Training of child-parent relations. Topic: "How we feel each other"
The article belongs to the section: Working with parents
“To punish in Russian means to teach.
You can only teach by example.
Retribution with evil does not teach, but corrupts.”
L.N. Tolstoy
The birth of a child into a family is a serious challenge for parents. Mastering and shaping the role of father or mother is the most important task personal development during the period of growing up and testing the strength of family relationships.
One of the areas of work of a psychologist working in a kindergarten or school is interaction with the family in order to create optimal conditions for the development of the child. Parents turn to a psychologist for a variety of issues. Among them there may be quite simple ones that can be resolved in informational and advisory form. Sometimes one meeting between a psychologist and a family is enough for the problem to be solved. At the same time, there are situations that require the psychologist to spend a long time painstakingly studying the problem, establishing contact with the family, and correcting deformed relationships within it.
The modern situation forces families to live at an accelerated, stressful pace. Many problems arise: housing, material, etc., and often communication between parents and children occurs only in the form of information exchange. But the process of communication is also emotional, physical contact, mutual experience, mutual influence, interaction.
Parents' attention often focuses only on the child's studies, achievements and problems, but not on the growing person himself.
Sometimes it turns out that parents underestimate their role in the development of the child’s character. In those families where adults express dissatisfaction on every occasion, reprimand children for minor offenses, and forbid many things, children become secretive, get used to being dissatisfied, gloomy, and fearful.
Often the family uses a rude tone, a sharp shout, which causes a pronounced protest in the child. In a family where one of the parents, and especially both, suffers from alcoholism or drug addiction, there is never a calm environment, which traumatizes the child’s psyche. Children growing up in such families are always oppressed, frightened, and painfully experience the vices of their parents, especially since they are almost always deprived proper care, healthy balanced diet.
The mood of adult family members, their actions, and relationships with each other directly affect the formation of the child’s communication skills. The rules of behavior and communication with adults are learned by the child in various situations on the street, in transport, in a store, in a theater and other public places.
Analyzing my own experience of working with parents, I came to the conclusion that one of the main problems presented is the problem of emotional interaction in the family.
Based on this, I believe that one of the tasks of family counseling today is to establish emotional relationships in the family.
As an example of a form of work in this direction, I offer training on child-parent relations “How we feel each other.”
Purpose of the training – harmonization of emotional ties in the family.
Tasks issues addressed during the training:
Create conditions for emotional closeness between family members;
Train participants in the skills of self-expression of feelings and emotions;
Teach training participants ways to relieve emotional stress, be able to find a way out of negative emotions without causing harm to other family members;
To develop feelings of empathy in each of the training participants;
Develop emotional support skills in children and parents.
Duration of classes: 3 classes (3 days).
Lesson duration: 2 – 2.5 hours.
Participants: 3-4 families - older children preschool age with parents.
Methods of work used in the training: play therapy, body-oriented therapy, art therapy.
For a long time, people have been compiling the coats of arms of their family from various symbols, which in a laconic form reflect the philosophy of life, the main value of the family - everyone in parent-child pairs is invited to draw their coat of arms and tell about it what it symbolizes. Write your life motto next to the coat of arms. The peculiarity of this exercise is that drawing should be done together, because it forces you to concentrate on the main and general things that children and parents value and value in life.
The use of various team games helps relieve tension, both emotional and physical - “In the mirror store”, “The dragon bites its tail”, etc.
A necessary component of the training session is relaxation, after which all participants draw. And then there is a discussion and display of drawings.
Drawing using one pencil. The choice of pencil, the general drawing, the signature of the drawing - all this must be done by mutual agreement, and after that, comment on the feelings and emotions that were experienced during the execution. Was it easy to act together, or maybe, on the contrary, difficult?
During the classes, participants are asked to solve several family situations, and maybe even role-play them, but not in the usual way - parents act as children, and children act as parents. Further discussion takes place.
I really like, especially children, the game “Natural Artists”, where the drawings are made not with brushes, but with fingers, palms, elbows, legs, cheeks, and nose. An important point This game is that parents need to work on their fears and prejudices and allow themselves and their children to liberate and gain a sense of freedom and joy.
