In my articles I have already discussed the issue of how to deal with jealousy, but today we will talk about jealousy in a different way.
If before this we perceived jealousy as a serious threat to the relationship, as something influencing from the outside, then today we will talk about what gives rise to jealousy, and only after that we will be able to somehow protect ourselves from this destructive feeling.
What is jealousy? Jealousy is a consequence of our fears, and if we are afraid of something, it means that it is something very important to us. Thus, to get rid of jealousy we need to reduce the importance of our fears. What is a jealous person afraid of?
He is afraid that someone else will be preferred to him. He is afraid that he will be left alone, die alone, will not meet his love and no one will love him. A person is afraid that they will hurt him, betray him and not meet his expectations.
So how can we reduce the importance of all these circumstances so that we stop being afraid and, How consequence, stop feeling jealous?
In fact, everything is much simpler than it seems. First of all, we need to deal with our fears
Fear goes away as we begin to actively act. In addition to action, we need to accept defeat in advance, i.e. try to imagine that you have already lost this person, try to play out in your head the scenario of your breakup due to betrayal. At first glance, this seems absurd and it becomes scary: “How can this be? Why would I think about this? To get this in the end?!”
We need to force ourselves to plunge into such circumstances, thereby experiencing the pain of loss more acutely and... calm down. Even if the mind sounds the alarm, these feelings will already be played on the strings of the soul and will no longer represent the unknown, which is always frightening. But on a subconscious level, having come to terms with the loss, we will reduce the importance and fears will disappear.
After all, we are truly afraid of what we have not yet seen, what we do not know. The fear of betrayal is generated by the fact that we have never been in such circumstances with this person and we have no idea what will happen after this, how to behave. But as soon as your mind replays the scenario of the worst outcome of your relationship in your head, it will become much easier for you, albeit on an unconscious level.
After you have played out the scenario of defeat and come to terms with it, begin to be proactive in strengthening your relationship. External control over the life of your loved one will not help you. You will not be able to control your partner’s life outside your home, but you will be tormenting yourself to the fullest.
The work of strengthening relationships is to increase the credibility of your couple. What is credit of trust? — A credit of trust exists in every couple and it is different for each couple. To increase your credibility, you don't need to try to get a star from the sky. All you need to do is start trusting each other unconditionally and without complaints.
Just learn to trust your loved one, control your actions and thoughts towards him, provide him with love and support without dependence and any conditions.
In addition to the importance we attach to our fears, we must reduce the importance in relation to ourselves personally. I'm not saying now that we shouldn't love ourselves and allow ourselves to be treated with disrespect, no. Just try to switch your attention from your person to the one who is nearby.
Think about his interests and his desires, take part in his life and just stop waiting for a catch, wait for trouble and betrayal, be afraid of being offended and start showing sincere sympathy for your half.
Another interesting point that I would like to note is that until recently I very often talked about how important it is to gain self-confidence and use this tool in the fight against jealousy. Try to understand and remember: self-confidence is a fickle phenomenon. Our self-confidence is influenced by various circumstances and situations, other people, and our own psycho-emotional state.
Talking about how can you improve your self-confidence, we again come to where we started and it makes sense to talk about the importance. How are importance and self-confidence related?
Let's go backwards. The fact is that self-doubt is born of our complexes, and our complexes depend on how much importance we attach to them. The more often we think and talk about our shortcomings, we look at them, the greater their importance for us and the weaker our faith in our own strengths.
In order to reduce the importance of our shortcomings, we need to switch our attention to our strengths, and before that we must honestly admit to ourselves that there is something about ourselves that we are not happy with. We looked, recognized the fact of the existence of imperfection and allowed ourselves this luxury - to have flaws.
Every person has the right and opportunity to become better, both externally and mentally. We can correct our external features, because today there are a considerable number of means and tools to achieve, so to speak, our ideal of beauty. We can also fill our inner world with new useful and interesting information every day. All this should lead us to achieving complete harmony and unity of soul and mind.
The unity of soul and mind will ensure charisma, charm and attractiveness. Feeling our attractiveness, which will be traced in the positive reaction of the people around us, we will begin to love ourselves, and our self-confidence will increase, and there will be fewer reasons for concern and worry in love affairs. As a result, the credibility of the relationship with our other half will also increase.
By secret…
You can learn about pendulums on your own if you read Vadim Zeland. In his book “Reality Transurfing” he describes in detail the principle of operation of a pendulum.
