it will no longer program you to repeat such unwanted events in the future.

Keep in mind: we only seem to remember thoroughly the unpleasant events of the past. In fact, we remember not so much an event as our attitude towards it and the impression it made on us. That is, our memories are quite subjective. This means that we can always look at an event from a different angle and change our attitude towards it. Then the problem that this event created in our lives will disappear.

Try to return to this practice periodically. You need to “rewrite” the past whenever you feel that memories of the past are weighing you down, taking away your strength and preventing you from living the way you want. Approach the events of the past with your current experience, change your attitude towards them, and you will understand that even from events that seemed negative to you, you can learn from experience and important lessons for yourself. This way you will begin to benefit from absolutely any event. And with each such experience you can congratulate yourself practically on a new birth. With this experience, your problems will gradually disappear. And you will be born again, as a self-confident and strong person, capable of building your own life.

When you begin to “rewrite” undesirable past events in order to change your perception of them from undesirable to positive, you will have new strength to move towards success. The past will no longer take your energy and program you for failure. This means that you have passed the first stage of reprogramming your life: you have erased unwanted images of the past. Now you can begin the second stage: start creating new programs for yourself - those that will help you achieve success, fulfill your desires and live the way you want.

You can proceed to this stage even if you are not yet sure that you have completely “rewritten” the past. You can return to this practice again and again, which will not prevent you from simultaneously mastering the second stage - creating new programs in your life.

For this purpose, José Silva proposes a method he calls the “Central Stage Technique.” To use this technique, you must imagine that you are in a theater where a play consisting of three acts is being performed. Accordingly, the three stages of this technique are called three acts.

Before you begin this technique, think about what situation in your life you want to change. The fact is that this technique only solves one problem at a time. You can't reprogram your entire life at once. This technique is designed for repeated use. Gradually, with its help, you will be able to change all those circumstances that do not suit you. But you need to start with one. To begin with, it is better to choose what worries you most - for example, lack of money, or problems at work, or family relationships, etc.

To solve each specific problem, the technique will need to be applied for three days according to the following scheme: on the first day you play all three acts, on the second day only the second and third acts, on the third day only the third act.

This way you will create a full-fledged effective program to change the situation for the better.

First read the description of all three acts, and then you can begin to perform the technique.

Go to the alpha level in any way convenient for you and imagine that you are going to the theater. So you approach the doors of the theater, go inside, then enter the auditorium and take your place, which is in the middle of the third row. You sit comfortably in a chair and wait for the curtain to rise.

Now the curtain rises - and behind it you see very familiar scenery. They correspond to the situation in your life that you want to change.

Then you see yourself and perhaps other people who are related to your problem in this scenery. The performance begins. You see the events that you least like in your life unfold on stage. You see a reflection of a situation that is undesirable for you in bright images and pictures, with sound and light, in dynamics and volume. You do not forget that you are a spectator, but you still sympathetically perceive what is happening on stage, become emotionally involved and empathize.

Allow events to unfold in their entirety, in detail and detail - even if you don’t find it very pleasant.

But finally the first act is over. A heavy curtain falls, covering the unpleasant scene. Imagine writing the huge word “NO!” in big red letters on a curtain. or, for example, the phrase “This won’t happen again!” Then tell yourself, “I am now freed from all the past feelings that tied me to this scene.”

While the curtain is down, you can during intermission think about how the same situation could have been played out differently. What if instead of you there was some hero on stage who seems perfect and almost ideal to you - but at the same time someone with whom you would like to identify yourself? Remember that this is a game and you can pretend to be anyone in it. And if your favorite literary hero or some historical figure were in your place, how would he behave?

In the next act, it will no longer be just you on stage - but you in the role of the ideal hero you have chosen. Think about what result you would like to achieve and by what specific date you dream of making your desire come true.

You are still in a comfortable seat in the middle of the third row. The curtain rises and you see the same scenery on stage. Now your favorite hero is on stage - but you imagine that you are playing his role. You have changed by becoming him. You think, feel and act differently. The situation is the same - but you have the power to change it. Imagine how your hero behaves, what he says, what he does. Lead this role so that ultimately the situation changes the way you need. That is, you, as a hero on stage, successfully resolved all conflicts, found new job, received a promotion, etc. - depending on what you want.

Clearly see how your hero achieves what he wants on stage. He has successfully made your dream come true. You rejoice and applaud him.