An analysis of such forms of work by a psychologist with a family showed that parents like to play with their children, they like to “fall into” childhood and remember its joyful moments, although, as dads more often admit, this is not easy to do at the beginning, there are barriers - awkwardness, “A what will others think of me.”
During general reflection, parents and children discover a lot in common, parents understand their children better, and children are grateful to their mothers and fathers for this, their eyes glow with love and joy, which means that the goals set by the psychologist during the meeting have been achieved!
The words of gratitude from the training participants to the psychologist motivate me to improve my work, to search for something new and interesting, and for this it is worth creating.
Parent-child relationship training
“HOW WE FEEL EACH OTHER”
1 DAY
1. Design of badges
Materials: Thick paper cards, pins, markers.
All participants are invited to write any game name on their card: real, fairy tale character, fictional. You can suggest choosing the name that a person would like to have in life.
2. “Irina is interesting”
All participants are asked to state their name and an adjective starting with the same letter as your name. (Parents help their children - tell the reason for choosing a name for their child).
Note: the presenter helps in choosing adjectives. This exercise will give you an idea of the current state of the training participants.
3. Exercise “Family coat of arms and anthem”
Materials: paper, paints, brushes, water, felt-tip pens, colored and simple pencils, eraser.
The presenter tells the participants that for a long time people have been making up the coats of arms of their family from various symbols, which reflect in a laconic form the philosophy of life, the main value of the family. Participants in parent-child pairs are invited to draw their coat of arms; it does not have to be something specific, it can be a combination of colors, geometric shapes, color spots, etc.
Then all the drawings are laid out in the center of a circle on the floor and the presenter invites everyone to tell about their coat of arms and what it symbolizes. In this case, it is necessary to ask the participants about their feelings while talking about their coat of arms (when all the participants have spoken, suggest to the group if they want to change something in their coat of arms).
Next to the coat of arms you are invited to write your life motto. The motto should be brief and reflect the essence of life aspirations, positions, ideas or goals of the family.
After completion of the work there is a discussion.
Note: drawing must be collaborative. The image of the coat of arms and motto forces one to concentrate on the main and general things that children and parents value and value in life.
4. Exercise “Find your mother”
Instructions: The child is blindfolded with a scarf. The participating mothers sit on chairs in a row. The child, gradually walking around the row, must find his mother by touch. All participants play. The opposite can be suggested to parents, sir. eyes closed find your child.
Participants are first offered the role of a “parent”, and then they change roles with their children - they play the role of a “child”, and their children play the role of a “parent”. The exercise is good to perform while sitting on the carpet.
(Lullaby music sounds).
“Parents rock their beloved child to sleep. First, mom or dad gently hugs him to herself and looks at him with a kind smile. Mom or dad strokes the child’s body, starting from the head, then strokes the arms, the child’s body, gradually moving down to the feet, looks at the child, affectionately and lovingly, rhythmically swaying to the right and left with music.”
At the end of the exercise, there is a discussion of the roles, which of the participants liked which role more and why.
6. Exercise - energizer “In the mirror store”
“There are a lot of mirrors in the store. A man walked in with a monkey sitting on his shoulder. She saw herself in the mirrors and thought that they were other monkeys, and began making faces at them. The monkeys answered her in kind. She shook her fist at them, and they also threatened her from the mirror, she stamped her foot, and all the monkeys stamped their feet. Whatever the monkey did, everyone else exactly repeated its movements.”
All participants need to play the role of a “monkey” and the role of a “mirror”.
7. Exercise “The dragon bites its tail”
All participants stand one after another in a chain and hold tightly to the waist of the player in front. The first is the “head” of the dragon, the last is the “tail”. The “head” must catch its “tail”.
Note: each participant must be the “head” of the dragon.
8. Exercise “Conversation with a tree”
Leading. I want to offer you a trip to the kingdom of trees... Sit back and close your eyes. Take a few deep breaths... Imagine a forest through which you are wandering. It's a beautiful spring day. The sky is blue, the sun is shining brightly. You are walking through a very large forest. There are a variety of trees here: coniferous, deciduous, large and small.