To put it in our own words, a pendulum is a kind of energy information carrier that reacts to a surge of negative emotions and appears where a conflict situation is likely to occur in the near future. It influences a person in such a way that he inflames the conflict and, as they say, makes a molehill out of a molehill.
The more often a person plays with a pendulum, the more dependent he becomes on it. The more often a person shows negative emotions, becomes depressed, gets tired and tired, complains about life and considers it a living hell, the more chances the pendulum has to take over your unconscious mind and make life actually look like a nightmare.
We need to get rid of the influence of pendulums.
This summer has been special for me for several reasons. Firstly, I entered this summer with my little beloved man in my arms. I had to reduce my productivity and devote more time to caring for my baby. And secondly, I again actively took up my self-development, once again, but in more detail, having studied everything related to transurfing.
Relatively recently, I began to live according to his laws and my life changed overnight. The psycho-emotional state has moved to a qualitatively new positive level. I stopped feeling guilty, stopped paying attention to my shortcomings and stopped this pointless struggle with them, I basically stopped fighting life and it stopped being a “difficult thing” for me.
I now take any circumstance for granted, I react to it completely calmly, with gratitude, I immediately find in it positive points and I live on without fighting the flow of life. At the same time, I consciously control my movement and direction in this flow.
I sincerely wish this for you too.
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When a person is born and grows, he has a lot of new feelings. He puts up with some, abandons others over time, and some will arise from time to time. For example, jealousy. How to deal with this feeling? Find the answers below.
What is jealousy
A person can get rid of something only after he can establish the cause. After all, as you know, there is no point in fighting the investigation. Although some actively practice this with jealousy. What is this feeling? Jealousy is a feeling that occurs in a person when his loved ones give their attention to someone else. At this moment, resentment and suspicion arise in the soul that we are not loved, not valued, not respected.
Usually jealousy is a one-time feeling. It occurs when a partner flirts with a “dangerous” competitor. And that's quite normal. But if the feeling overwhelms you on a daily basis, you should think about how to deal with jealousy.
Kinds
- Resentment towards the past. This is one of the most common types of jealousy and, admittedly, the stupidest. Girls are jealous of their chosen ones for their ex-wives and children. But a person who has made mistakes in the past no longer has the opportunity to change them. Children cannot be thrown out either from the heart or from the head. They remain with a person forever. And you need to understand that if a man takes care of his child and maintains a warm relationship with him, then this is commendable. There is enough love for everyone. But many girls don't understand this.
- Mirroring. This type of jealousy mainly affects unfaithful husbands. They cheat on their wives and look at their mistresses. It seems to them that if they are capable of betrayal, then their significant other may well commit treason.
- Tyranny. People are all selfish. Some to a greater extent, others to a lesser extent. And it’s terrible when a person does not leave free space for his other half. He sincerely believes that if he is everywhere, in his head and in his field of vision, then it will be impossible to commit treason. But it is precisely this kind of excessive care that leads a person to infidelity.
- Lack of love in childhood. Unloved children are afraid that this will happen all their lives. They grow up and become very suspicious. They feel like they are simply unworthy of love.
- Alcoholism is a disease. And as a result, it often leads to jealousy of the drinker. In a state of intoxication, a person is capable of many things: beatings and rape. In this way, he tries to drown out his inferiority, pouring it out on his loved ones.
Causes
- Fear of loss. A person suffering from a feeling of inferiority is often jealous of his significant other. It seems to him that everyone around his partner is better than himself. As a result, there is a fear of losing a loved one.
- Fear of loneliness. A person is afraid that he will remain alone and will never find anyone better. In this case, excessive guardianship and imposition of one’s own candidacy may arise.
- Fear of what people will say. An inferior person is always afraid of being worse than others. He tries to appear strong and self-confident outwardly, while cats are scratching at his soul.
Men's opinion
According to statistics, representatives of the stronger sex cheat more often. But this does not mean that they are less likely to experience feelings of jealousy. After all, even when all the attention is focused on his mistress, the man still manages to think about his wife. After all, representatives of the stronger sex often commit adultery in order to refresh their feelings. They don't want a divorce, they just need to make sure they commit right choice. A jealous wife in this case is an indicator of quality for them. Many people cheat in order to bring newness into the relationship. The quarrel and the reconciliation that follows can bring new passion and support love.