Then imagine the curtain coming down. Mentally write on it in big red letters the words: “This is better!” And tell yourself: “This is how it should be.”

In the third act, it is no longer the ideal hero who will appear on stage, albeit in your performance, but you yourself. Only you will act in the same way as the ideal hero acted in the second act. Imagine that everything best qualities the ideal hero has been transferred to you and you yourself are now ready to achieve the same result as him.

You are still in a comfortable seat in the middle of the third row. The curtain rises, the same scenery is still on it. You are on stage, but you are new, having acquired the qualities of an ideal hero. Now you act in the same way as he acted, and achieve the same desired result for you. You applaud yourself, and when the curtain closes, you mentally write on it in big red letters the words: “It’s getting better and better!” And then tell yourself: “This is how it will be.”

This is where the performance ends.

“As we learn, we all make “mistakes.” What appears to be a mistake may just be a learning curve that sets us on the right course of action.

We know we can't create better world inaction - only action.

We are given the power to create - to create new ideas and then put them into physical forms.

When we are in the alpha level, we are able to move forward and backward in time. This is called eternity. We are capable of projecting our minds to infinity. We can know things that seem impossible to know—we are omniscient. We have the power to change unwanted or abnormal circumstances—we are omnipotent.”

(Jose Silva, Robert Stone. Receiving help from the “other side” using the Silva method)

This exercise should be performed when you feel that the programs laid down in the past seem to be holding you back, preventing you from being yourself and doing the things you would like to do. This visualization will help you feel a state of inner freedom and, thanks to this, begin to free yourself from the shackles that hinder you.

Sit in a comfortable position, relax and reach the alpha level in any way convenient for you. Imagine a river with a dam in its path. The river, which cannot overcome the dam, overflows and turns into a lake. This dam symbolizes the barriers and shackles that are created in your life by past programs and beliefs that limit you.

Imagine that the water pressure becomes greater and greater - and finally the dam cannot stand it and collapses. The freed water gushes in stormy streams, again creating a channel for itself - the stagnant lake again becomes a full-flowing river.

Imagine that your consciousness has also been liberated - your thoughts flow freely and easily, they are no longer restrained by any shackles. Now your thoughts are not controlled by the beliefs and restrictions imposed on you. No one can influence you, even the most influential people are powerless - you can listen to their opinion, but only you and no one else will control and direct your consciousness in the right direction.

Return to this visualization periodically - and your life will begin to noticeably change for the better.

You can change your life for the better every day by programming for yourself how you will spend the next day so that it is perfect. It is best to do this in the evening, before bed. Your task is to mentally live the next day as if you were watching a movie about yourself.

Think about your daily routine. When you “live” the scenario of the future day in your imagination, be sure to record the time at which certain events occur. To do this, you can imagine a clock, any one that is convenient for you - wrist, wall or alarm clock.

Enter the alpha level. Imagine yourself waking up and standing up. On the clock you see your normal wake-up time. You feel great. You have slept, rested, are cheerful and full of strength. You get ready for work slowly, because you have everything in order and everything is under control.

And so on, hour by hour, “live” your entire next day the way you want to live it - so that the day becomes ideal, joyful, successful. Imagine how various pleasant events fill this day, and if any problems arise, they are resolved easily and in the best way for you.

Finish this visualization with an image of yourself – joyful, happy with how the day went.

Then you can fall asleep in pleasant anticipation of the next good day.

If time allows, you can do this exercise in the morning, thus programming yourself for the coming day.

Sometimes we, unwittingly, program our minds to do unwanted, unconstructive actions for us. Programming, both negative and positive, is carried out with the help of the imagination, the images it creates, as well as with the help of words. Think about whether you have a habit of saying out loud or mentally similar phrases, addressed to yourself or others:

I'm afraid I'll get sick.

Be careful, don't fall (don't trip, don't get burned, don't break the cup, etc.)!

Hurry up or you'll miss the train!

This kind of life is a complete headache.

I'm bad with money.

I'm worried about the future.

Etc.

Keep in mind that such phrases and thoughts have powerful destructive potential, especially if they are accompanied by negative emotions. Emotions, like images, are a means of programming our lives. Therefore, do not be surprised if exactly what you are afraid of happens in your life: you are afraid of getting sick - and you get sick, you warn your child not to break a cup - and he immediately breaks it, etc. All these consequences are not an accident , you created them yourself with your negative programming.