Somewhere in this forest there is one tree - this tree will talk to you, only to one of you. This tree would like to be your friend. Take a better look around and find your own tree. Come close to it and put your ear to the trunk. Do you hear how the sap flows upward through the rings of the tree? Listen very carefully to the voice of the tree. What does his voice sound like? Like a quiet whisper? How light is the bell? How is the sound of the stream? Is this voice cheerful, like Mickey Mouse, or serious, like the voice of an elderly person?
Maybe it wants to ask you to do something for it. Maybe he will be glad that it was you who visited him. Perhaps your tree will tell each of you that one day you will become big and strong like it. Maybe the tree would like to help solve your current problems... (15 seconds).
When you hear what the tree wanted to tell you, give me a hand sign - raise your hand.
Remember what the tree told you. Remember also that the tree is as alive as you. Now say goodbye to the tree... go back. Stretch and be here again, cheerful and rested... take a piece of paper and draw your tree.
After that, everyone shows their drawings and talks about what the tree told them.
9. Homework
The facilitator invites group members to find out what their name means, where it came from, what legends are associated with it and how it affects life.
10. Reflection
DAY 2
1. Design of badges
Materials: pre-prepared cards made of thick paper, pins, markers, tape.
Write your real name on the card and talk about what it means.
3. Exercise “The Blind Man and the Guide”
“Parent – child” participates. One of the participants is blindfolded if desired. He is “blind”. The second one will be his driver. Every player takes part.
As soon as the music starts, the “guide” will carefully lead the “blind”, letting him touch various things - large and small, smooth, rough, prickly, cold. You can also bring the “blind” to a place where objects emit odors. You just can’t say anything at the same time.
When the music turns off after a while, the players switch roles. And when they return to the circle, they talk about what they experienced during the walk.
4. Exercise “Tumbler”
The required number of participants is three, preferably parents and a child. Two people stand at a distance of a meter facing each other. The legs stand steadily, the emphasis is on one. Hands are extended forward. A third participant stands between them with his eyes closed or blindfolded. He is given the command: “Don’t take your feet off the floor and feel free to fall back!” The outstretched arms catch the falling person and direct the fall forward, where the child meets the outstretched arms again. This swaying continues for 2–3 minutes, and the amplitude of the swaying may increase.
Warning: children with severe fears and timidity can perform the exercise with their eyes open; the amplitude of the swing may be minimal at first.
5. Exercise “Don’t want to”
“Most of us know how to be obedient and efficient people. Today we will learn a little how to be naughty, or rather, to say “no” with different parts of our body. We will do the exercise together, for the first time I will show you myself. Let's start with the head. To say “no” with your head means to intensively shake your head in different directions, gradually increasing speed, as if you want to say “no, no, no.” Now let’s try to repeat “no” to our hands, wave in front of us first with our right hand, then with our left hand, and then with both together, as if we want to refuse, push off. Next let's move on to the legs. Kick first with your right leg, then with your left leg, then alternately. Try to put strength into every movement. You can also add a voice. Try to shout “no” louder and louder for every movement.”
6. Exercise “Conversation with one pencil”
Materials: sheets of A3 paper, pencils, felt-tip pens.
Participants divide into pairs, preferably with someone they have not been with before, choose one pencil between them by mutual agreement, take a sheet of paper, sit separately and, at the leader’s sign, draw a general drawing, holding the pencil with their right hands. Then you need to sign this drawing, choosing a name together.
7. Role-playing game “Situations”
The training participants are divided into three teams.
Instructions: “Now each group will receive a card that describes a situation that can be lost. Read it. I suggest you role-play this situation, but not in the usual way - parents will act as children, and children will play parents.”
Each group plays out the situation after the playback - discussion.
Questions for discussion:
What was happening?
What do you think about this?
It's like what happens in your family
How did you feel in a role that was unusual for you?
Situations:
“The child began to be capricious and cry over every little thing. When mom (dad) returned home from work, the child began to follow her (him), not allowing her to do household chores, whining, asking for something incomprehensible, and refusing to eat. Mom (dad) quickly found a way out of this situation...”