When asked how to deal with jealousy, men prefer not to look for an answer. It’s easier for them to keep everything to themselves, and then pour out their feelings during a quarrel. Why is this happening? Men believe that by expressing their uncertainty about a woman's fidelity, they appear weaker. Therefore, it is easier for them to experience everything inside.
Women's opinion
The phrase “jealous wife” can be heard quite often. Why? Women argue that they are not afraid to open up about their emotions. Therefore, as soon as a girl suspects her chosen one of cheating, even if it is completely unfounded, she will tell him everything she thinks. We must give women their due, because they rarely ask themselves how to deal with jealousy. Girls are creatures that rely on their emotions. Therefore, when they have a feeling of jealousy, it is an indicator for them that the man they care about is in danger, and a competitor can take him away.
At this moment, thoughts begin to arise in a woman’s head about how to return her chosen one, and not how to get rid of a harmful, and possibly unjustified, feeling. A jealous husband is almost a godsend for any woman. Girls like it when people take care of them, call them often and show signs of attention. And if this does not cross all boundaries, then such relationships will be stable and strong.
Experts' opinion
But psychotherapists do not always believe that the saying “being jealous means loving” is true. After all, there are many other explanations for this feeling. Lack of self-confidence is one of the most common reasons for jealousy. It must be said that it has nothing to do with love. It's more like a little boy jealous of his favorite toy that his neighbor took from him. Moreover, he doesn’t really want to play with her at the moment. Just the feeling that someone will have your property haunts you.
A jealous husband is not always a gift, experts say. A man who cannot control his emotions and starts a scandal for any slight flirting with a former classmate is not the norm. Girls in a fit of love cannot always discern in a man the tyrant he will become as soon as the stamp appears in his passport and the rose-colored glasses fall off.
How to deal with jealousy? The psychologist's advice is as follows: increase your self-esteem and come to terms with the idea that no one belongs to you. Every person is free to do what he wants. And if your significant other decides to cheat, then she will commit it, despite all the surveillance and prohibitions.
Is jealousy normal?
Any feeling that a person has can be considered normal. You just need to be aware of why it appeared. After all, only by finding out the causes of jealousy can you fight its consequences. Yes, being in the situation itself, it is not always possible to analyze it impartially, but this can be done later, at home. The main thing is not to cause trouble right away. For example, your spouse is flirting with some girl at a friends party. There is no need to go to him and make a scandal.
Nothing to occupy your thoughts? Try to remember the situation thoroughly. Take a picture of the girl in your head, remember her behavior, and if you are standing next to her, you should pay attention to what she says and how exactly she does it. Then think about what could attract your husband or boyfriend about her. Maybe she's pretty, or maybe she can carry on a conversation that you can't. In this case, you should improve your knowledge in the area of interest of your spouse or go to a beauty salon to improve your appearance a little. In general, you should understand that jealousy that arises from time to time is normal. The main thing is to learn to understand yourself and find its true cause.
Does being jealous mean loving?
Realizing that the feeling is normal, many girls will remember the old saying. This is not to say that she is not truthful. Rather, there is a half-truth behind it. If you are jealous from time to time, then this is normal and even pleasant. Self-esteem rises. Now imagine that after each outburst of jealousy there is an interrogation with biases. Your partner begins to go into hysterics about “you don’t love me at all and don’t understand my feelings.”
If this is repeated every week, such quarrels will bring nothing but irritation. There is no talk of love here. In this situation, you should understand that the person considers you property. If no arguments help, feel free to leave. Jealousy is not always a manifestation of love; often tyranny is hidden under it.
Does jealousy happen without reason?
This is an interesting question, and it can definitely be answered in the affirmative. Yes, some people are prone to jealousy for no reason. How to deal with this? The most logical option is to instill self-confidence in your partner. After all, only a very downtrodden person needs constant confirmation of love. Normal relationships are built on trust. But if it is absent, jealousy begins, even groundless. Talk to your significant other more often. If your life partner knows where and with whom you spend time, and most importantly, has the opportunity to verify this information, he will become much calmer.
How to deal with your jealousy
As you already understand, there is no point in eliminating the effect; you need to deal with the cause. And jealousy can have many reasons. And if this feeling visits you every week, you need to have a psychotherapy session. Sit back and think about why you are haunted by the fact that your significant other periodically flirts with someone other than you. Perhaps you don't consider yourself beautiful? Then go to the hairdresser and take a make-up course. And if it seems that intellectual development not up to par, start reading books. What to do if you are jealous not because of low self-esteem? Then you should talk frankly with your chosen one. Perhaps the feelings have cooled down, and he openly admits it. Then you should rekindle your old love by adding more romance to the relationship.