Unfortunately, most people have been accustomed to such negative programming since childhood. But the situation can and should be corrected. To do this, every time you catch yourself in a negative thought or phrase, go to the alpha level and imagine a positive development of the event that you fear. For example, see yourself, your loved ones and children absolutely healthy, handling dishes carefully, being on time everywhere and calm about your future. Then be sure to reprogram your own thinking - for which you need to utter, for example, the following phrases more often:

I am an optimistic person. I expect success in everything.

I'm getting better and more confident every day.

I create my life joyful and prosperous.

I'm ready for happy changes.

Life says yes to me and I say yes to life.

Don't forget to develop your skills this way. positive thinking every day.

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1. Approval of others

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Listen to advice - please, but don't let others decide how to live.

2. Anger and resentment

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New perception of the world.

First we will practice forgiveness, and then reprogramming our own destiny. Two tasks can be completed in a month, two weeks per task.

The information in the assignments is given in a concentrated form (in fact, many, many books could be written on this topic). Therefore, if you want this information to reach you better, read it slowly, trying to comprehend what you read, and find something similar in your life experience. Constantly stop and comprehend what you read. By trying to independently comprehend what you read, you will better master the information, which means you will get more benefit from it.

Take the tasks seriously, but don't bother if something doesn't work out yet. If one thing doesn't work, do another. Sometimes one task is better for some, and another is better for others - this is normal. Although I think it is better to strive to do everything to the maximum. Then there will be a good result for sure.

Again, these assignments are read by people with different worldviews and different ages. For some this information will be new, for others it will be a repetition of the old. If you feel that you lack information and you intend to work well on the practices, read additional literature. It will allow you to dive into the issue and begin to understand it better. At the end of the article I will write what else you can read.

So, we perform the first task for two weeks (20 minutes each), in the morning or in the evening (more is possible if you want to speed up the process, less is not possible). If you have accumulated too many grievances (as a rule, this happens quite often), then perform forgiveness practices as soon as you have a free minute, so after a month of productive work, you will be able to disconnect from almost all destructive channels. Of course, from time to time you will connect to them, which is the norm for the average person, just don’t worry about it, the ideal in nature only exists among holy people and great martyrs.

Then in the third week (or a month later), we continue to complete the first task when it is most convenient for you. And the second task is an addition to the first (but you will have to work with it more, so prepare for this in advance). Those. During the third and fourth weeks we complete tasks simultaneously.

First week of the "forgiveness" task.

It is important because next week we will begin to reprogram ourselves, make ourselves charming and attractive, businesslike and self-confident individuals, improve our living conditions, and therefore influence our destiny.

Here it is important to understand that if a person has failures in fate, they are a consequence of his connection to destructive channels.

If you start reprogramming your subconscious, your failures will go away. But if grievances and negativity remain in a person, his connection to destructive channels will also remain - therefore, an imbalance will be created. It can result, if not in failure by fate, then in illness. This is what I often observed when a cadet began to practice smiling without adjusting her attitude to life - she developed various diseases, often stomach problems. This happens due to the fact that in her subconscious there are strong grievances against fate, and she suddenly begins to smile, show joy, and radiate charm. The subconscious cannot “digest” it new model world, so stomach problems appear.

If you work with the practices of forgiveness, your consciousness will accept a new model of worldview and behavior, and then you can smile calmly and radiate charm without having health problems.

Serious failures in fate, as a rule, are the result of resentment towards parents (their improper upbringing), resentment towards strangers, resentment towards fate. You need to ask for forgiveness for grievances and let them go. If this is not done first, there will be failures according to fate.

How does this happen?

For example, a girl has reprogrammed herself to be charming and attractive to men. But she has strong grievances against her father, which she has not worked through and has not forgiven. As a result, an imbalance will be created, since grievances against the father are grievances against men in general. According to the law of fate, she is not supposed to be charming and attractive, so as not to communicate with men she likes and not suffer from this - but she, having reprogrammed herself, became charming. So she meets a man, communicates with him, enjoys falling in love and her ability to charm him, but in her heart she hates him fiercely, although she may not realize it (since the connection to the destructive channel remains). And as a result, because of the internal negativity that has not gone away, he gets sick (physical and moral punishment in childhood are always grievances that remain in a person’s body and affect him in a negative way). Often these are female diseases (erosions, cysts, inflammatory processes, fibroids, etc.)