“The child returned from kindergarten home. He had troubles in kindergarten - there was a conflict with a peer that escalated into a fight. At home the following conversation took place with him...”
“Today is a holiday, everyone is dressed up and cheerful. The noisy, talkative, lively, cheerful Sidorov family comes to visit. Adults do the cleaning festive table. Children play, dance, run, scream, fight, and mess around without adult supervision. In the bustle, one child knocks over the Olivier salad with chicken. The child’s mother angrily remarks that she did not expect the child to ruin the holiday. The wise grandfather saves the situation, he says...”
8. Exercise “Self-esteem”
Leading. Can you tell me how you notice that someone thinks you are good? How does your mother, your father, your husband, your wife, your son, your daughter show this to you?
Sit comfortably and close your eyes. Breathe three times deeply... now go mentally to that place. Which one do you think is the most wonderful? Take a good look at it. What do you see there? What do you hear? What does it smell like there? What do you want to touch there? (15 seconds).
Soon you will see two people who value and respect you, who are happy when you are with them, who know how attentive you can be to people and how kind...
Look around and you will see these people approaching you to show that they think you are good... (15 seconds).
Listen to what they have to say...
Talk to the person who came to you. Ask him if he would talk about how he feels about you...(15 seconds).
Now say goodbye to the people who came to you and prepare to return here again cheerful and lively. Stretch and open your eyes...
Can you tell us about what you experienced? Who came to you? What did this man say? Have you been able to thank him for treating you this way?
9. General reflection
DAY 3
1. Design of badges
Materials: thick paper cards, pins, markers, tape.
All training participants are invited to choose a new game name for themselves. Moreover, children name their parents, and parents name their children. Then everyone introduces themselves.
2. Exercise “Let's say hello”
All participants stand in a circle. It is suggested to choose a way to say hello as much as possible a large number participants in different ways: words, smile, elbow, knee, back, hip, forehead.”
3. Exercise “Box of Experiences”
Leading. I brought a small box today. I propose to send it around in a circle to collect our unpleasant experiences and worries. You can say this in a whisper, but definitely in this box. Then I will seal it and take it away, and with it, let your unpleasant experiences disappear.
4. Exercise “Tapping massage”
Leading. I offer you a fun warm-up game. Divide into pairs and choose who will be number one and who will be number two.
The first numbers should kneel, lean forward and rest their heads on their palms in front of them. And the second numbers should kneel to the side of the first and begin to gently tap their fingers on the back of their partner. This tapping sound should be similar to the light clatter of a horse's hooves while jogging. Start this tapping from the shoulders and gradually move along the entire back to the waist. You need to tap alternately with your right and then with your left hand (2 minutes).
Now switch roles.
5. Exercise “Circle of Communication”
Participants share the rhyme: “Mommies - babies” into two circles. The inner circle - “mothers” - close their eyes, stand facing the outer circle - “children”. “Children” move clockwise around “Mommies” and stop at the signal. The exercise is performed silently.
Exercise:
1. Communicate with each other with your hands:
Say hello;
Dance;
Fight;
Make peace;
Say goodbye.
2. In front of you is a small, crying child who is upset about something. Have pity on him.
3. You met good friend who hasn't been seen for a long time. Show him how glad you are to see him.
Reflection.
6. Exercise “Natural artists”
Materials: honey paints, saucers for mixing paints, sheets of A3 paper, old newspapers, oilcloth, wet and dry napkins, soap, water.
To complete this task, parents must work on their fears and prejudices.
Take a large sheet of paper or a piece of old wallpaper and place it on oilcloth or newspaper. Place saucers with liquid paints in front of the players. Allow yourself and your child to paint not with brushes, but with fingers, fists, palms, elbows, legs, cheeks, and nose. You can choose any subject for the drawing: “Leaves are falling”, “Traces of unseen animals”, “Fantastic planet”, “Multi-colored mosaic”.
Note: after the exercise, it is advisable to wash yourself well, remembering the liberation and feeling of freedom and joy that everyone felt.