How to deal with other people's jealousy
If understanding yourself is a rather difficult task, but doable, then someone else’s soul is always in the dark. Of course, if you have known a person for many years, then the cause of jealousy will be easy for you to determine. But if the relationship is just starting, it will be difficult to force your partner to open up. Only frankness can help here. And it will only work if two people want to get closer.
If a partner is embarrassed by his feelings, which he considers shameful, he may close himself off. In our country it is not customary to use the services of a psychotherapist. So try talking to your significant other's friends and parents and find out why jealousy occurs. And then think about whether it’s worth raising his self-esteem or whether you should just behave more modestly. After all, perhaps it is you who really give rise to constant jealousy. And this, it should be noted, is also clearer from the outside.
Pathological jealousy - what is it?
This concept describes severe cases of mental illness. Typically, a person who suffers from pathological jealousy is mentally ill. This may be a consequence of drug use, alcoholism, or simply mental disorders due to stress. How to deal with pathological jealousy? You cannot help a person on your own. You should consult a specialist. He will prescribe treatment, which will include both a course of psychotherapy and the necessary medications. And if a person is dangerous to society, then he will be placed in a psychiatric hospital.
Surely each of us at least once in our lives, at least towards someone, has experienced a feeling of jealousy. Typically, jealousy is a one-time feeling, and occurs when a loved one pays increased attention to a promising rival or flirts with him. Jealousy in this case is a completely normal reaction. loving person.
Everyone is jealous - from young to old... Someone first felt all the bitterness of the feeling of jealousy back in childhood towards their parents, when another child appeared in the family. And jealousy does not leave him for the rest of his life. But for someone this feeling comes only when they are given a reason for jealousy.
In general, jealousy is an extremely unpleasant, destructive feeling both for those who are jealous and even for those who are jealous. It brings unimaginable suffering to those who are jealous: along with jealousy, first come feelings such as distrust of oneself and others, anger, a person loses control over himself, he cannot reason sensibly, build correct conclusions, emotions take over the mind, which may even manifest itself later in uncontrollable aggression, rage.
Over a certain period of time, jealousy exhausts a person so much that he gives up, despair, powerlessness sets in, a sense of responsibility and respect for his partner and himself are lost, and a feeling of hopelessness arises.
Therefore, it becomes simply necessary and important not to miss the moment when you can still fight the overwhelming feeling of jealousy, when all your strength has not yet been lost in order to fight jealousy without waiting for its destructive impact on relationships and on the personality as a whole.
Do you need to fight jealousy?
First of all, recognize your right to be jealous, accept the fact that you are not an ideal person in everything, and that experiencing jealousy is quite normal for absolutely every loving person in this world. This is a very important psychological moment. Thanks to this understanding and acceptance of jealousy as such, you create an attitude not to fight this feeling, but only to internal changes in your way of thinking, behavior and relationships. Thus, the psyche will not need to find strength in the reserve to fight jealousy, but the person will have to look for himself.
When should you deal with jealousy?
If jealousy does not bring you and your partner emotional discomfort, does not destroy your harmony and does not disrupt your mutual mental health and well-being, then you can sometimes allow jealousy to stir up your bland everyday life a little.
It is possible and necessary to fight jealousy when your loved one becomes more and more angry from your manifestations of jealousy, when your jealousy causes you both suffering and you are tormented by doubts, thereby generating distrust in your loved one.
Decide to finally and irrevocably conquer jealousy. There should be no retreats. If you decide to fight jealousy, then you must definitely achieve your intended goal, for example, improve relationships in order to maintain love and trust, and you also need to note the intermediate results of your mutual metamorphoses.
Try to determine the cause of jealousy. Any feeling that a person has can be considered normal. You just need to be aware of why it appeared. After all, only by finding out the causes of jealousy can you fight its consequences.
Jealousy appears where doors are open for it. Therefore, there is always a reason... But you should not look exclusively for one reason, for example, in the defiant behavior of your partner. Jealousy arises on fertile soil.
Do some self-reflection and acknowledge your responsibility for your jealousy. Tell your chosen one about your assumptions, doubts and experiences. It will definitely be easier for you to fight jealousy together.
We have compiled a rough list possible reasons emergence of jealousy.