I will describe this process in a little more detail. For example, a girl hated her father (mother) because he punished her by locking her alone in her room or leaving the house. Or he was deprived of his attention (communication) for bad grades at school. When she grows up and has a man, she will hate him fiercely when he is busy with his own affairs, or spending time with friends. Although she may not be aware of her hatred. Old grievances against the father will bind new grievances against the man. Her subconscious will decide to protect her and give her, for example, an erosion or a cyst (so that she does not get close to a man, does not have sex with him). And this will happen until the girl forgives her parents and understands that she herself is the reason misbehavior parents in the past and their grievances against them.

Here I wrote only one reason why it is important to FORGIVE before reprogramming yourself for success in different areas of life. But in fact, there are thousands of reasons, starting with diseases and ending with some failures. And so that you don’t have these problems, first practice the practice of forgiveness.

It is important for you to understand that if you have grievances against people or life circumstances, fate gives you complexes for some similar moments. For example, it deprives you of charm, or the ability to achieve goals, lead a business lifestyle, lead people, etc. If you want to reprogram yourself for success in some area of ​​your life, first think about where and with whom you need to work on forgiveness. And first practice forgiveness, and then engage in your own reprogramming and development of the abilities you need.

That is, you make a list for yourself of those with whom you are very offended, and practice forgiveness towards them. Start with those you remember, the rest will come to mind later.

It is also important to forgive yourself for your failures - this also needs to be done. And it is important to forgive fate if it offended you somewhere (that is, for unpleasant episodes in life). In this case, you can say: “Fate, I forgive you for giving me a bad job and not giving me the opportunity to earn good money. I am grateful to you for giving me the opportunity to be born and experience so much happiness! Please You have forgiveness for all negative thoughts and emotions towards you." In short, it is important to come to an understanding. Then you will connect to a constructive channel - and good luck will appear in life.

I don’t particularly like to write about metaphysical problems and ways to solve them, since I understand that your consciousness will also be skeptical about my texts. But as my long-term practice of working with women's problems has shown, when a cadet begins to WANT to forgive her parents, former unsuccessful relationships with men, problems with self-realization and grievances about fate - and simply accepts on faith that she herself is the source of her problems for various reasons that are incomprehensible to her consciousness of the reasons - her problems are solved.

Therefore, I will tell you about different possible reasons your failures in life, and I suggest you simply accept them on faith, bypassing your skepticism. When you can forgive the failures of fate and reprogram yourself for success, your faith will strengthen.

Having been born to certain parents, a person receives all the problems of their kind (narrow views on life, the habit of thinking in terms of poverty that passes from generation to generation, uncompromising judgments, the inability to cultivate strong-willed qualities in children, the desire to live not according to conscience, etc.) to take offense at your parents doesn't make sense. But it is important to learn to forgive them and thank fate for this opportunity.

We get setbacks by fate, unpleasant life episodes for only one reason. TO LEARN CORRECTLY, THINK AND SPIRITUALLY GROW.

If it is important for a person in this life to learn to forgive and thank God and fate, he gets bad parents.

That is, parents are given to us in order to TEACH us what we need.

And it is our responsibility to be grateful that our parents gave us the opportunity to be born on this earth and taught us lessons, giving us the opportunity to learn forgiveness, gratitude and the ability to see things from a broader perspective.

Parents are our opportunities in life.

Forgiveness of parents is not possible without your COMPASSION.

I’ll tell you what this means with an example.

One woman wrote to me that she was very offended by her father because he often beat her as a child. Physical punishment and insults that hurt the soul were the norm in their family. In addition, she was very offended by her mother, in her words, “For indifference to her.” Her mother was never particularly protective of her daughter, and thought it was normal for her father to abuse her. As a result, Maria (that was the woman’s name) grew up downtrodden and insecure; she constantly met only scoundrels and tyrants in her life, starting with her boyfriend and ending with her boss. All her male surroundings reminded her of her tyrant father.

Naturally, she never succeeded in forgiveness, since her strong anger at her parents did not allow her to look at the situation differently. And she really wanted to forgive, because she understood that her perception of life was what attracted her to failures in relationships with the male sex.

I suggested that Maria find out what kind of upbringing her parents received in childhood.