7. Exercise “Pyramid”
Everyone sits in a circle. The presenter says: “Each of us loves something or someone, but we all express our love differently. I love my family, my children, my job. Tell us who and what you love (stories follow).
Now let's build a “pyramid of love” from our hands. I will name something I love and place my hand, then each of you will name what he loves and put his hand on top of mine. (all participants build a pyramid). Do you feel the warmth of your hands? Are you pleased? Look how tall the pyramid we have turned out to be. And all because we are loved and know how to love ourselves.”
8. Exercise “Chamomile from palms”
Materials: Whatman paper, felt-tip pens.
Trace your palm on whatman paper and write your name in the center (parents help children write). Place your palms on whatman paper so that they form a daisy. In the center of your palm, write a wish to someone present.
9. General reflection
Prerequisite: the discussion takes place over a general tea party (Appendix 1).
Training participants are awarded symbolic Gratitude (Appendix 2).
Possible questions for reflection:
What new things did you buy?
How are you going to implement your achievements?
Anna Soboleva
Summary of child-parent training “How we feel each other”
How we feel about each other.
The purpose of the training is to harmonize emotional ties in the family.
Tasks solved during the training:
emotional and physical rapprochement between parent and child;
train participants in the skills of self-expression of feelings and emotions;
to develop feelings of empathy in each of the training participants;
develop emotional support skills in children and parents;
development of social interaction skills.
Greetings.
"Hello!"
Greeting in a circle using any part of the body (arm, shoulder, nose, cheek, etc.)
Main part
Exercise “Family in the form of a house” (N. B. Kedrova)
Materials: sheets of paper, markers, pencils
Instructions: “Draw a house where each family member is some part of it (i.e. someone is the walls, someone is the roof, and so on)
Discussion: then everyone (optional) talks about their home. What kind of walls does it have, what are they made of? What kind of roof and so on.
Note. After this, you can introduce participants to a brief interpretation of this drawing. Every detail of the house introduces us to the family role of family members from the point of view. author of the drawing.
The foundation is the foundation. This is the person who has the hardest time in the family; everyone puts pressure on him.
Walls are a load-bearing structure. The whole house rests on this family member.
The roof is a feeling of security.
Pipe - care, creation of comfort, coziness.
The door is a contact regulator, but also an opportunity to leave at any time.
The windows are the person for whom this house is being built. Remember the expression “light in the window”? It is optimal if there are children in this place.
Exercise “Find your mother”
Instructions: children are blindfolded with a scarf. The participating mothers sit on chairs in a row. Children take turns, gradually walking around the row, by touch they must find their mother and stand behind her. All participants play. The opposite can be suggested to parents - to find their child with their eyes closed.
Exercise “Blind Man and Guide”
The goal is emotional and physical rapprochement between the child and the parent.
Instructions: This exercise is performed by the child and parent together. One participant is blindfolded, the other takes him for a walk (for example, into the forest along a winding path with obstacles). Both must remain silent.
As soon as the music starts, the “guide” carefully leads the “blind” around obstacles and tries to provide him with as much experience as possible: touch, smells, etc. You can also lead the “blind” to a place where objects emit odors. You just can’t say anything at the same time.
When the music turns off after a while, the players switch roles. And when they return to the circle, they talk about what they experienced during the walk.
Exercise “Non-childish prohibitions”
The participating mothers sit on chairs in the center of the circle. Children say what they are not allowed to do is what participants most often tell their child. At the same time, mothers tie a ribbon around the part of the body that was affected by the ban. For example: “Don't shout!” – the mouth is tied, “Don’t run” – the legs are tied, etc.
After all participants have spoken, those sitting are asked to stand up. Since they cannot stand up, they need to be untied. To do this, each participant approaches the ribbon that he tied and lifts the ban, that is, he says what can be done. Thus, the essence of the ban remains. For example: “Don’t shout – speak calmly.”
Reflection
Reflection of a participant playing the role of a child:
– How did you feel when your “parents” shackled and limited your freedom?
– Which part of the body did you feel the most acutely?
– How did you feel when you were asked to stand up?
– What did you want to untie first?