Subjective reasons for jealousy
The main reason is the unconscious fear of loss. Fear of being abandoned, betrayed, rejected, deceived, used, unable to keep a loved one. If this fear of loss is great, it ultimately destroys the love and relationship with the partner. The mechanism of a self-perpetuating prophecy begins to move: what I fear happens to me.
If you are afraid of betrayal, you will be betrayed; if you are afraid of deception, you will definitely be deceived. Jealousy is also based on this mechanism. And the mechanism is that you, with your sometimes unfair and undeserved accusations, push your loved one to take very real actions. But the reason for jealousy is not in you or your partner, the reason is much deeper.
Other reasons for jealousy
Self-doubt and distrust of your partner, dissatisfaction with sex, lack of attention, understanding and communication in relationships, too loving behavior of your chosen one with people of the opposite sex, as well as jealousy as a means of defense or attack.
How do you still deal with jealousy? So, you have found the reason or reasons for your jealousy - this is already half the way. Next, based on the reason, you must determine what you lack in the relationship, what you need to work on with your significant other to maintain the relationship. Analyze your behavior in situations where jealousy arises, discuss the feelings that arise, and you will be amazed that it turns out that you cause a lot of pain and suffering with your jealousy not only to yourself, but also to your loved one.
If you are jealous: how to deal with your jealousy?
If your relationship is really very dear to you and you do not want to lose your chosen one, then you will have to honestly admit the fact that your jealousy arose because you are not entirely confident in yourself and are afraid that your partner will prefer a more handsome, smart, rich, etc. the list can be continued endlessly.
There is no need to endlessly look for shortcomings in yourself and criticize for any reason, otherwise the fight against jealousy will be lost. Just be yourself, play to your strengths, and learn to accept yourself in different situations.
Self-confidence comes when we see and know that our personality is significant. To do this, find an area where you can express yourself and get the boost you need now to reinforce your self-esteem and self-confidence. In addition, you will be a little distracted from such sometimes obsessive thoughts about treason or betrayal.
It is also necessary to combat jealousy by accepting such important basic principles in any normal relationship as respect for the personality of the partner, respect for his personal boundaries and the right to freedom. This means that no one belongs to you, you are not the owner of your loved one on the simple basis that you love him and live together, in general, on any basis.
You must clearly understand that any control and prohibitions not only limit your partner’s rights, but also infringe on him as a person, and sooner or later he will want to break out of your strict framework and restrictions.
So, the first thing is to respect your partner as a person. The second fundamental basis against jealousy is self-respect, which will help you maintain your dignity in the face of your loved one and not create scandals or hysterics out of nowhere.
This leads to the next piece of advice that will help you fight jealousy: self-control. Jealousy causes too strong emotions, which jealous people sometimes cannot cope with. Therefore, self-esteem combined with the ability to control yourself will help you maintain relationships and your feelings.
And finally, fighting jealousy can be done better together. Be frank with your loved one, tell them what you are worried about, what you doubt. If you are offended by your loved one’s overly friendly behavior with people of the opposite sex, ask them to behave more modestly, admit that this is unpleasant for you, tell us about your fears, etc. The main thing here is not to blame, not to insult, and not to attribute more to your partner’s behavior than it actually is; be fair, because you are also not a holy person.
How to deal with your partner's jealousy?
Try to find out the real reason the occurrence of jealousy towards you, what caused it. If it is difficult for you to establish this reason on your own, call your chosen one for a frank conversation. The main thing is to listen to his feelings and experiences, not to be stubborn and also admit partial guilt for this jealousy. Go for rapprochement if you really value your relationship and your loved one.
Cultivate self-respect. You are not property or a thing that now belongs to someone. Do not give in to your lover's attempts to prohibit you from communicating with anyone, or to monitor your location every hour. Clearly determine for yourself how much these attempts may border on tyranny or despotism towards you. And before it’s too late, immediately say that you will not tolerate such an attitude towards yourself, and do not tolerate it.
Help your significant other fight his jealousy. If he says that he doubts your sincere feelings, show more feelings. If you see that he has low self-esteem, which is why he is jealous of every dangerous rival, assure him that there is no reason for jealousy, indicate the importance of your loved one to you and support his self-esteem.
You can and should fight jealousy, take action!!
Jealousy is a negative, and in most cases, painful and painful feeling that occurs in a person if he feels a lack of attention or love from his partner.