It turned out that her grandfather (dad’s father) was severely shell-shocked during the war and suffered mental disorders. Sometimes, when he felt completely ill, he would chase his son around the yard with an ax and shout: “I’ll chop the bastard,” and this was done even for the slightest offense. Due to such a difficult upbringing in childhood, my father accumulated a lot of aggression, which he poured out on his household. Of course, he loves his children and feels sorry for them, worries about their fate, and would not even like to punish them so cruelly in childhood - but he could not act otherwise, no matter how hard he tried.

As a child, her mother had a stepfather who did not love his stepdaughter, unlike his children. As a result, she grew up with such low self-esteem and fear of somehow showing her individuality in life - that she put up with any actions of her husband. Her mother lived her whole life with the fear that her husband would leave her. Mental trauma received in childhood did not allow her to build a normal relationship with her husband. But what else could be expected from her behavior?

Having realized all this, Maria was so imbued with sympathy for her parents that now, when meeting them, she constantly asks about their well-being, strives to hug her mother, and do something nice for them. Forgiveness was very easy, and now Maria strives to take care of her parents with pleasure.

As a result, her relationships with men changed beyond recognition. For some reason, her tyrant boss suddenly became a normal person, with a very kind heart and a cheerful character. She just can’t understand why she was so afraid of him before?.. Now she enjoys going to work, especially since she was promoted.

She and her boyfriend broke up quite easily, although before she was so afraid of losing him! Now Maria is very picky about her choice of friends. Even her friends turned from selfish and callous people into kind and sympathetic women.

Perhaps this happened because Mary learned to sympathize with people, understand that they act badly not because they themselves are bad, but as a result of their upbringing and worldview.

TO FEEL means to be able to tune in to the feelings of other people, to better understand their behavior and actions, to be able to notice good character traits, to tune in to the best manifestations of their soul.

The practice of forgiveness is very important for human development. After all, having learned to forgive, we learn to better understand and perceive this world, and as a result, see more opportunities in it!

By learning to understand the actions of other people, to realize that they often cannot act differently because they were raised incorrectly in childhood, you will be able to treat them with compassion. This means it’s easy and simple to immediately forgive their unseemly behavior. This way you can forgive your parents too.

Often people cannot forgive someone because they have buried the offense deep inside themselves. The resentment remains, it lives inside a person, bringing him illness or suffering, but he may not even remember anything about it. This subconscious protects a person, preventing him from remembering the offense, so as not to suffer.

Many girls write to me that they have no grudges, and they have forgiven everyone a long time ago. In fact, they often have grievances, but their subconscious does not allow them to be remembered. After all, forgiveness can only happen if a person has forgiven with all his soul, consciously agreeing with this fact, and allowing his subconscious to change the program of forgiveness to compassion and gratitude. Just the conscious understanding that I forgave everyone a long time ago and don’t hold grudges is NOT ENOUGH! After all, in addition to consciousness, a person also has a subconscious. And when consciousness and subconsciousness live in harmony, the soul does not contradict them.

To find out if you really have grievances, go to the mirror and say: “I love you,” “I really love you (your name).” If at these words you experience rejection, rejection or other unpleasant feelings, it means that you have grievances that do not allow you to show self-love.

If, while pronouncing these words, you feel a protest within yourself, it means that you have claims and grievances towards yourself. We get so used to constantly making claims against ourselves and being regularly offended that we no longer notice this uncivilized behavior towards our personality. But the habit of being offended and making claims against oneself does not come out of nowhere. Our parents instilled it in us by regularly offending us, and then we completely became one with it, first being offended by our parents, and then starting to be offended by ourselves.

In this case, you can forgive yourself, calm down and start living in harmony with yourself only when you forgive your parents. By beginning to treat your parents with compassion and gratitude for all the lessons they taught you, you can begin to treat yourself with compassion and gratitude. Only in this case can you begin to show one hundred percent love for your own imperfect person.

By making progress in forgiving your parents, it will be easier for you to forgive yourself.

Forgiving ourselves is extremely important. Many of us continue to do the same harm to the child within us that their parents did to them as children.

If you still can't believe it, check it out. Remember, how often do people around you (your friends, work colleagues, your husband or children) criticize you, do not want to accept your shortcomings, or make complaints against you? If you often observe this behavior in other people, you will definitely be able to notice it in yourself. You see, the people around you just reflect your behavior towards themselves. If you are dissatisfied with yourself for some reason, they will be just as dissatisfied with you. If you still scold yourself, the people around you will also scold you.