–Is it easy to find words that allow you to reformulate the prohibition?
– How do you feel now?
Reflection of participants playing the role of an adult:
– What feelings are you experiencing now?
Host: It is known that there are no ready-made recipes for education. How an adult should act in a given situation is up to him to decide. However, you can play out difficult situations, like in a theater, discuss them and try to understand what the child is experiencing in a particular case.
The child’s ideas about the world have not yet been formed, and his life experience is negligible. Our task - the task of adults surrounding the child - is to help navigate a world that is still incomprehensible to him, to explain what is dangerous and impermissible, and what is acceptable and even necessary for the baby. Who, if not an adult, will protect the child, warn against dangers and at the same time teach him to understand the endless “don’ts” and “dos”! To teach this to children, parents themselves need to be well versed in this.
Exercise “Conversation with one pencil”
Materials: sheets of A3 paper, pencils, felt-tip pens.
Participants are divided into pairs, choose one pencil between them by mutual agreement, take a sheet of paper, sit separately and, at the leader’s sign, draw a common picture, holding the pencil with their right hands. Then you need to sign this drawing, choosing a name together.
Meditative fairy tale. T. Zinkevich-Evstigneeva “Golden Ball” (about positive child-parent relationships).
The goal is to create an image of positive parent-child relationships: images brought through a fairy tale can subsequently become spiritual guidelines.
Exercise “Compliment”
We say goodbye in a circle, paying a compliment to the participant standing next to us.
Publications on the topic:
Summary of child-parent leisure time “Journey to Childhood” (children 6–7 years old with ODD)
Objectives: Cognitive: to develop in children and their parents an interest and value-based attitude to joint activities. Correctional and developmental:.Summary of the parent-child club “My Dad is the Best”“My dad is the best” Goals: To promote the development and cohesion of parent-child relationships, to develop the continuity of children’s work.
DEAR MOMMY, MY MOMMY! GOAL: To promote the development and cohesion of parent-child relationships, to develop continuity of work.
Summary of the parent-child educational project “Wonderful Basket” for middle group children Type of project: creative. Duration: short-term (weekly) Educational area: familiarization with the environment, speech development.
Summary of the parent meeting “Basics of parent-child relationships” Goal: to attract parents into the educational space of the kindergarten, to expand knowledge about the relationship between the child and adults in the environment.
Summary of the parent meeting in the form of training “Speech Features of Early Childhood” Summary of the speech at parent meeting on the topic: “Features of speech development in young children” in the second group of the early period.
AGE
I'm 50 years old and I don't hide it. Why stupid coquetry? To be young, in my opinion, is monstrous, even if you are always 30 in your soul. And if you try to “pull yourself up”, you won’t be able to play a girl anyway. Now there are a lot of non-surgical methods - hyaluronic acid, beauty injections... I am grateful for the years I have lived, and now also with attention. Now I have two for 25, and Russian people, as you know, love 2 for 50!
STRONGER GENDER
A man may well earn less, even be weaker than a woman in some ways, but most importantly, he must remain worthy. I know a lot of couples in which the roles are distributed exactly like this. They are all happy. It is important to complement each other. There is only one man in my life - my husband. Twenty-three years ago Lesha saw me in a play at the Satyricon Theater, fell in love and literally took me off the stage. Both are not angels. I am very explosive, Alexey is calmer. No matter what, we are one gang. As the children will say: “A rare couple.”
FAMILY
Everything I do is for the sake of my family: my husband, daughters, mother... They are my everything. I love comfort. How nice it is to return home from a tour, and there is a laid table waiting for you with your favorite people - buckwheat porridge, sauerkraut, fried potatoes, pickles, sour cabbage soup... My husband loves to cook. I admit, now only Lesha is in the kitchen. By the way, he is the only one who is far from creativity. An aviation engineer by training, he is engaged in business.
CHILDREN
The daughters are already independent. I myself flew out of my parents’ nest early. The youngest, Marusya, is 22 years old and is a fourth-year student at VGIK. He is already filming his fourth film. Nastya is 29 years old. She freelance artist. At first I was interested in scenography, then I switched to another specialty - theatrical costume design. Her debut will take place soon: she is preparing outfits for a production at the Stanislavsky Electrotheater. I also took a photography course. In general, both are not slackers.