Along with such a wonderful feeling as love, jealousy comes - this is a feeling that devours from the inside, rage, hatred. We often hear the words, loves, means jealous. We see these two feelings as two sides of the same coin. But this is not so, jealousy has nothing to do with love. She destroys him, destroys trust, respect, sympathy, relationships, family, kills the person himself.
How to overcome this feeling that destroys a person’s personal happiness?
You can often hear phrases like:
-I'm sick of love.
- Love breaks free.
- I don't have enough air.
Yes, jealousy is the same disease as, say, the flu or a sore throat - you need to get over it, although getting sick is the hardest thing... After all, our body is controlled by the brain, and it, in turn, is connected with the psyche. The deviation affects the functioning of all organs of the human body. Jealousy is a whole system of feelings, which includes anger, resentment, and mistrust. Emotions caused by jealousy destroy a person's life. This does not make it possible to live a full life and perceive people taking into account their pros and cons. First of all, jealousy “hits you on the head”, mental disorders and aggression begin. It’s not for nothing that they say that jealousy is the “poison of life.”
Jealousy is a completely natural phenomenon. Every person experiences this feeling. Whether this is good or bad, let's try to figure out the reasons. Why does this disease appear?
Excessive hold on the relationship. Or, in other words, a sense of ownership.
Unfortunately, this phenomenon is very common. A person automatically registers his other half as private property. The person feels like a puppet. First of all, you need to put aside thoughts about the fear of being rejected and abandoned. You need to fight with yourself, and not throw aggression at your loved one.
Something like this attracts. If you think about another man (woman), you subconsciously begin to be jealous of your other half because you think that he does the same. This phenomenon has such an ability to transfer its thoughts to the people around it. Therefore, this is only your problem, try to be honest with yourself.
Diffidence. A person is capable of introspection. Sometimes self-analysis leads to unpleasant consequences primarily for yourself. Every morning, looking in the mirror, we notice what shortcomings that lead to self-doubt. Therefore, we think that a partner is looking for prettier, sexier, smarter. These emotions, feelings begin to eat from the inside, this is reflected in your relationships.
You need to value yourself, learn to love yourself as you are. After all, every person is special, unique. The main thing is to be yourself and believe that you deserve the best.
Loss of trust in a loved one. Most of all, this reason can influence because of the partner’s past. But it is better to remember the phrase “what has happened is past.” We live not for yesterday, but for today, so it is better to leave everything behind, build pure relationships for life, be jealous and earn yourself a number of psychological disorders.
Lack of attention. Since childhood, we have become accustomed to maternal affection, attention, and tenderness. Therefore, we carry these feelings further through life and want to continue to receive them. Therefore, we need to receive them from our partner. When we see that attention is being paid to friends, a cat, a parrot, jealousy begins. There is no need to do this, it is better to talk and put everything in its place.
Sexual dissatisfaction. This occurs quite often in families who have lived under the same roof for many years. Everything seems to be in order, but then one night my wife refuses. It seems nothing, but the situation repeats itself. This eats into a man’s pride, thoughts of betrayal immediately come to mind: “After all, everything is fine, but here I don’t satisfy her, so someone has appeared!”... This sometimes leads to a breakup. Maybe the reason is not this, but biological nature. Therefore, it is better to talk with your other half and go to a specialist.
There are many reasons for jealousy, these are just the most well-known. Below are some tips to help you get rid of it.
Trust comes first. Trust your loved ones, because it is uncertainty that destroys relationships. If you don’t want to, then such a relationship needs to end.
Forget about control. Men especially do not like control when they are told what to do, where to go. Be more affectionate.
Love yourself. Men like it when a woman is a woman: well-groomed, beautiful, gentle. She should look like a Queen.
Get busy. Good deeds distract from bad thoughts. Perhaps this will bring great success and you will gain respect from your loved one.
Talk to your partner more often. If you have any doubts, talk to your loved one and sort everything out.
Spend more time together. Going to the cinema, restaurant, theater will bring you closer together. But not on the day when he gets together with friends.
If all else fails, consult a specialist. A psychologist is not a mother or a friend. He will provide you with qualified assistance and help you sort out your relationship.
Shakespeare once described in his play a green, dirty monster that eats a person from the inside. It was jealousy. It is this kind of monster that sits inside us and prevents us from being happy.
If you want to be happy, healthy, smiling, then it's time to tell yourself - jealousy is interfering with my life, love, health. Love, appreciate your partner, live without this nasty feeling. Love and be loved!