CHARACTER
From the outside I seem to be an optimist, but in reality I am a terrible alarmist and pessimist. I constantly lament that nothing will work out: “Oh, mom, don’t go to the play today, there are some shortcomings...” Averin also heard enough while working on the one-man show. He says: “Leave me alone! Everything will be fine". This probably happens because of a terrible lack of confidence in oneself.
WORK
She started earning money at the age of 14. Mom Olga Velikanova, director of the Stanislavsky Theater, threw up hack work. During Christmas trees she played the Snow Maiden, and I portrayed a bird or a snowflake. And so on for twelve days in a row. I remember how I received my first fairly large salary. I went and bought shoes and jeans. My friends were jealous and said how practical I was. I always tell my daughters Nastya and Marusya: you can’t sit idly by, you need to constantly develop and work hard. Then everything will work out.
GLORY
Everything in life was difficult - with obstacles and not the first time. I never thought that I would become an actress. It's been a hard journey. There are a lot of projects in the arsenal that are nasty, uninteresting, primitive, and of low quality. But I wasn’t shy about working in them. Someone will say: “Oh, these serial actors...” I think there is no need to show off in the profession. Now I have the audience’s love, now all I have to do is earn trust. In general, as Tatyana Vasilyeva said: “An actor must fail with big roles. This is very hardening..."
FRIENDSHIP
People change. Over the years, you wonder how not to lose your loved ones. As a child, in kindergarten or camp, everyone cries when they part. Parties and affairs begin in youth. With age, claims and grievances arise. And that's when the relationship can end. Everyone has not only pros, but also cons. If you love, then you must try to accept both. I have five girlfriends, we have been together since school. We don't communicate every day. One lives in Cyprus, the other in Israel. But three will definitely be at the evening. As for Maxim Averin, he is already a member of the family. We feel each other subtly. Sometimes such things are accidentally born on stage that we ourselves are surprised: how?! I think it's chemistry.
Instructions
When people fall in love, all their feelings become focused on the other person. They begin to love the music that their loved one listens to or watch movies or programs with them that they would never watch themselves. Love – and these are not empty words, because changes occur at the neural level in the brain. Love makes a person receptive, and during the period of the most ardent relationships, people get used to such things in each other that would be difficult to get used to if their tender feelings did not bind. It is at this time that some special ability to feel a partner is born.
You can remember physics. At school, teachers told us that if you compress two plates of different metals and press them firmly against each other (usual hand strength, of course, is not enough) so that the distance between them becomes small at the molecular level, then the particles that make up the metals will begin to penetrate from one plate to another. For people, love is such a force. So it turns out that people in love begin to understand each other instantly; one or a slight change in facial expression is enough for them to understand what is happening with their partner. And some, as they say, are able to feel each other at a distance!
If feelings in your couple have cooled down a little, it may seem that the old understanding has gone away, and that no one is treating your partner as carefully as before. But if you think about it, does that mean it's important to you? Mutual understanding can always be established again, and the ability to feel each other will return. To do this, try to pay more attention to your partner. Listen to him. For many people, it is extremely important to speak up, but often if they feel that they are not being listened to, they will simply shut up. And someone, on the contrary, starts chatting incessantly. This is also a peculiar reaction: a person may not be aware, but the basis of his behavior is panic that he is not being noticed. So he tries to throw out as much as possible, talks and talks, just to say at least something.
How to learn to listen? Listening does not mean sitting blankly next to you while your partner tells their stories. Listening is when you take in everything that is said to you. This is the ability to sympathize and empathize, this is the perception of information not only with the ears, but also with other senses, when you read between the lines, hear what the person did not tell you directly, but what he is thinking about.
With an attentive attitude towards each other, mutual understanding in a couple and the ability to feel each other only increase over time. Some people who have lived together for decades seem to no longer need words at all; they seem to know how to exchange thoughts. Unfortunately, in modern world Such couples are becoming increasingly rare.